The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

silvasava

Burtha - again there are people on here with up to date information for you. I can only offer a virtual hug to you and yours and I AM getting those pins out!

Burtha - DH has asked would you qualify for food bank in the short term. If possible it may be a breather to help what little cash you have to go a bit further.

pandamonium

Burtha, can you take ex to court for non payment of maintenance. That could force an attachment of earnings order. He will only be allowed a small amount of protected earnings. He will have to pay a percentage of everything he earns over that. Also, don't try to be Superwoman. It's OK to ask for help; says she who us notoriously rubbish at doing so. From what people have said here, it's clear people will help you if you can just bring yourself to ask.

In the meantime hugs and support. It will all work out eventually. You just have to hang in there.

burtha

Thank you,
Xx
This will get sorted , I'm praying that we get a offer from one of the 2 viewing I have over the next few days .. but thank you for the advice ...
Ex will end up paying through csa , but it will take time for them to sort ...
Today has been a long day , dd had a tearful day at college, so lots of messages back and forth to get her back into class ... but she did it
Ex called around tonight , I was getting changed when he turned up ... In the time it took me to change from trousers to jeans he had spoken to kids and had gone
... joke
Almost ran every day for a year now , im on day 349 ... hail,rain,wind,snow,beautiful sunshine ..... everyday got up and ran , over 1400 miles ... I know people ask why and they don't get it but that's ok ...
its my time , my space and if I can do that I can do anything
Night all x

ivyleaf

(((HUGS))) burtha, I'm so glad you've come back here, and glad you're still running xx

Softstuff

You're far stronger than you realise Burtha. Every time you run you show the grit and determination that you show in dealing with every single day. And in much the same way, sometimes it's a matter of just putting one foot in front of the other, pushing through and getting to the end. We're all cheering you on.

fuddle

We all have our coping mechanisms Burtha. Mine is to obsessively read anything and everything about the subject that I face. It's not healthy because it fills my head continually with the matter, adding to stress and worry. Running is another coping mechanism and I would hazard a guess that your strategy of 'fighting' is far healthier than mine but I'm never going to change and what people think of that is just tough.

LameWolf

Burtha I'm relatively new to the Garden Fence, so I hope I'm not sticking my oar in where it's not wanted.


I just wanted to send you all the coping vibes I can muster; and hope this awful situation can be properly resolved as quickly as possible.

Nargleblast

Burtha. I detect a slightly more upbeat tone in your post last night. I think your running is doing you good physically, mentally and emotionally. Just be aware that there is an army of friends here who are working on your behalf sending positive vibes and wishes for things to turn out right for you. Watch this space, Burtha, things are going to work out for you soon and you and your offspring will be in a better situation.

shanks77

Just popping on to add my good wishes and hugs to Burtha its sometimes good to know you are not alone xx

Squiggly_Diddly

Morning

Also sending positive vibes to Burtha - you’re doing brilliantly and you will come through this.

Fuddle (or fiddle as my tablet put - I think it may be related to Monna’s...). All of us have different coping strategies & they are right for us so it matters not what others think... Having been reading along this thread for years, I think you have dealt with everything life has thrown at you brilliantly, and if informing yourself thoroughly about how to manage that is what works for you, then that’s all that matters.

NM, fingers crossed for positive news about the bungalow too.

It appears to be Sunday again...Had some bits in my kitchen finally finished yesterday by the workman only 7 months later (long story). I bought this house in January & it was a probate sale, hadn’t been touched since the 70’s, so had a flurry of getting essential things done, including an unexpected full rewire :eek: Then reached a point where I had so much else going on in life & need to rebuild some money for the next lot of work that it ground to a halt and I have been living in a half-done house which was very demoralising. Now I’m settling into my new job, earning a bit more again & have my evenings/weekends back it seems easier to begin to motivate myself into doing things. Found a really pretty hot air balloon wallpaper for the reboarded/plastered wall in the kitchen, and will chase my brother to come and paint the rest. I need to have a read of the Kondo & declutter threads which I hope will help me with sorting out stuff too.

I’ve also been successfully doing slimming world for a few weeks now, lost 8lb so far and enjoying having the time to cook nice things for myself. The freezer is a bit full

Anyhow, waffling away here, so time for a cuppa I think! Have a good day all.