should I be worried or am I just being silly re. 2yr old

doodledoodle24

Hi,
I just wanted to say to trust your instinct!
My son was late in EVERYTHING. He didnt walk untill he was 16 months, didnt crawl, didnt like eating lumpy food, was late with his words.

I went from GP to peadiatrician, to bupa, to health visitors and back to GP.

Untill finally i got him referred to physio, turns out he has mild cerebral palsey on the right.

Like you i have just started him in toddler groups and swimming lessons to help with social skills.
He is talking fine now, the CP does not affect him above his hand, but persist is my advice.

Everyone i saw told me it was developmental and he will grow out of it. He is now on the waiting list for botox and a night ankle splint!

It makes me mad when the medical profession dont take your concerns seriosley. If i had been taken seriousley in the start then my son would be 8 months ahead in treatment!

You say your son had an accident in hospital, was it anything to do with his head?

mummy2one_2

My DS loves Justin on Something Special, though I've not actually tried the signing with him, never thought of it, but will have a go and look into it a bit more, I know there's someone on here with a website too so will take a look at that. Not sure if he'll take to signing as he seems to not have much control of his hands iyswim, doesn't point/wave etc, but I'll give it a go to see if this helps him learn. When I try to do "round and round the garden" he hates me holding his hand.

He definately loves us singing to him too, will sit for ages if you sing a song to him and it's part of our bedtime routine to sing gently

doodledoodle24, thanks for that, I'll definatly keep on the case. The accident didn't affect his head, no, it was actually the midwife who scalded his foot, he lost most of the skin on his foot/ankle but recovered well

blue_monkey_2

Hi Mummy,

Great news on the mums & babes group - they can be hard work for us mums but make the most of the break, get yourself a magazine and a coffee and make the most of the hour that you get to yourself!! As you have said yourself, they tend to forget you are there. They do help quite a lot, remember, you are at home with him so he has adult talk and presence all day and if he is not seeing how other children play then this will make a difference.

I have friends with 2nd babies and they are all around 2 1/2 so I just wanted to share my experiences with you. Your son sounds the exact same as my friends boy, he has only been walking since he was 21 months, she was saying 2 weeks ago that she has an appointment to see see the doc for Glue Ear as he never spoke - 2 weeks on it is hard to keep him quiet and he knows lots of words. My other friends boy never spoke until he went to Nursery - within 2 weeks he was speaking, the same with another friends boy who was 2 in April, he started speaking in September time. I have another friend who has a girl who just turned 3, she hardly says anything, she is just quiet and doesn't really say anything unless she has to. Maybe it is a boy thing, they just tend to be pretty lazy tbh!! My son is 3 and is happy pushing cars around all day, it is all he has ever done. he is sitting here doing it while I type this message.

I wanted to echo what other people have said here but also, when it is your first and only child it can be difficult to 'let go' and let them grow up. I think this is more so as your son was hurt in hospital, this must have been so traumatic, I can imagine you want to protect him from everyone forever - I would feel the same. But little things such as letting them feed themselves, some people worry that they will make too much of a mess around the house with food or that it takes too long for them to finish a meal and then they'll feed the baby themselves. If you don't let them do this then they do not pick up on this form of development because they will not know how to. Someone I know used to feed her child until the age of 3 because he ate too slow so he could not/would not feed himself even at the age of 3. You mentioned about your son being in the higchair to eat the chocolate chips, to be honest I would give him a small bowl of raisins on the floor and let him have a go at those, then the little boxes of sun maid raisins as they are more challenging to get out of the box but there is no need to keep him in the chair really.

When you next go to playgroup sit for 15 minutes and look at the other children around you. They all excel at different things at different rates, there will be things you son is good at that other children can't do. My kids haven't a clue with the playstation controls but they can both write and my daughter is 2 years ahead in her reading (she is 4, son is 3) yet my friends kids of the same age (4) can't read or write very well but can sit and play the playstation for hours. it is all swings and roundabouts.

Go and see the doc and check he does not have glue ear, this would be the first step, everything else will be covered when the peadiatrician comes (maybe he will check for Glue Ear too?) but you have done the right thing in asking - even if it turns out you had nothing to worry about at least you are doing the right thing in asking.

Good luck and have fun at playgroup - it certainly helps when you come to start mingling at the school gates in knowing a few faces to say hello to. I have only just started making friends with other mums and my daughter has just started reception.

full-time-mum

doodledoodle24 wrote: »

Makes me mad when the medical profession dont take your concerns seriosley. If i had been taken seriousley in the start then my son would be 8 months ahead in treatment!

