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Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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You have a way to travel then and he is living in an expensive place . I think you just have to do one day at a time at the moment.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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I can't help on the visiting either as both my two lived at home when they went university !This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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Thank you SSG. Maybe Facetiming or Skyping would help. I'll feel better if I know he's happy there. I haven't told him I'm upset because I don't want to worry him or spoil his pleasure in going.Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS0 -
Cumbria_lass wrote: »You have a way to travel then and he is living in an expensive place . I think you just have to do one day at a time at the moment.
Yes it will be a long way to visit so we'd have to stay two nights to make it worth a visit. We have family there luckily but petrol is expensive.
I do need to take one day at a time.Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS0 -
It is hard.
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Thank you anyway Beanie.Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS0 -
Cumbria_lass wrote: »You have a way to travel then and he is living in an expensive place . I think you just have to do one day at a time at the moment.
Cumbria is right.HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »Thank you SSG. Maybe Facetiming or Skyping would help. I'll feel better if I know he's happy there. I haven't told him I'm upset because I don't want to worry him or spoil his pleasure in going.
I'm sure he'll love it there Hairy and he'll know quite naturally that you'll miss him - you wont have to tell him you're upset.Finally Debt Free! - July 2016 🌟
Finished Emergency Fund- £10,000 April 2017
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Thank you SSG.Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS0 -
When DS went to uni, it was a flight away in London. If I was ever over, he allowed me to feed him but I never visited specifically to see himMortgage at 01.01.14 £119,481.83:eek: today £0 Emergency fund £5.5/5.5k & £200/200 cash.:jWeight 24/02/19 14st 7lb now 12st determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes. Progress not perfection.:T100%through my 1% mortgage challenge. 100% through my pb challenge.0
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One of our girls was at Uni about 400 miles away so in the first year we did the drop off and stayed for the first few days in a cottage nearby but she was busy with things going on so we needn't have stayed. After the first term she bought a car and drove herself up and back and occasionally came home mid term but usually it was just holidays. Other daughter was 250 miles away and occasionally came home mid term but not often. We did not visit once beyond emptying her room at the end of the year.
If your DS is in London and it involves overnight stays I would not visit if funds are tight.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Debt free Wannabe, Budgeting and Banking and Savings and Investment boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.
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