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  • monnagran
    monnagran Posts: 5,284 Forumite
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    burtha, we are always here my love. You can always come and scream and yell and cry, we will do our best to pick up the pieces and keep you going.
    Don't despair. Things do have a habit of working out, however unlikely it seems. It sounds as though you have hit rock bottom. They can only get better, although never fast enough for us.

    Take heart burtha. We're right with you.
    I believe that friends are quiet angels
    Who lift us to our feet when our wings
    Have trouble remembering how to fly.
  • silvasava
    silvasava Posts: 4,433 Forumite
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    Burtha - you are not alone we will all help and support in any way we can.
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
  • Well I have just had a shock. OH has been having care each morning since he came out of hospital. We get 4 - 6 weeks care free then it goes over to the social services. I have just heard from SS that the cost in the future will be almost £400 a month!! There is no way....... they obviously expect us to go without food , clothes or heat. I am staggered. The CA comes in each morning for half an hour at the most. The charge for the month is more than a months rent on our bungalow......its a farce.....
  • That's a ridiculous amount to expect you to pay Csarina.
    Hugs Burtha, we are all thinking of you.
    Chin up, Titus out.
  • Islandmaid
    Islandmaid Posts: 6,626 Forumite
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    Csarina - :eek: how can they say you need the care then put that price tag on it - hope you find a forward x

    Burtha - I just want to Hug you xx I know every situation is different, but I went through the s hittyiest of divorces 15 years ago, and made it out the other side - I wish you and your kids every tiny bit of love, luck and happiness xxx however it feels, you are doing great, you are so very strong xx
    Note to self - STOP SPENDING MONEY !!

    £300/£130
  • ginnyknit
    ginnyknit Posts: 3,718 Forumite
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    Burtha, you are a strong a good person who can do anything you set your mind to including coming out of the other side of all this in one piece xxxx


    Csarina that's ridiculous! I know you will sort it out and send them off with their tails between their legs.


    Mar hope you are out of the doldrums now xx


    NM I despair at the housing problems in this country especially when they affect my friends like you and family ( my Dd).


    Had a stupid 2 days but sorted out a big problem in the end. I don't cope well with idiots at the moment ( or ever lol) but Ive had my share today.


    Sending hugs to all xx
    Clearing the junk to travel light
    Saving every single penny.
    I will get my caravan
  • Hi Ginny, I am hoping I may get something out of my latest batch. I have been shortlisted for a very nice bungalow. Not so many on the list this time. I got a phone call this afternoon, I may get it. It is a bit out of the way so maybe people want to be in town and that is where I am going wrong. I also still have a bid in for one next to DS's block, and I have the other Housing Association forms in. There are two ground floor flats going in places that don't seem to be too popular, again well out of town. One has been to let for months.
  • ivyleaf
    ivyleaf Posts: 6,431 Forumite
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    nursemaggie May you get the bungalow if it would be the right place for you :)

    burtha Sweetheart, I have never been through a marriage break-up but I have had some unusually traumatic things happen in my life, and I can promise you that a time WILL come when you feel better x
  • burtha
    burtha Posts: 903 Forumite
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    Long day ..
    I'm still in the house , divorce is not done yet , same situation with the children ... 3mw is just that , still not paying anything , so cold house again , no money now no savings left .. but stuff I hope moving on a bit , we either sell or get reposesed by Dec .. paperwork going between solicitors now for settlement ... so I plod on , kids spinning and so unsettled , we need to be out of here and I need to get them sorted , everything is in place just taking its time to sort out ... and I'm worn out , holding together if I can but can burst into tears ... so tired ...and frustrated , he's paying ,doing ,involved in nothing , living in a very posh new house , bought buy the love of his lifes divorce settlement ... still living in a bubble ...
    If it wasn't for the kids I don't think I'd be here , think I've reached the point where I've cut myself off from everyone , I can't deal with other people on top of this , just pretend to be normal
    need to start cutting logs again soon , haven't had hot water since about may .. washing machine about to die and oven not working ...
    and last week the cat went missing ... and I didn't feel anything , and that scares me
    £223/ £250 GC
  • Oh Burtha what an a hole he is being. Hang on in there.
    Chin up, Titus out.
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