“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

117pauline

Hi WF

Just spent as couple of hours catching up. Sorry I haven't popped in for ages.

Here's something to ponder on - decisions are hard to make when you are emotional. Unfortunately the important decisions tend to have to be made when we are emotional.

Whichever decision you make will be made for the good. But even if you don't think you have a right, you do. So the good has to be for ALL of you. You are the lynchpin so your happiness is vital.

If you do a pro's and con's list, I would suggest you also note down what each will add or subtract to your lives. So, for example, sharing childcare, would mean you had fewer demands on your time. However there might be several ways this could be achieved. I hope you can understand what I mean because I haven't explained it very well at all.

Take care honey, I promise to pop in regularly
Pauline

WannabeFree

Thank you US - I can talk alot as you've probably found out :rotfl:

Thank you Pauline

x

WannabeFree

I have some things to eBay, although friend hasn't really been in contact lately who's account I was selling on. Maybe I will ask mum :cool: Not sure yet. Only a few items but every penny helps.

I've given in tonight and the smalls and their Dad are having take away for dinner. I'm too tired to disagree

They are in the bath then can have take out and a story before bed.

I need to go to town really tomorrow. I've been saying it for nearly 3 weeks

I've been playing with spreadsheet numbers again for far too long. I can't decide how to balance the debt repayments/overpayments and getting the things for the house. I feel guilty spending on the house when I have debt.

beanielou

Well the good thing now is that you only have the two debts.
You are in a much better position than you were.
So you can do some of your housy bits and bobs

HairyHandofDartmoor

Hope you feel less tired tomorrow Wannabe. Maybe a trip to town would do you good?

Sun_Addict

Really good that another holiday is on the cards You need breaks from day to day life more than most xx

WannabeFree

Morning,

Smalls Dad not in work today so he can come to town with me (force me to go)

£26 to council tax and £25 to rent arrears today. Some other bits and pieces paid and all the normal bills done for another week. £40 sent to EF.

Need to meal plan and do a grocery shop. Also need cleaning/toiletries. Still an area I'm unsure of a reasonable budget.

I'm still feeling low and struggling to keep up with how fast things are moving in real life. I had a chat with a friend last night. Still doubting whats going on but feel I have to try this way and give it a go. I think I need to make sure I'm giving it 100% for it to be a true test, it is however moving at a pace I feel is too fast.

monz

That is some list but I know you can do it xxx

Suffolk_lass

WannabeFree wrote: »

Morning,

Smalls Dad not in work today so he can come to town with me (force me to go)

£26 to council tax and £25 to rent arrears today. Some other bits and pieces paid and all the normal bills done for another week. £40 sent to EF.

Need to meal plan and do a grocery shop. Also need cleaning/toiletries. Still an area I'm unsure of a reasonable budget.

I'm still feeling low and struggling to keep up with how fast things are moving in real life. I had a chat with a friend last night. Still doubting whats going on but feel I have to try this way and give it a go. I think I need to make sure I'm giving it 100% for it to be a true test, it is however moving at a pace I feel is too fast.

If you are not happy with the pace, you need to say so hun. You have seen this before and it didn't end well. The nightmare of changing all your benefits to reflect him being there is reason alone to make sure you are sure, let alone the emotional impact. You matter too, it isn't just other people x

beanielou

Hope that managed to make it into town.
If you dident, there is always next week.