i did it! Ive jsut become a single mum - HELP ME!!!!

Floss

Alias_Omega wrote: »

^^^she's gonna murder me when she see's that..

ah well..

A-O, do you ever think before you open your mouth or type anything?

Alias_Omega

Floss wrote: »

A-O, do you ever think before you open your mouth or type anything?

of course...

she knows im just winding you lot up, i dangle the worm, and you lot keep biting it

she keeps telling me to stop it..:j

Ellidee

:grouphug: Oh Sammy hope you are ok hon and feeling more optimistic today. Please don't stop posting because of some 'lurker ' ( I could think of a better word ending in -er) on here just looking to stir things up. Take no notice ,there are plenty of peeps on here who will listen and care and give you support. Take care hon , be strong, sending you a hug. XX

Jo_R_2

Here's some of the things I did when ex moved out:

***Phone the council to explain it's just you to get yr single person rebate on the council tax. Also ask for a housing benefit form - I'm a single parent who works and I do get some housing benefit.

***Phone up tax credits and explain you want to make a fresh claim as a single parent.

***Revise the hours/days you work to fit in with your son. Obviously personal choice, and if you decide to work then you will need to arrange some childcare, which you can get help with through tax credits. If you don't know when you speak to tax credits, still make a claim, and you can always contact them again if you do arrange childcare and they will factor this in for you.

***Create your personal support networks. I am lucky in that ex's parents are near and we're on good terms, and my parents aren't too far away, but you say that your family isn't very near. I have had offers of babysitting from sooo many people, and it's good to make friends with kids parents at nursery as we sometimes have each others kids for a morning or afternoon, one set of parents do the taking them out and having a good time thing, the others get a few hours off, then swap the next weekend! I also found that if I wanted a night out, the nursery nurses at nursery are more than happy to babysit. Costs a fiver an hour but it's a godsend, they live locally and are more than happy to oblige, plus you know they're trained and even better that the kids know and like them - I couldn't leave my girls with someone they didn't know.
Also contact somewhere like Gingerbread - I keep meaning to do this - if you will then I will!

Good luck - I've only seen this post of yrs but I knew immediately where you were coming from. Keep us posted!

pavlovs_dog

sammy i just wanted to say im proud of you for being brave enough to do something that you've clearly wanted to do for a very long time.

all the best to you and ben for a bright and happy future xx

iceicebaby

Sammy

Ive followed all your previous threads and have to add I think you are doing absolutely the right thing.

Stay strong for your little one and PM me any time you like if you need a chat.

All the best and hugs xxxx

pippamannequin

Sammy, Ive just seen on another post that you've decided to stay together after you talked..hope you're ok xx

[Deleted User]

The impression I got OP is that there is some depression lurking in you. My dh is in a photography club and believe me it is a safe place for a partner to be. OK they go for a drink afterwards but that rounds off the evening for them.

I can only speak from personal experience after 37 years of marriage. Give him space for himself and you will keep him in your life. Don`t give up. This sounds like one of those life changes that change our direction of travel through life. It is never a straight road but learn to take the twists and turns. You both need to be flexible

consultant31

Alias_Omega wrote: »

of course...

she knows im just winding you lot up, i dangle the worm, and you lot keep biting it

she keeps telling me to stop it..:j

Are you so bored then that you have to spend time making such inflammatory posts?

I hope your GF thinks long and hard before she marries you because you do seem to have a very poor opinion of women and especially single Mums.

I wonder how long after your wedding it will be before either she or you are on here with a similar problem to the OP and wanting supportive help!!

Running_Horse

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

ex bf is the typ e to have his son but palm him off on his mother so he's not having him as he is a useless waste fo space and much prefers talking to women online or sleeping than watchign and rearing his child...................................HELP!!!!!!

Your ex has a legal right to see his son, and your son will suffer in all kinds of ways if you try to prevent that relationship. Just for the record, by becoming a single mother, your son's average life chances have just taken a huge nosedive. Enjoy your freedom.