Wife taking surname

Tabbytabitha

consumers_revenge wrote: »

From 2 online sources...


One large study 2013 into 13,000 brides found that 80 per cent of women take their partner’s last name, while research published in 2004 revealed that women have rejected using their partner’s name since the rise of feminism in the mid-1970s, but that trend began to slow down in the 1990s.


The fact that a woman’s maiden name is even called a “maiden name” is evidence that this practice is antiquated at best. Unfortunately, a woman not taking her husband’s last name is still viewed as abnormal, deviant behavior in the US. This is supported by the fact that around 90% of American women still take their husband’s last name at marriage


but what to I know lol

Well, that's the U.S. for you - always at the forefront of social progress!

ViolaLass

consumers_revenge wrote: »

From 2 online sources...


One large study 2013 into 13,000 brides found that 80 per cent of women take their partner’s last name, while research published in 2004 revealed that women have rejected using their partner’s name since the rise of feminism in the mid-1970s, but that trend began to slow down in the 1990s.


The fact that a woman’s maiden name is even called a “maiden name” is evidence that this practice is antiquated at best. Unfortunately, a woman not taking her husband’s last name is still viewed as abnormal, deviant behavior in the US. This is supported by the fact that around 90% of American women still take their husband’s last name at marriage


but what to I know lol

The fact that many choose to do it doesn't mean that they require/hope it of everyone else.

I chose to take my husband's name for non-traditional reasons. They are personal to me. There is evidence in this thread that my actions should not be taken as an indication that I think everyone else should do the same as me.

Zandoni

Tiglath wrote: »

If it's your family, fair enough. If it's another family, it's none of your business. Simple really.

Don’t give you point of view then, it’s none of your business either, simple really.

The OP would think it’s rather strange though as he asked for people’s opinions.

consumers_revenge

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Well, that's the U.S. for you - always at the forefront of social progress!

is the independent a US paper then?

michelle09

A 2016 YouGov study showed that 59% of women in the UK intend to take a husband's surname after marriage and 61% of men still want them to. It's a majority, yes, but it's not a huge one. Definitely not abnormal or deviant to want to keep their own.

(https://yougov.co.uk/news/2016/09/13/six-ten-women-would-like-take-their-spouses-/)

The OP asked for opinions in a poll where 85% think it's entirely fine that his GF wants to keep her name if they get married. Surely if the OP feels that strongly that their names be the same he should be the one to change? Then the family still has the same surname if that is really important to him.

consumers_revenge

No the original poll ( and may be not worded that well for the pedantic ) as to basically see as 2 people had different views if either still looked at as the norm ( I should no it was me that created it, and hence the 2nd poll to try and correct it )


I didn't say she had to have my name just wondered what other peoples opinions were ( it wont sway my better half or me tbh and we can both feel how we want )


Good news is that were to be married anyway once the pre nup is sorted.


Thanks for everyones opinions and thoughts in this thread.

Zandoni

michelle09 wrote: »

The OP asked for opinions in a poll where 85% think it's entirely fine that his GF wants to keep her name if they get married. Surely if the OP feels that strongly that their names be the same he should be the one to change? Then the family still has the same surname if that is really important to him.

That would be a bit odd for the kids who already have the OP’s name.

Ames

consumers_revenge wrote: »

No the original poll ( and may be not worded that well for the pedantic ) as to basically see as 2 people had different views if either still looked at as the norm ( I should no it was me that created it, and hence the 2nd poll to try and correct it )


I didn't say she had to have my name just wondered what other peoples opinions were ( it wont sway my better half or me tbh and we can both feel how we want )


Good news is that were to be married anyway once the pre nup is sorted.


Thanks for everyones opinions and thoughts in this thread.

You know pre nups aren't legally binding in this country, right?

consumers_revenge

its a joke....

Tabbytabitha

consumers_revenge wrote: »

is the independent a US paper then?

As you couldn't be bothered to attribute your quotation it could've come from anywhere and it certainly talks about American women taking their husbands' name.