am I getting depressed?

obay

For the last 3 months, I have been battling with all but nothing, I'll start out by explaining what happened.

On our wedding anniversary I had the unfortunate fact of having a young driver (just passed her test) crash into us, completely wrecked our car and it was written off, I know it sounds rubbish, but I had a very good attachment to this car, that I might have said I wanted to get rid of it and whatnot, I really didn't, It was a wonderful car to drive. I grew fond of it.

Sadly, she was gone, (it was not my first car, but the car I held the longest).

Initially, I thought a bit of upset because the young girl who hit us just pretty much ruined her life from the onset, but that was that, it was not about her, she was on her mobile phone anyways.

After this, just shy of two weeks after I managed to have my self a stroke, that did change me, but not only me my wife was still struggling with the fact that we got hit, she had a lot of pains still does.

So, had the stroke, given a few pills here and there, monitored and patched up and ready to go within around 4 days.

This is where all this comes from, sometimes I hate waking up because of the way my wife is treating me, she shouts and screams until she has that shower in the morning to wake her self up, it's getting a bit unbearable, I knew before I married her she was not a morning person at all, I knew that the 'pill' did things to her that she tried to reject, It made her very angry. She came off this around 4 years ago.


She is killing me being here, It's not the fact that I am a lazy person or nothing; I do work at home and most of my time is looking after my child now she is working, (only part-time) she has lost weight and eventually got her head around a few things, but still, I know it's not right.


I do not know what else to do here, I'm getting more upset each day, she says 'I love you' quite a bit but I don't feel like saying it back at points.

On top of all this, she has asked for some GHD's, the problem is that I do not want to give up anything because of my child he is my rock, I've just taught him how to sit on the toilet.

On top of this, I am not much of a drinker, I've not really drunk too much, but to get out of the way, I am smoking a lot more... a pack of 20 a day... instead of my normal 8.

Can anyone help me? I know it's a jumble here and stuff, but please help.

Tabbytabitha

obay wrote: »

For the last 3 months, I have been battling with all but nothing, I'll start out by explaining what happened.

On our wedding anniversary I had the unfortunate fact of having a young driver (just passed her test) crash into us, completely wrecked our car and it was written off, I know it sounds rubbish, but I had a very good attachment to this car, that I might have said I wanted to get rid of it and whatnot, I really didn't, It was a wonderful car to drive. I grew fond of it.

Sadly, she was gone, (it was not my first car, but the car I held the longest).

Initially, I thought a bit of upset because the young girl who hit us just pretty much ruined her life from the onset, but that was that, it was not about her, she was on her mobile phone anyways.

After this, just shy of two weeks after I managed to have my self a stroke, that did change me, but not only me my wife was still struggling with the fact that we got hit, she had a lot of pains still does.

So, had the stroke, given a few pills here and there, monitored and patched up and ready to go within around 4 days.

This is where all this comes from, sometimes I hate waking up because of the way my wife is treating me, she shouts and screams until she has that shower in the morning to wake her self up, it's getting a bit unbearable, I knew before I married her she was not a morning person at all, I knew that the 'pill' did things to her that she tried to reject, It made her very angry. She came off this around 4 years ago.


She is killing me being here, It's not the fact that I am a lazy person or nothing; I do work at home and most of my time is looking after my child now she is working, (only part-time) she has lost weight and eventually got her head around a few things, but still, I know it's not right.


I do not know what else to do here, I'm getting more upset each day, she says 'I love you' quite a bit but I don't feel like saying it back at points.

On top of all this, she has asked for some GHD's, the problem is that I do not want to give up anything because of my child he is my rock, I've just taught him how to sit on the toilet.

On top of this, I am not much of a drinker, I've not really drunk too much, but to get out of the way, I am smoking a lot more... a pack of 20 a day... instead of my normal 8.

Can anyone help me? I know it's a jumble here and stuff, but please help.

What have the hair straighteners got to do with anything?

jackieblack

No-one on here can advise whether or not you're getting depressed, you need to see your GP

obay

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

What have the hair straighteners got to do with anything?

Well... it sort of links

Ironically. Got therapy tomorrow at 10:15. Just wanted to know what everyone thinks... other then idiot...

comeandgo

You say that the young girl who hit your car has pretty much ruined her life from the onset. Was there anyone seriously injured or killed in the accident? It seems a rather extreme thing to say.

Lolly88

I would really recommend that you speak to your stroke specialist nurse or stroke consultant and ask for a referral to see a psychologist. The way your post is written is quite jumbled in places and it could just be because you might be feeling a bit down and it's difficult to think clearly and commuicate this clearly alternatively it could be characteristic of cognitive impairments which can be quite common after a stroke. This might be contributing to some of the difficulties you are experiencing. In anycase, a referral to a psychologist would help untangle that for you and ensure you have an appropriate cognitive assessment and/or psychological therapy.

obay

Thank you the above. I’ll speak to her when I see her.

No one was killed but it effected because of my young man in the car too. It’s not like he came out with much wrong with him it’s just the point of view that he was there.

Lolly88

Sounds like you've been through a lot lately Obay so it wouldn't be suprising if it was taking its toll on you. I'm sorry you've been having a difficult time.

Mr_Costcutter

I think Lolly88's advice is spot-on. After my stroke I was all over the place and at times didn't make sense at all. obay, please seek medical help

Tabbytabitha

obay wrote: »

Well... it sort of links

Ironically. Got therapy tomorrow at 10:15. Just wanted to know what everyone thinks... other then idiot...

Sorry, it really doesn't.

I echo others' opinion that you need more help following your stroke.

choille

You need to see your GP - you may be on medicine that is causing depression, or the stroke is impacting in more ways than you thought at first. You should book a double appointment and have a good chat about how you feel and what is going on for you.

All the best with it - I posted earlier but it disappeared.