Weekly Flylady Thread 25th September 2017

Valli

100% record maintained. They may NOT be sick because I can't cope with the smell;)

And no injuries/tumbles. The weather stayed fine. BOOM!

I am, however shattered zzzz.....

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

My sinuses hurt. I am going to get an early night in the hope that this doesnt develop into anything else.

Productive day at both paid stuff today, despite feeling a bit grotty so pleased with that. Long chat with DS1 last night who is making all sorts of life plans. This is wonderful but also scary to think he might not need me any more after being his full time carer for a few years and him being so dependent on me. I also want to protect him from failure but he needs to go out there into the big wide world and make his own way.

DH getting ready to paint hall and stairs so there is a bit of general mess but I am doing my best to not let it spread! Rest of house reasonably OK. DW and WM both on.

pigpen

todays achievements... I'm still breathing.

Looks like OH didn't get that job.. he isn't ever going to get another one is he? He is going to be a stranger to me forever and we will never share our bed again.. I go to bed as he is getting up.. We may as well not even be in a relationship.

I'm supposed to have a hospital appointment tomorrow and I can't afford to get there.. another waste of time.

Maybe the keeping breathing wasn't really worth the bother.

Fayolle

Well done Valli on both counts.
((Hugs)) Narc0
GWS vibes to YL. Lovely about your DS, and you've obviously done a fabulous job to give him the confidence to plan his future.

LR, hall, stairs and landing vacuumed. Bedroom dusted and vacuumed. Washing brought in just before it started to rain instead of the other way round for a change. Volunteering done, and they have given me a headache. I'm consoling myself with tea and cake.

Zoelikesjam

I'm not going to join this week, but next week I'm on it! Been a long time, a good few years. since flying. Don't know if any of you remember me! Lots of love x

dancemum

Evening all X

First day everyone has been back at school, work & uni
House dysoned
Bed stripped and dysoned
Bed remade
Tv stand dusted
Bathroom cleaned
Laundry is nearly up to date after old machine died
Coat hooks sorted and a jacket washed ready to give away
Ironing cleared

pigpen

Zoe.. I remember you!

I'm really really fed up today.. I feel like a right mizzbag. I don't even know why, and if I'm this fed up in September, what will I be like in February after months of no sunlight?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

pigpen wrote: »

todays achievements... I'm still breathing.

Looks like OH didn't get that job.. he isn't ever going to get another one is he? He is going to be a stranger to me forever and we will never share our bed again.. I go to bed as he is getting up.. We may as well not even be in a relationship.

I'm supposed to have a hospital appointment tomorrow and I can't afford to get there.. another waste of time.

Maybe the keeping breathing wasn't really worth the bother.

You got used to having him around all the time before he got a job at all, so it's going to feel weird and not nice when he's either at work or sleeping. But he got a job, and he can (and will) get another one that works better for both of you; it will just take time and the bit in between is where it's worst.

Daft though it sounds when you're surrounded by small [strike]monsters[/strike] darling children, is there is any way you could arrange to get even ten minutes together as alone as possible, maybe on that changeover period?


Himself needs regular reminders not to stay up all night because he doesn't have to get up in the morning. And the occasional boot up the jacksie for keeping me awake when I've got work in a couple of hours. One thing that makes a difference if he's determined to stay up for something [strike]completely inconsequential that could be done during the day when I'm not there[/strike] very important is if he gives me just ten minutes of his time when I go to bed, after which he can shove off and do whatever he likes.

He's also started making a point of coming downstairs from the office/spare room the moment I come in from work, so I'll get a hug, a cup of tea and a quick chat before he disappears back off upstairs at the very least. All of which only started happening after one of my epic whinging sessions which included how he may say he misses me when he's on tour and just wants to come home after about 24 hours, but from my point of view, it was no different from every other day where I'd spend the evening alone and sleep alone before getting up and going to work with just a couple of words as he'd go to bed when my alarm went off.


One day he'll get a job that at least matches my hours in some way. Or I'll get one closer to his, but in the meantime, it's the best we can manage, and it makes a huge difference.

Mademoiselle

I haven't progressed this week but am still floating, just! Living and bedroom still fine and kitchen has been worse, ok could be a lot better too but I have promised myself I will always see the good side of things.

Off tonight for long weekend. Hooray!

With regards to OHs who work shifts/away, I've been there and still am from time to time but JoJo is right you have to make time for each other even just a few minutes. And use, even just a little bit of the time alone to do what YOU want or like.
Likewise with children, you need "grown up" time. Can their question wait until morning (if we deemed it could and they asked anyway they didn't get an answer) Once they got old enough they were told to write the 'urgent' thing they had to tell one of us on a piece of paper or tie a knot in something they would pick up first thing that would remind them to ask in the morning. They knew there would always be time for them, and family time but also their own time to enjoy as they wanted. Make the most of all times, if my DD1 wanted to talk then it was often in the car on the way back from her activity in the evening as she was alone in the car with one of us and had a captive audience. She learnt that this was a better time than at dinner when it was family time and everyone was taking. My children are now older but still understand the importance of making time for relationships, it's very easy to be too busy for the ones you love.

Remember why you love them all

Sorry gone on for too long. HHI now before work, anyone joining me?

mrs-moneypenny

Morning all
Hugs where needed
Glad no one was ick Valli
Going to get on with it today as I have afterschool club tonight so need to crack on.