Returning Christmas presents to sender?

cyantist

Paddy's mum - I'm inclined to agree that once you ask if they want them back then we could be making things worse.

I have no doubt that one of the reasons they have blocked us on social media is so they can b*tch and moan about us and if we asked if they wanted the gifts back I can only imagine what they'd say about that!

I definitely think my daughter shouldn't suffer, and can have her gifts and hopefully someone else will enjoy the ones that were meant for us. Bonus is that what we had bought for them I secretly wanted myself!

I don't think we have done anything bad red-squirrel, and over the years have done a lot more for them than most people would do for their friends despite some inappropriate behaviour from her a couple of years ago, which I overlooked because, you know, they were our friends and the friendship was more important.

richardw wrote: »

The simplest is to return them.

The problem with this is we them look like mean parents who are denying our daughter the gifts that were bought for her, just because the adults in question have fallen out

maman

cyantist wrote: »

I really don't find it normal, and I'm quite surprised at their behaviour. I've never come across this sort of thing before and I too find it very juvenile and immature. Obviously people do sometimes fall out but to block contact like that is what I'd expect from my 10 year old niece and her friends, not fully grown adults. In fact that's an insult to my wonderful niece who I know for a fact is more mature than that!

Apologies but although I use social media (obviously otherwise I wouldn't be posting on here:o), it's not the centre of my world and you seemed very familiar with it. I agree that all this talk of blocking and bit**ing to other saddos who bring drama into their lives through facebook sounds pathetic.


Do you really want them as friends?


I still think acceptance and a brief thank you note is the best way forward.

cyantist

maman wrote: »

Apologies but although I use social media (obviously otherwise I wouldn't be posting on here:o), it's not the centre of my world and you seemed very familiar with it. I agree that all this talk of blocking and bit**ing to other saddos who bring drama into their lives through facebook sounds pathetic.

Do you really want them as friends?

I still think acceptance and a brief thank you note is the best way forward.

I barely use social media at all, I am only even on twitter so I can follow updates from TfL on my tube line which makes it even sillier that she has blocked me on there.

The more I think about it, I'm not sure I do want them as friends even if they were to contact us wanting to make amends. It seems a shame after 12 years of close friendship but sometimes it takes that long to see people for what they really are.

And I agree, a brief thank you is the best way to proceed. Thanks!

richardw

cyantist wrote: »

...The problem with this is we them look like mean parents who are denying our daughter the gifts that were bought for her, just because the adults in question have fallen out

I think your daughter is likely to have a lovely Christmas, irrespective of the number of presents.

indsty

Maybe hold on to them for the time being but leave them unopened. It may be they will turn up demanding them back and it would then be simpler just to hand them over and go your separate ways. After a few months you could just assume they are yours.

Personally I would write a short note saying thank you for the gifts but you realise they may now feel they do not want to gift them and would they like to collect, or have them returned?

AndyPix

cyantist wrote: »

She has removed herself from group chat and unfriended/unfollowed us both on various social media accounts.

AH well that's that then if you have been oficially unfriended

pearl123

You could also give them to charity.

Attila_the_Bun

I'd love to know what the tiff was about that's caused all this

Ziggazee

Ooh it all sounds very overly dramatic. Tbh, I'd just let sleeping dogs lie. They gave you the presents, just leave it at that. I doubt they'll even have given it a second thought.


Social media does seem to be the modern way to throw wobblies these days doesn't it. Reminds me of a former friend of mine. I'd known her since school (over 30 years) and we worked together very recently. One very stressful day at work we had words - I thought nothing more of it, it was just one of those things, both stressed out, clients pestering, etc. She went home that night, blocked me AND MY HUSBAND on Facebook....and made her husband do the same. Hahahahahahahahaha!

Attila_the_Bun

Ziggazee wrote: »

Ooh it all sounds very overly dramatic. Tbh, I'd just let sleeping dogs lie. They gave you the presents, just leave it at that. I doubt they'll even have given it a second thought.


Social media does seem to be the modern way to throw wobblies these days doesn't it. Reminds me of a former friend of mine. I'd known her since school (over 30 years) and we worked together very recently. One very stressful day at work we had words - I thought nothing more of it, it was just one of those things, both stressed out, clients pestering, etc. She went home that night, blocked me AND MY HUSBAND on Facebook....and made her husband do the same. Hahahahahahahahaha!

Every Internet Fight, Ever:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK6_tjizu_g

Watch what happens when the gate goes back..