The NEW waiting to exchange thread...

Caramac

ameliarate said:

How do people manage their anxiety at these times? I’m quite an anxious person anyway but this whole process is driving me mad! 

I’m not sure I’m managing well. Every little delay sends my anxiety into overdrive.  I am grateful for work for distraction but at the same time I sometimes struggle to concentrate. 

I think current restrictions don’t help as it has removed some of my coping mechanisms.

badger09

Caramac said:

ameliarate said:

How do people manage their anxiety at these times? I’m quite an anxious person anyway but this whole process is driving me mad! 

I’m not sure I’m managing well. Every little delay sends my anxiety into overdrive.  I am grateful for work for distraction but at the same time I sometimes struggle to concentrate. 

I think current restrictions don’t help as it has removed some of my coping mechanisms.

Being retired, I don't have work as a distraction but not sure whether that's a good or a bad thing. Its the fact that only about 5% of the whole process is within my control, that I find most difficult. Delay doesn't especially cause me stress, but not knowing what is or isn't happening definitely does. Fortunately I've established a relationship with both our vendor (the wife) & purchaser (the husband) and it is so reassuring as we all keep each other in the loop. 

I think we're probably still a few weeks from exchange/completion and don't want to tempt fate by posting our timeline. We're all aiming for mid November, but I suspect it will be nearer end November.

Positive thoughts to everyone going through this at the moment.

ameliarate

I’m glad it’s  not just me that struggles. It is the not knowing and not having any control that gets to me. That and solicitors who don’t reply to your queries! 

bouzer

I haven’t coped well with the anxiety, our purchase has been ongoing since March and now I'm 39 weeks pregnant, few panic attacks along the way, but the seller eventually got in touch with me last month and was absolutely  lovely. Turns out the solicitors hadn't been communicating properly, since me and her have been communicating things have moved much faster and we now have an exchange and completion date for Monday. I wish I’d have reached out to her sooner and maybe I wouldn't have been as stressed.

badger09

bouzer said:

I haven’t coped well with the anxiety, our purchase has been ongoing since March and now I'm 39 weeks pregnant, few panic attacks along the way, but the seller eventually got in touch with me last month and was absolutely  lovely. Turns out the solicitors hadn't been communicating properly, since me and her have been communicating things have moved much faster and we now have an exchange and completion date for Monday. I wish I’d have reached out to her sooner and maybe I wouldn't have been as stressed.

Hope it all happens on Monday for you, then you can concentrate on your other impending life changing event. 

I know it doesn't suit everyone, but I really believe that having established a personal relationship with both our vendors & purchasers has (so far) made this process much easier than it might have been. Especially when our vendor pulled out recently. Because I understood & sympathised with their reasons, I was able to negotiate a way forward. Without that relationship, we would have lost our purchase and, as we dare not lose our sale, would have had the expensive and stressful task of finding & moving into rented accommodation very quickly. In our 70s, that would be really difficult. 

bearclaws

Agreeing with everyone that establishing a relationship with the vendor helps things tremendously. I still get anxious every time the vendor sends a message but she’s actually been nothing but helpful throughout the process and it’s good to keep each other updated. Supposed to complete tomorrow, fingers crossed everyone 🤞🏼

Caramac

Good Luck to everyone hoping to exchange/complete tomorrow.
I think the lack of communication between solicitors is the worst. I have started emailing our EA when we have submitted information to the solicitor since we got chased up about something we had emailed several days earlier.

DeanWozz

Finally exchanged on Friday after 5 months of stress! The day didn’t come without its worries though. Had a phone call off EA about 10am saying they were trying to get hold of my solicitor to release the contract but weren’t getting replies or phone calls back. So I called them and they said that they weren’t getting replies from the EA so god knows what was going on. Got to around 3pm and I still hadn’t heard if we’d exchanged. Called my solicitor who said she hadn’t because she didn’t have confirmation off the vendor of the house to proceed with the exchange? Has anyone heard of this before? Anyway after a few angry phone calls between myself and the estate agents we finally managed to exchange at around 4pm.
so so unnecessarily stressful! 

Can’t wait to get the keys on Monday and see the back of everything involved in this purchase!

uralmaid

We are currently in the throes of a sale and purchase.  We accepted an offer from cash buyers on the 25th August.  As I used to work in Estate Agency for 20 years I thought this would be a straight forward transaction.  Not so. We are 9 weeks in and it is driving me mad that our solicitor doesn't seem to feel the need to give me any updates. (when I worked in the industry I was used to dealing with solicitors up and down the chain weekly) so it drives me nuts.  If I email her she does reply but with scant information.  Also the person in the property we are buying stated right at the outset that he was going into rented but as yet has not been searching for anything even though his estate agent is stressing the need for him  to find somewhere  Every day which goes by without anything in the mail, or a phonecall or email is making my anxiety worse. Added to the fact that Christmas is creeping up quickly I am getting more and more anxious and stressed that something will go wrong. I am not sleeping and lie awake going over and over things. My hubby just says "don't worry" "everything will be fine"  I think the current pandemic has made it worse and I appreciate that things are taking longer but I think the fact that I haven't got much control of things is making it worse.

badger09

badger09 said:

ameliarate said:

How do people manage their anxiety at these times? I’m quite an anxious person anyway but this whole process is driving me mad! 

Alcohol. And very good friends.

And having a son living in Hong Kong who I can chat to during the many hours of insomnia each night  when good friends are asleep. However, having a son living in HK inevitably brings its own set of anxieties.

@ uralmaid
I'm afraid can't say anything which will help ease your anxiety, but do share it - as do many of the posters on this thread. Someone recently asked how we cope - my answer is above