Own my own property and boyfriend wants to move in temporarily to save money

Attila_the_Bun

Malthusian wrote: »

Washing shared, housework shared? The OP didn't say her boyfriend is a character from a 1940s sitcom.

You find me a household where the household chores and cooking are genuinely shared 50-50 Male-Female and I'll find you a sober Irishman on March 17th.

onomatopoeia99

Malthusian wrote: »

Can't say I have much legal experience with this - but my impression was that if A moves into B's house and starts paying part of B's mortgage, and there is no express agreement because they don't really know what they're doing, if the relationship breaks down, B will have to buy A out.

Not sure how shared understanding can come into it. Once the relationship has broken down, A will say they understood they were paying the mortgage together and B will say they understood A was paying rent.

They are paying rent, just as they would have to if they were a lodger or on an AST, not paying "part of the mortgage", unless both parties understand the payment to be for that purpose.

If there is a disagreement about the nature of the payments, it's for a court to decide.

LandyAndy

Attila_the_Bun wrote: »

You find me a household where the household chores and cooking are genuinely shared 50-50 Male-Female and I'll find you a sober Irishman on March 17th.

Better start looking for that Irishman. :beer:

Attila_the_Bun

LandyAndy wrote: »

Better start looking for that Irishman. :beer:

Well I don't have any statistics on drunken Irishmen, but I'll let the figures regarding division of labour within the home speak for themselves

PeacefulWaters

If you really aren't ready for him to move in with you then tell him that.

maman

Attila_the_Bun wrote: »

You find me a household where the household chores and cooking are genuinely shared 50-50 Male-Female and I'll find you a sober Irishman on March 17th.

You're welcome to call round anytime. DH will explain to you how his Dyson works.
P.S. Please don't call too early as he'll be cooking my breakfast.

Attila_the_Bun

maman wrote: »

You're welcome to call round anytime. DH will explain to you how his Dyson works.
P.S. Please don't call too early as he'll be cooking my breakfast.

Any comment from you vis-a-vis the actual ONS statistics on the subject?

...thought not

tykesi

Attila_the_Bun wrote: »

Any comment from you vis-a-vis the actual ONS statistics on the subject?

...thought not

Yeah, because "official" statistics ALWAYS give a 100% accurate view of a situation.

Get a grip.

Attila_the_Bun

tykesi wrote: »

Yeah, because "official" statistics ALWAYS give a 100% accurate view of a situation.

Get a grip.

Well, the people who say I'm lying or exaggerating have gone strangely quiet when presented with FACTS as opposed to a few one-sided anecdotes which can't be backed up.

Just sayin'

MallyGirl

They are a guesstimate at best - no one has ever asked me that question and so I am not represented in those figures.
I cook the most (DH isn't great at it) but DH does any cleaning necessary and I ironed 2 shirts this week and had to have a sit down (this brought my total ironing for the year to 2 shirts).