Weekly Flylady Thread 25th September 2017

bossymoo

Howdy!

Gosh, only just sat down! But, the much awaited cup final was played and won (:T), many coffees and butties served, DD ferried to dancing and back and now at a party, and I need to apologise to one of the football mums for something she overheard MIL say about her child (awkward!)

Kit in WM as w have a league match tomorrow, and i can tell you the bloomin weather forecast was wrong this morning so more drying indoors...

Spuds in oven for later, curled up on sofa with DS for an hour now

LameWolf

I think the next fortnight's Flying may not be happening. Milly & Mia are here, and my goodness, are they demanding little madams! Lovely dogs though, and real characters.
Ah, they've just both come into the lounge, I think a garden break may be in order.

Jazee

Afternoon all. Hope you're all ok.

Bossy - don't apologise for someone else
Piggers - hope this week brings only good news
Frodders - only about 80 days to Xmas
Natty - hugs to you and Mr Natty
YSL - hugs for you too
LW - enjoy the dogs and well done on the driving

Sorry if I've missed anyone.

Think this is my first post this week. I get very little time now my routine has changed. DH has been amazing, has taken over most of the cooking and buys me flowers.

This week the only room which got no attention apart from being used for the laundry was the gym.

Today, we have menu planned and done a monthly food shop. The dogs have had two very long walks and this evening we're going out with family and friends for an Italian meal.

Tomorrow, the dogs get to meet their new sitter at her house and I'll see if I can get some tidying done in the garden.

Have a great evening everyone.

Honey_Bear

I'll read back in a minute, but I just need to blow off a fair bit of pent up steam. WHY do TWATTISH lodgers think it's my problem if they 'need' to do laundry? There's a perfectly good service laundrette at the bottom of the road, but somehow they always seem to think having been told that, they must still use my machine. I even told her that the theatre has a mini-laundrette in, but no, she'll do them by hand and hang the wet trousers up in her basement, tanked-at-great-expense, room that has a dehumidifier right outside her door. REALLY?

I've just been asked, 'How am I going to manage? I only bought one pair of trousers with me?'

I'd like to think I provide hospitality but this problem really, really !!!!es me off and if nothing else she knows she's !!!!!! me off with her insistence, so all the hospitality I've offered her to date has been a waste of time and energy. She knew she was here for two weeks, she drove from her home to this house, she couldn't put another pair in her suitcase?

So, having said she can run one pair of trousers through the machine, she's now decided to put a second pair in, needs to shown how to use it, needs soap powder, she'll need to be shown how to use the tumble dryer and I've got to absorb the costs. This, after she played helpless the other night, saying she was going to microwave a beefburger for her meal as she was starving, but 'Oh, it says not suitable for microwave' and I ended up cooking her dinner.

I LOATHE manipulative behaviour, and it's particularly enraging from a woman of 60 who has a 26 year old son. I'm not surprised he doesn't speak to her. A couple more episodes like this and I won't be, either. GAH!

Honey_Bear

Thanks Ionafan and Valli. Putting something about it on here yesterday meant that I'd come to the conclusion that I needed to [STRIKE]cut[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]prune[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]hack[/STRIKE] take a machete to the waffley nine pages of notes, and so I'm following your excellent advice. I'm feeling vicious enough as well after the lodger's washing and cooking post. Kelpie's just had his coat brushed to within an inch of it's life and I've sent a very sweary text to OH about it all. I'm not feeling even a bit molified by all of that yet, either.

YORKSHIRELASS

Oh HB sorry but you have to laugh. DS is visiting his GF this weekend and she asked if he needed HER to email HIM a list of things for him to take. For heavens sake, I told him you better have said no. I dont know how you cope.

Thanks for hugs, feeling a little better. It will pass. Have said to DH that he just needs to let me be and just try and understand that I am not feeling all that smiley.

Right, off to see if I can find some wine. DH and GF are staying here tonight so no taxi duties!

kazwookie

Evening

Busy busy days at work so sorry for being MIA

Daily stuff has been done

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I'll read back in a minute, but I just need to blow off a fair bit of pent up steam. WHY do TWATTISH lodgers think it's my problem if they 'need' to do laundry? There's a perfectly good service laundrette at the bottom of the road, but somehow they always seem to think having been told that, they must still use my machine. I even told her that the theatre has a mini-laundrette in, but no, she'll do them by hand and hang the wet trousers up in her basement, tanked-at-great-expense, room that has a dehumidifier right outside her door. REALLY?