I'm with you on this.

DD1 stood up and walked around the furniture at 7 months. She walked on her toes and continues to do so. I periodically mentioned it to the HV and every time I went to GP and was always told she'd grow out of it.

It wasn't until she went to school and I mentioned my concerns to the nurse that she got a referal to the podiatrist. We saw a different one each time and one day they said they'd sign her off. I begged them to review it just once more in 6 months which they eventually agreed to (to shut me up I think).

We saw yet another podiatrist who thought she should be refered for physio. The physio refered her to the orthopedic consultant and we are still seeing both of those regularly now (she's 11 now). We have exercises to stretch her leg muscles and exercises to work on her hip postural problems and she has doc martin style boots and insoles to put her feet in the correct position and to prevent her getting up on her toes.

It scares me to think that we could have been signed off if I hadn't been so persistant and makes me really mad when I think that the problem could have been dealt with before her poor walking/posture became a habit which we are now fighting to break.

You must continue to fight until you are happy that you have been given the assessments and help you need.

carolpinkdreamer

blue_monkey wrote: »

When you next go to playgroup sit for 15 minutes and look at the other children around you. They all excel at different things at different rates, there will be things you son is good at that other children can't do. My kids haven't a clue with the playstation controls but they can both write and my daughter is 2 years ahead in her reading (she is 4, son is 3) yet my friends kids of the same age (4) can't read or write very well but can sit and play the playstation for hours. it is all swings and roundabouts.

I can see the point that you are trying to make here but I have to say that it won't be very helpful to the OP to have you boasting about your children reading and writing so well when she's obviously concerned about her child's basic skills. A little insensitive maybe? :rolleyes:

Bargain_Rzl

Just a note from me (childless and therefore clueless ) to say that I didn't start talking until I was well over 2, to the point that I was having hearing tests done. Shortly afterwards I suddenly started talking in whole sentences, so it would seem that I was just waiting until I knew what I was doing I now have a degree in English Language :rotfl:

kitchpoo

Hya....haven't read all the replies so sorry if this is a repeat. This is a lot of the reason why they changed the check from 18 months to 2 years....they were referring children willy nilly. My son was barely speaking at 2, he was pointing and grunting. At his 2 year check the HV said thaty he would be a child who would miss saying words but would come out with sentences already formed.....she was right......now, at 3 and a half, he is telling everyone jokes and nursery fondly call him chatterbox charlie!!

My brother wasn't speaking at 2 either and is now a solicitor!

If you are worried tho', take him to the doctors......I haven't read the replies to this thread so probably you have been!!!

kitchpoo

carolpinkdreamer wrote: »

I can see the point that you are trying to make here but I have to say that it won't be very helpful to the OP to have you boasting about your children reading and writing so well when she's obviously concerned about her child's basic skills. A little insensitive maybe? :rolleyes:

I don't think she meant it in that way.....

Carmina_Piranha_3

i didn't think she meant it that way either - she did say that her children don't have the skills for playstation, if that is considered a skill lol! i would say it is, actually although i am very strict about time limits for that kind of thing. my eldest could beat me at age 3 on all the games, i'm rubbish at that sort of thing - i think it requires skills i don't possess my 2 year old isn't interested in that stuff, he just wants books and to run and climb. there are some mums at toddler groups who really bang on about it though, and think my 2 year old is odd for not being interested in the cbeebies website :rolleyes:

i agree about the 18 month check. my son was referred for speech therapy at 18 months but there wasn't much the therapist could do for him at that stage because of his other development problems which had to wait until age 2 for assessment. i saw a health visitor at 18 months to get him height checked and she mentioned his speech but by the time his 2 year check came along he just scraped by and didn't need a referral for speech therapy.

Penelope_Penguin

Bargain_Rzl wrote: »

Just a note from me (childless and therefore clueless ) to say that I didn't start talking until I was well over 2, to the point that I was having hearing tests done. Shortly afterwards I suddenly started talking in whole sentences, so it would seem that I was just waiting until I knew what I was doing I now have a degree in English Language :rotfl:

Bit like Albert Einstein :T He was late talking, and apparently then said that he'd not had anything interesting to say :rotfl: :rotfl:

My son hardly said a word until he was 3. I now wish he'd shurrrruuup sometimes