KonMari 2017 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Floss

GQ your comment about elastic dying in storage has reminded me that in my sewing box are several yards of inherited elastic of varying widths - some of which are most likely to be as old or even older than me! Will have a good sort out today while DH is [STRIKE]making a mess in the kitchen [/STRIKE]brewing

maryb

Oceanspirit you are far more charitable than I am. I think they can control their behaviour - they are all sweetness and light to the outside world - but choose not to/don't see the need with family and children. It's harder for them, perhaps, but they have a choice

GreyQueen

From what I've read, narcissism isn't fixable, as is the case with other extreme types like paranoiacs, predators and the emotionally-unstable.

These people can, with careful professional help, sometimes come to the point where they can control some of their behaviours, but mostly not; they see no problem, they are just fine as they are.

The best the rest of us can hope for is to learn to recognise them for what they are and identify their strategies, to avoid them where possible and counter their manipulations if total avoidance isn't possible.

I often think it is a blessing that my very emotionally-unstable and manipulative foster-gran (Mum's foster mother) died when I was only six. I was the apple of her eye and could do no wrong, she absolutely hated Kid Bruv and thought he shouldn't even have been born. Her favouritism would likely have worsened my character and corrupted our family dynamics, as they had corrupted the generation before.

Some of the horror stories are only now being shared and the 'children' are in their seventies and late eighties!

carrielovesfanta

Small amount of Kondoing here. Three board games released to the cs, with 3 more to follow after Christmas (I may need to use the question discs for a quiz).

OH bought two new t-shirts and released 2 more that didn't fit any more. The t-shirts are practically flowing through the house as he is changing shape and size quite rapidly!

One small item winged its way to a new home via fb selling.

daisy_1571

Attic this morning, cover me chaps we are going in!!!!

maryb

Certainly, the Golden Child in our family didn't benefit from being the favourite in the long run. But I wish I had known what I know now much sooner. I wouldn't have worried so much that I might turn out the same. That's the biggest load I have Kondo'd. Lord knows, there's plenty that's not so good about me, but I no longer worry I will turn into a narcissist unless I work very hard at not letting my real self out

VJsmum

DS's room now back together :T

So spare room is now mostly clear of extraneous 'stuff'. Though I am about to put a charity bag together to take this week.

Hoping DD will sort some more of her stuff. Our chaos is getting to the middle stage I feel now...

daisy_1571

Thoroughly enjoying the very positive thoughts on kming the bad feelings after dealing with narcissistic people, well done everyone who's been contributing to that, very useful stuff.

I have returned from attic land. 3 trips to the tip, lots of cardboard boxes (empty) gone, load of dishes smashed to bits in the rubble container (couldn't find any pictures of them at all on interweb and it was all soup tureen and fancy serving plates which I didn't think cs would thank me for even at this time of year), stuff from cardboard boxes amalgamated into emptied plastic boxes so more secure from dust, grit, spidey friends and in case of future reoccurring meeses-to-pieces. Lots of old paperwork ready for next bonnie, some books on cd rediscovered to be listened to, couple more things for the bay when we can be bothered listing. Several suitcases amalgamated into each other and at some point we will get them all out and decide just how many suitcases and squashy bags a family of 2 actually need???

Tired Mr and Mrs Daisy

Siebrie

Daisy, it sounds like great success!

I did part of the attic, too, today, with the help of my 6-year-old dd. She was joking all the time and we had great fun I have all the 'future clothes' in big cardboard boxes in the attic, but had heard a mouse there, too :eek:, so when I saw these huge plastic containers with a tightfitting lid, I bought one, and this afternoon I put it in the attic and filled it with trousers that are waiting for dd1 (9) to grow into them. The container is huge! It holds both my dds, with space to spare after we put the lid on yet it cannot hold the complete stock of trousers..... I've asked my parents to buy three more to hold cardis, skirts/dresses, longsleeves, pyjamas, swimwear, dd2's future clothes. As you can see, I sort by type, rather than by size, because sizes may be waaayyyy off.

About 15 items were tried on by dd1, 7 made it to her wardrobe, 3 to the ironing pile, 1 to the mending pile (the waistband of a skirt is too wide), 1 was still too large, and 3 will be donated. I asked dd2 if she would ever consider wearing those items and she replied 'no' As long as we can keep everything moving, I'm fine.

camelot1001

I hope you're not going to leave your DDs in that box in the loft Siebrie!