Best way to protect your child?

ska_lover

DoubleDoors wrote: »

Is that so?

Genuine question

The whole world is different.

Back in Enid Blytons day, the famous five went for windy picnics, days out and spent camping holidays on Kirrin Island, all alone for days at a time with no adults
If the famous five had been written based on the life of today:-

Julian would have been stabbed to death in an alleyway whilst being robbed of his bike. The murderers were sentenced to 2 years young offenders, whilst in jail they released their first gangsta rap CD which hit the charts, and sued the prison service for £8M each

Anne would have been groomed on the internet by a grooming gang and eventually killed herself after sending naked pictures to a boy who turned out to be an adult and sent them to everyone in her school which resulted in months of cyber bullying ……the groomer is never caught and went on to ruin many young teenagers lives

George was the only child of over-bearing parents and never had any confidence , she would be awaiting gender reassignment surgery and be on Prozac and later on sunk into debt , and never works a job in her life - as she feels she does not fit in and suffers from general anxiety disorder.. she never moved out of her parents house and her 70 year old mother still picks up the dirty crockery from George's bedroom floor - whilst George gets a good 12 hours sleep per day, and sits in front of the computer playing online role playing games, where she can pretend to be an attractive young woman with the skills of a magician rather than the middle aged woman she is

and poor Di1ck after spending years of living in Julians shadow he suffers from severe depression and the NHS cannot offer any help as he lives in the wrong postcode, in later life he sinks into self harm and heavy drugs and dies facedown in a puddle of his own sick, in a homeless nightshelter, with trackmarks on his arms, age 23


Timmy the dog would have been shot in the head with an air rifle

lincroft1710

ska_lover wrote: »

Timmy the dog would have been shot in the head with an air rifle

And Uncle Quentin would have lived with his husband.

lincroft1710

peachyprice wrote: »

At 16 I was at college the other side of central London with a social life with people from all over the city and a 5p and 10p in my purse for emergency phone calls.

At 16 having 5p or 10p to call my parents would have been pointless, we weren't on the phone!

Mupette

A generation of snowflakes, mollycoddled, never had to do anything for themselves because over anxious parents did everything (i mean everything) for them.

These snowflakes are now in the workplace causing havoc for everyone else with their meltdowns because they don't want to do any work, they just want to chat to their mates on snap chat all day.

When are parents going to wake up and realise that wrapping up their children in cotton wool has destroyed their child.

It's ok to want to protect your child, but there is protecting and over bearing, you just need to identify which one you are.

There has been drugs and knives around, even before i was born in the late 60's.

We teach our children to be safe, how to deal with situations, a child needs to make mistakes to learn from them.

Yes our little darlings are precious, everyone thinks their own are more precious than anyone else.

Children are not as fragile as you think they are, unless you projected your own issues on them all their life, in that case you have yourself to blame.

Malthusian

If the famous five had been written based on the life of today:

May as well say that if the Famous Five had been written based on the life of when Enid Blyton was writing: half of them would been molested by teachers at their boarding schools, and would never ever have talked about it because it wasn't done. The other half would have caught polio. Then all five would have been blown to bits by a German bomb. And this would have been far more commonplace than stabbings and gender reassignment are now.

ska_lover

Malthusian wrote: »

May as well say that if the Famous Five had been written based on the life of when Enid Blyton was writing: half of them would been molested by teachers at their boarding schools, and would never ever have talked about it because it wasn't done. The other half would have caught polio. Then all five would have been blown to bits by a German bomb. And this would have been far more commonplace than stabbings and gender reassignment are now.

Yes very true, I wasn't trying to write a factual account, was just being lighthearted


Isn't it strange how over a few generations we have gone from sending our teenagers to war to get killed, to not believing they can catch a bus to school by themselves

peachyprice

ska_lover wrote: »

Yes very true, I wasn't trying to write a factual account, was just being lighthearted


Isn't it strange how over a few generations [STRIKE]we[/STRIKE] some parents have gone from sending our teenagers to war to get killed, to not believing they can catch a bus to school by themselves

There, corrected that for you

Mojisola

Best way to protect your child?

Mupette wrote: »

We teach our children to be safe, how to deal with situations, a child needs to make mistakes to learn from them.

I agree - we teach our children to keep themselves safe by preparing them to deal with the outside world, not by keeping them away from it.

ska_lover

peachyprice wrote: »

There, corrected that for you

You are 'correcting' me to mean something that I didn't intend or attempt to say.


Conscription was not optional during the war, so there is no 'some' about sending teenagers to war. As awful as it was, and I couldn't imagine many the parents of today agreeing to it. Entire generation of men died, and it wasn't optional. It was the law. Really awful time in history, but does highlight how we (as society) expected 18 year olds to be adults at that point in time.


Society in general, how we were happy to send our kids off to fight awful battles a few generations back, but now, society appear to have have little confidence in the younger generation = Rates of teenage depression are through the roof and adults are not allowed to grow up and end up living with parents much later in life rather than striking out on their own in the way previous generations wanted to / were expected to


Obviously not every parent is doing this (thank god), but a great deal are, hence the term 'special snowflake generation' which hadn't been used in previous generations and entirely created by their own parents


Very interesting concept that we have completely overcrowded the country and at the same time crime levels have gone up and on average one knife murder every day - it's a massive coincidence.


However at the same time, we lower the amount of police on the street. It is almost like we are trying to destroy the next generation - when you think our forefathers fought and died for us, and what have we bequeathed the next generation?

Mojisola

ska_lover wrote: »

You are 'correcting' me to mean something that I didn't intend or attempt to say.

Conscription was not optional during the war, so there is no 'some' about sending teenagers to war.

Society in general, how we were happy to send our kids off to fight awful battles a few generations back

It wasn't optional but that doesn't mean that most parents were happy to see their teenagers being sent off to war.