should I be worried or am I just being silly re. 2yr old

mummy2one_2

Yes, I'm sure if he actually wanted to eat one, he'd be able to pick one up. I've been trying to improve his fine motor skils, one thing I've been doing is putting small chocolate drops on his high chair tray (y'know the ones you bake with, the tiny ones, not big buttons) and he can pick those up and put them in his mouth, he does have to concentrate a little but he can do it

mkbean

Thats great mummy2one, i don't see any cause for concern you're doing the right thing.

If you want to be more pro-active on the speeking you could talk to your local speach therapy hospital department and see if they do the Hanan "it takes two to talk" course, or even just buy the book although its not cheap.

kal25

Hi mummy2one, I agree with the other posters about seeing your gp as you sound very worried. Someone else suggested mother/toddler group,this is a good idea, what you may find is he will try and communicate with other children while playing. I don't mean straight away obviously but it will give you a bit of a rest too,as well as other mums in your area to talk to. You could also try www.netmums.com to find local activities in your area.
My daughter was not walking at all then at mother/toddlers she was watching all the other girls playing with pushchairs and wanted to too. By doing this gave her the will to do it and hasn't stopped since. Good luck and let us know how you get on.

plumpmouse

Hi

My little boy spoke very few words until he was 2.

The thing that helped his talking was starting nursery (2 days a week). I think he went from having a Mummy and Grandma (who previous looked after him 2 days) who sorted his every need without needing to speak to having to tell the nursery nurses what he needed.

Does he go to nursery? Is there anyway he could go even just for 1/2 a session if not. It may just help him.

quietheart

don't feel bad about your son using a dummy, tens of thousands of kids do with no problem. both my sons have a speech delay, the dummy was 'blamed' so my 2nd child had no dummy but still has a speech delay.
sometimes things just happen, no reason you just need to deal with the effects.
good luck with looking into it. mum generally knows best.

hm2be

Does he point to things and look back to see if you are looking?

Is he able to follow your point look where you are pointing?

Does he have any imaginary play?- feeding a doll etc

Please get your Doctor/HV to do a CHAT test with your son. Have a look at this website and run through the questions.

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=128&a=2226

JF77

Theres a free Chatter Matters DVD for every parent and carer with a 0-5 year old which can be picked up at nurseries etc (got mine today) Only watched the first 5 mins but looks ok it is presented by Dr Tanya Byron.

Go to https://www.ican.org.uk to order but there is a 49p delivery charge.

Hope this helps.

Penny_Watcher

Your son sounds like my DD2 at the same age. Are you sure he can hear properly at all frequencies? It turned out that DD2 had severe bilateral glue ear and congenital nerve damage in her left ear. For her it was like trying to hear with ears full of wet cotton wool. I really noticed her not talking when she went back to play group after the summer break. Friends of the same age had moved on with their speech, but DD hadn't.

GP referred her to the ENT dept at the hospital and she had grommets and then a couple of years of Speech Therapy (mainly because she wouldn't speak even though she could - little madam :cool:).

Good Luck with your little fella.

Carmina_Piranha_3

do you have a 2 year check in your area? some people get it before they're 2 but here it's usually within a couple of weeks of turning 2. ours was in a big clinic so there was a witing room full of 2 year olds and i really think that almost every mum with a boy was worried about their development.

my first boy had developmental delay and needed special needs help at nursery and school or a special needs nursery and school. getting the right help at an early age makes a MASSIVE amount of difference.

oh, hang on

Carmina_Piranha_3

so it's worth asking for things to be checked out. your title says am i just being silly - well there's no harm in checking. it's not being silly, it's worth asking at least once. spud (my eldest) got occupational therapy, speech therapy, a statement of special needs, psychological assessment etc. all before he went to nursery and then everything was sorted out for him to either go to the special needs nursery or to get statemented for mainstream ('normal') nursery. they also gave him a free day at nursery per week because they thought it would help him catch up. getting special needs help takes time so it's easier for the child if it's sorted out before they start school. if you think your son might have developmental delay then you are NOT being silly to worry about it. if you ask for him to be checked and then within a few weeks he suddenly catches up then you still weren't being 'silly', just a caring mother.

i didn't see much of the health visitor when roo (my current 2 year old) was 1, just a weigh and measure when he turned one, and then another when he was 18 months purely because i wanted to check his height for something. the health visitor told me his speech was way behind, and that at his 2 year check he might be referred for speech therapy if he hadn't caught up a bit.

at the check up he was referred for a hearing test, it's next week but she said he didn't need speech therapy. she said that when they turn 2 they should be able to say 20 words at least. she got a book and he named everything in it, so he did know more than 20 words although i didn't realise. he NEVER said anything spontaneous, the only words he said were when we were looking at books. at two he had never said mummy or daddy to us, and never spoke to tell us about things, apart from to point out diggers and tractors, or to ask for his favourite foods.

he was 2 ten weeks ago and now he is talking all the time. he has only just started putting 2 words together, but he's getting there and i love to hear him talk. i do think he has a hearing problem, but sometimes i wonder if he's just ignorant :rotfl:

many more posters will be along to tell yuo how their child just caught up suddenly, or had a slow start but they were fine before too long.

you do worry though, especially when it's your first. i hope you get your 2 year check soon, and don't forget to ask for your bookstart pack