I've just been asked, 'How am I going to manage? I only bought one pair of trousers with me?'

I'd like to think I provide hospitality but this problem really, really !!!!es me off and if nothing else she knows she's !!!!!! me off with her insistence, so all the hospitality I've offered her to date has been a waste of time and energy. She knew she was here for two weeks, she drove from her home to this house, she couldn't put another pair in her suitcase?

So, having said she can run one pair of trousers through the machine, she's now decided to put a second pair in, needs to shown how to use it, needs soap powder, she'll need to be shown how to use the tumble dryer and I've got to absorb the costs. This, after she played helpless the other night, saying she was going to microwave a beefburger for her meal as she was starving, but 'Oh, it says not suitable for microwave' and I ended up cooking her dinner.

I LOATHE manipulative behaviour, and it's particularly enraging from a woman of 60 who has a 26 year old son. I'm not surprised he doesn't speak to her. A couple more episodes like this and I won't be, either. GAH!

Why do you have to absorb the costs?

Just shove an invoice under the door each week for use of washing facilities and catering. Service wash prices per item should do, plus £9.50 for a fully cooked a la carte meal. At worst, she'll go somewhere else. Which wouldn't be a bad thing, by the sounds of it.


But then I've just found out the stinky ex lodger is back in the country in under a fortnight and hasn't got anywhere to live.

We're deliberately going off grid where she's concerned for at least the rest of the month, just in case she's angling for a 'could I stay for a couple of days, please?' and even then, if she wants the box of crap she left scattered about the room, Himself would rather get on a bus to drop it off than have her back through the door. Especially as I still get a whiff of her stink every so often in the room - he's sick of having to relaunder all the bedding in case it's clinging to that - I'll go ballistic if it's the mattress.


We're also both rather reassured by the fact that a nice locksmith came on Friday and completely changed the front door locking mechanism.


I've got about a million things to wash up, as I attacked the kitchen for ten minutes earlier - after I retrieved and sorted the various packets and wrappers and cans for recycling from every surface, divided the washing up into type and soil level, cleaned the muck out of the sink, including the food scraps he'd let block it, put all the ingredients back in their respective homes and removed the lifeforms from the fridge, I found that there wasn't any washing up liquid. :mad:


I sent him out in the rain to get some. He brought some back. And a Bakewell Tart.


Nice try, Himself, nice try.

Valli

Oh Honey Bear - you're too nice.
I DO like the invoice idea.

Managed to find the oomph to clean the kitchen AND bathroom yesterday. The house is less grim than it was but is still not under control. My mood is improving so I think it was the run up to my birthday, and the memory of how I spent it last year, which was bringing me down. So I am prepared now for how I'll feel next month, as the anniversary approaches.
I have booked tickets for Deacon Blue. The band my sister introduced me to...she told me 'there's this band...I think you'll like them' and I do. So happy memories.
DS was talking to mum, and commenting on my mood. She told him I'm grieving, that not only have I lost my sister, but also my best friend. I hadn't actually verbalised that. It was all 'just how it is', like I didn't need her to tell me she loved me. That was the first thing she said when she came to tell me what she had - and I questioned why she was telling me what I knew. I also never accepted it was terminal. I was considering trying to find some bereavement counselling but I think I might wait until a whole year has passed. Sometimes it seems like no time at all.

Anyway my week next week - any special requests?

I'm thinking of getting a vax cordless from the email - anyone ever used this offer before?

bossymoo

Hugs valli a year seems an impossible prospect at the time of bereavement, yet it does pass so bl00dy quickly just a thought, if you think counselling may be something for you in the near future, it may be worth looking into some months beforehand, particularly if you'd be looking for a funded / voluntary agency like Cruse. They often have waiting lists xx


Yikes, we left DS football boots out yesterday for the mud to dry a little before cleaning it. Then it rained on them I'd forgotten we left them out! They have been cleaned and put in the airing cupboard overnight in the hope they'll be dry enough for today. And then we'll have to clean them again <rollseyes>. Training moves to AstroTurf this week so that's one less mud session per week...

Really need to sweep / vac the LR floor. And the kitchen for that matter...

It wasn't supposed to rain the whole weekend!!!