am I getting depressed?

iammumtoone

OP do you have a trusted friend/relative.

I would go back to the doctors and take someone with you, who can listen to what is being said and relay it back to you at a time you are less stressed and more likely to understand.

I am not sure you took in fully what the doctor was explaining, not your fault its most likely to do with the stroke.

Regarding the payment for work done, is it normal for you to accept goods rather than money, its not something that is usually done. You say they are business clients do you keep accounts for your business, get some advise how this effects that side of things.

Tabbytabitha

choille wrote: »

Oh, what a nasty stressful thing to post.

The man is in a stressful situation as he's had a lot happen to him and wondered if he was depressed. Reading your post is depressing and I wouldn't think a useful post at all.

Glad you have been to the Docs OP. The posture will help as it can improve breathing and circulation and health.

The councilling sounds a useful thing to get - hope it is soon for you.

You sound like a good Dad and that is nice.

That's a quite ridiculous reaction to my very good advice. Avoiding another stroke is far more important than being depressed and should be his main concern.

Hopefully his doctor will have advised him on the lifestyle changes he should make to enable him to look after his health.

choille

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

That's a quite ridiculous reaction to my very good advice. Avoiding another stroke is far more important than being depressed and should be his main concern.

Hopefully his doctor will have advised him on the lifestyle changes he should make to enable him to look after his health.

Does everyone have to sit up straight when you give your 'very good advice'?

Tabbytabitha

choille wrote: »

Does everyone have to sit up straight when you give your 'very good advice'?

People can take or leave advice from anybody but I don't understand why a third party would see the need to criticise fairly obvious, mainstream advice because for some reason they think it stressful.

If the OP had been diagnosed with lung cancer, would you suggest he has another fag to help him relax because you believe that being depressed is more important than the effect of smoking on his physical health?

hollydays

But we do have a responsibility to read threads and offer supportive and appropriate advice or encouragement, the op hasn’t been diagnosed with lung cancer

Tabbytabitha

hollydays wrote: »

But we do have a responsibility to read threads and offer supportive and appropriate advice or encouragement, the op hasn’t been diagnosed with lung cancer

But he has had a stroke which has a similar correlation to smoking. Someone who smokes 20 cigarettes a day is 6 times more likely to have a stroke than a non smoker and a smoker who has a stroke is twice as likely to die. (Information from The Stroke Society, apologies for not being able to do links.)

I don't understand how you can think this advice is inappropriate, unless you weren't aware of the facts. I felt it the best advice to give him in his situation and I'm surprised it's considered to be controversial and unhelpful.

surveyqueenuk

OP has an acquired brain injury and, unsurprisingly, does not appear to be enjoying good mental health.

This isn't the time or the place for a lecture. The poor guy is clearly distressed and has reached out for help. He's in no fit state to succeed at quitting. Did you know that psychiatric patients are permitted to smoke on the hospital grounds? That's because it is recognised that people need to be on an even keel before they can even consider stopping.

In any case, don't you think he's heard this all before, from his consultant?

This man needs help and support, not a wagging finger.

Tabbytabitha

surveyqueenuk wrote: »

OP has an acquired brain injury and, unsurprisingly, does not appear to be enjoying good mental health.

This isn't the time or the place for a lecture. The poor guy is clearly distressed and has reached out for help. He's in no fit state to succeed at quitting. Did you know that psychiatric patients are permitted to smoke on the hospital grounds? That's because it is recognised that people need to be on an even keel before they can even consider stopping.

In any case, don't you think he's heard this all before, from his consultant?

This man needs help and support, not a wagging finger.

I made a simple comment, not a lecture - I've only said more because of other's comments. I find your negative attitude to his giving up smoking to be quite shocking, I hope you never have to see the consequences of that attitude either here or IRL.

pearl123

OP - has an acquired brain injury due to his stroke.
He can't help the way he is expressing himself.
One of the most important things he can do for his health is stop smoking.
My father had numerous mini strokes and consultants were very clear about stopping smoking asap.
I suggest OP tries Niquitin Lozenges or patches. They really do work.
He could also try and find a Headway group in his area.
https://www.headway.org.uk/

hollydays

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

But he has had a stroke which has a similar correlation to smoking. Someone who smokes 20 cigarettes a day is 6 times more likely to have a stroke than a non smoker and a smoker who has a stroke is twice as likely to die. (Information from The Stroke Society, apologies for not being able to do links.)

I don't understand how you can think this advice is inappropriate, unless you weren't aware of the facts. I felt it the best advice to give him in his situation and I'm surprised it's considered to be controversial and unhelpful.

You aren’t a doctor.
It’s clear the op has some other issues at the moment .
Other priorities .
Have you considered those..

I think the op is doing fine.
I wish them well