Overbearing overspending parent

ska_lover

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Because it's a waste!!!

Yes it is, but it doesn't effect any one else, its the ladies money to do with what she wishes - so none of anyone else's business

ska_lover

Why is there such a desperate clamouring need to be a victim these days

It is the done thing these days to make big drama where there is none

Marvel1

ska_lover wrote: »

Yes it is, but it doesn't effect any one else, its the ladies money to do with what she wishes

It affects the OP as they have to get rid of the stuff or store them (my house is small I have no-where to store and hide stuff).

ska_lover

Mojisola wrote: »

Because mother is buying stuff that isn't needed and making her child feel bad.

Hmm you can't make anyone feel anything. Unless she has superpowers. He is not seeing the good intention in all this, because he chooses not to..a persons reaction to a situation is purely their own choice

Unless obviously we are talking about a person who blames Mother for everything wrong in his life

The OP is making himself feel how he feels. The mother is trying to do something nice for him

ska_lover

cjdavies wrote: »

It affects the OP as they have to get rid of the stuff or store them (my house is small I have no-where to store and hide stuff).

I doubt he will need an extension for that slow cooker

svain

Mojisola wrote: »

Because mother is buying stuff that isn't needed and making her child feel bad.

Would you really go on buying presents for someone who had told you again and again that they didn't want the things you were buying them?

Its once a year for goodness sake .... Unless the mum is spending thousands upon thousands of pounds that she cant afford this really is a non-issue and the OP should just embrace it, show appreciation and thank his mum.

ognum

There is a problem with a relationship when one party says I don’t want a lot spent on me and another person insists.

It does matter that this lady is wasting her money, this is a money saving site and her money could be better spent by giving it to the homeless or needy than buying unnecessary rubbish.

The OP should make better suggestions. A meal voucher, a charity subscription, a supermarket voucher or a trip he can do with his mum.

I have stopped buying the standard gifts for my family and friends, we all have way to much stuff in our lives and generally don’t want the stuff others buy so unless there is a specific gift request then a restaurant voucher, National Trust membership or another treat that I know the recipient wants but no stuff.

Perhaps the OP can suggest this to his mum.

seven-day-weekend

ska_lover wrote: »

Yes it is, but it doesn't effect any one else, its the ladies money to do with what she wishes - so none of anyone else's business

It is, it's the OP's business, if it's him she's wasting it on.

He needs to suggest things he DOES want, even if it's a charity donation.

Here's a fun one that also does good:

https://www.toilettwinning.org/twin-your-toilet/

iammumtoone

OP have you spoken to your sibling? Do they want/like the amount that is spent on them, maybe they are feeling the same as you?

If you could aproach your mother together and explain you both would like less spent on your this may help.

Marvel1

ska_lover wrote: »

I doubt he will need an extension for that slow cooker

It has to go somewhere in the kitchen, I have a small kitchen, it has to be stored somewhere when not in use. Myself I don't have the space.