should I be worried or am I just being silly re. 2yr old

fsdss

thats excellent mummy2one, it sounds as though your HV is on the ball. at least he's now "in the system" and can be monitored and diagnosed properly.

interestingly Glue ear crossed my mind - but hey we dont know that yet. but it is a possibility. i have Glue ear (uncommon in adults). i find it hard to concentrate sometimes, and i really suffer sometimes to hear people clearly.

Carmina_Piranha_3

thanks for the update, it sounds as if things are moving in the right direction now. i hope you enjoy the toddler group tomorrow. you might have to try a few different ones until you find one that suits you. i go to a lot of groups and i actually play with my son as much as he wants. he started off clingy so i just played with him and didn't try to move away from him. over time he got less clingy and will now wander off and play confidently.

my 2 year old has his hearing test tomorrow, i'm a bit nervous because he doesn't listen or follow instructions unless you look him in the face, and he doesn't do 'sitting still' so he's going to hate it.

i remember when my eldest had a hearing test at age 2 they asked me if he had ADHD

it will be a relief to get the test though because i am worrying about him more and more recently with him starting at a playgroup and not being able to follow the group instructions because he just doesn't listen to them.

if there is a problem then it's best to get it sorted out this year so it doesn't affect him at nursery next year.

bexsta-star

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Shona_3

There was a recent review of child health surveillance (monitering child development) called the Hall report which recommended stopping all routine checks of child development apart from the newborn check and the 6-8 week GP check. If this has been implemented in your area (as it has in mine) you will get no invitations to the HV and GP for check ups. They used to be at 8 months between 2 and 3 and preschool. I think this really discourages mums from bringing up their concerns, its a shame.

Mummyto one I think your wee one really should be checked over by a doctor. Your GP may want to be 100% and refer you to a community paediatrician for a development check up or may see your tot and be able to reassure you there and then.
Either way you need to know you have got him checked for your own peace of mind. Tell the GP all your concerns, I would write them down as you have in your post and bring them with you.
Hope you get the answers you need.
xxx

*edit* Just saw the 2nd page of posts... oops, sounds like you have got it all sorted, glad to hear you are still getting routine checks in your area, my daughter will be seen for her jabs but not for any other checks unless i report a prob....
Hope the appt with the paed nurse goes well. x

myrnahaz

My Mum used to say that us mums shouldn't be too critical of our mothering skills as no child comes with instructions - it's all a learning curve.
My DS was 3 and a half years old before he started speaking in sentences - in fact, he'd been riding a 2-wheeler bike without stabilising wheels for 6 months before he could speak properly.

astonsmummy

Hi
I'm sorry i dont have much advice as i'm pretty clueless, i just wanted to say thank you for starting this thread, my son is almost 3.5 and has only just started putting words together, he was still ga gaing this time last year, i though i was the only one!
Plus my cousins little girl could hold convos at the time (they are 6 weeks apart)
My son was refered to a speech and languae therapist following his 2 year check and has had a few appointments, the ladt one was under a week ago and she was very impressed at his progress.
I would second what others say about nurserys or playgroups etc, my son attends a day nursery while i work (well am off sick at the mo but he still goes) he started just before his last visit to the S&LT and she said she thinks it has helped him immensley.
I hope everything goes ok with you both and keep up updated.
Mel xx

mummy2one_2

Hi everyone, thought I'd let you know how we got on... I found it all a bit too much, but DS seemed to love it.

I found it a bit too much as it was so busy and a bit overwhelming, I'm a shy person so found it a bit overpowering but I have to say that it was lovely to see him charging around enjoying himself & will take him regularly

It was from 1.15 - 2.45 and I didn't think he'd go the distance but he did. he didn't really play with any toys as such, but ran around looking at everything, pushing the big cars as if they were his small ones at home. The lady who runs it spoke to me at the beginning and also mid way, she explained how there was no real structure, just a couple of areas more for the little babies and that the last 20 minutes the toys are put away and everyone sits in a circle with their child to sing. I thought DS wouldn't do this but he did and thought the songs were funny so he seemed to love it, didn't really notice I was there he was so busy.

It's on a 2 week break now but I'll definately take him again, he was shattered by the end of it and had a sleep on the way home.

Shona, yes I agree about stopping the check ups and yes, it's a paediatrician that's coming on Monday to give him a check over

I'll give you another update then, and again, thank you for your comments, they're very reassuring, especially when I have so little contact with other mummies xx

full-time-mum

Glad you enjoyed mum's and tots. Well done you for overcoming your shyness.

Another idea - Have you thought about sign language alongside your use of spoken word? I don't know whether there are any classes in your area. There is a lovely programme on CBeebies called Something Special with Justin who uses Makaton which is the sign language they used with the special needs children at DDs nursery (but is also taught in lots of areas to all children, with or without problems)

Carmina_Piranha_3

i posted about taking roo to sing and sign classes but i can't see it, maybe i forgot to press submit

my first child didn't speak until 3 and a half, he was 3 and a half before he called me mummy! he got very frustrated, and when roo showed no signs of making any noise i thought sing and sign would be good for him. most babies start before they are 2 but it might be worth asking - or try the surestart centre instead of paying for an expensive course of classes. my sister went to some singing and sign sessions, not sing and sign itself, just a free course that the surestart centre was running. it clashed with the course i was on and had already paid for, so i stuck with the sing and sign and we loved it - it was really useful. as he started to talk he dropped the signs, but still signs a bit because i don't understand everything he says.

that was really brave going to the mums and tots today, congrats! i'm always scared when trying a new group, i'm very shy and don't mix well and i always think people are whispering about my son being 'behind' with everything - he's enormous so he looks much older.

learning all the songs at toddlers will help when he gets the terrible 2's too, you can start a song when he's about to throw a tantrum in the supermarket and keep him occupied

Js_Other_Half

Well done for going to the toddler group!

DS and I enjoy the sing and sign, and he will immediately stop whatever he is doing if I start on some of the songs...also I now have some tunes on my phone from In The Night Garden - I silenced an entire group of older babies this week by playing it when I was trying to distract DS whilst getting dried after swimming...:D