The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

LameWolf

Fuddle I've only just caught up with the thread and seen your sorry tale..... Fwiw, the man's a total R.Sole. Simple as that.

I sympathise re the "playing it over in your mind" though - I do that for at least 48-72 hours, even after a simple non-confrontational meeting with a friend! :eek:

monnagran wrote: »

Lucky you. Im waiting for the first cactus to show itself and a camel to wander down the drive.

We're gonna have to apply for a zoo license soon - what with a hefferlump, a dragon, and now a camel. I hope it's a happy camel, I wouldn't like one that constantly has the hump!

I'll get my coat.......

[Deleted User]

We have a Camel??? is he called HUMPHREY? or is ALICE the camel who has three humps as in the song?

moneyistooshorttomention

'Cept the one thing I don't do - ever - is "laugh, smile and chat" with the two neighbours concerned. I steer the widest berth I possibly can and just won't have anything at all to do with them - ever.

It became easier to deal with mine when I realised it wasnt "personal" in some ways. They were almost certainly going to be the same to any neighbour that wasn't as "local" as they are. They had a two point plan in their minds. Their preferred option was "Money is to do as she is told by us and graciously ask our permission to do work on her own darn property". Their fallback option was "Get Money to move back where she came from".

At which point I decided I had an advantage over them - as they were obviously pretty stupid. They had no idea of the "usual mindset" where I'm from or they would have realised pdq there was zilch choice of ordering me around (we tend to have a questioning mindset/and zilch respect for "sacred cows"). Followed by "If you want me to move back/when you must realise it's cost me thousands of £s of my money to move here in the first place - then howzabout coming up with a few options as to how to fund it. No options = not possible - and if they were too daft to realise that I don't do things I can't afford to = more fool them".

LameWolf

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

We have a Camel??? is he called HUMPHREY? or is ALICE the camel who has three humps as in the song?

Maybe it's like the one in the Pratchett books - called You B*stard. :rotfl:

fuddle

Lyn and I came to the same conclusion yesterday money. I'm an incomer who wouldn't be told, tow the line at the plots and that has followed me home. He's racist, sexist and very small minded. When my kitchen was finished he was falling over himself to have a look. His excuse was to bring DH a paint roller. To his surprise it was I painting. 'Oh' he says 'Er I brought DH a roller but seen as you' re burning your bra I'd best give it to you' "thanks" says I "but I'm well kitted for the job. To be honest that roller isn't appropriate as it's a glossing roller, used for door panels you know? I need an emulsion roller see the difference in texture?" he was annoyed I could tell. I think it's from there that it went downhill with the start being the complaint over the chicken fencing.

So I think we're in similar circumstances the only difference is I was born and bred in this county, my problem is I'm a woman who dares not be chained to the kitchen sink, has a voice and will try owt.

That must have been a stressful time for you money. I agree, my neighbours will never have the light of my or my children's smiles again, nor the chirpy attitude and witty sense of humour from my DH. They have lost out on a rapport with some pretty decent neighbours, even if that sounds like I'm blowing my own trumpet. We have lost nothing in the end and gained peace. My eldest got very knarked at the situation. I think she's going to be one tough cookie as she gets older.

Elona_2

fuddle

You are right about it being their loss as they could have had friendly and helpful people who would look out for them in case they needed help (especially if they are older) and they threw it in your face. Enjoy your lovely family and hell mend the neighbour!

Hard_Up_Hester

My solicitor suggested I could sue the vendor I bought my last house from as the vendor hadn't mentioned all the problems there had been with the neighbours, I didn't bother as the vendor was the cause of the problems.

ivyleaf

Mr ivyleaf has just been helping me do the online application for my Freedom Pass. DS took a photo of me on his phone earlier for the purpose, and emailed it to me. As I uploaded it, I couldn't but wonder how someone with such a handsome father (and he was - the first time they saw a photo of him as a young man my daughters exclaimed "Wow - Grandad was a dish!" and pretty mother could be so odd-looking but I expect we all think we're odd-looking when we see a passport-type photo of ourselves. At least I was allowed to smile in this one!

monnagran

Sympathies Ivyleaf. When the woman who took my passport photo saw the finished article she was horrified and offered to do it again.
I said not to bother, if anyone queried it I would say that in the flesh I was the New Improved Version.
Sadly no one has ever queried it.

nannywindow

Hello all, long time no see :wave:
Been having a few personal issues so have been reading along, but not posting on here.

I just wanted to congratulate all of you on this thread, you take everything in your stride. From Fuddles woes with her neighbours ( keep your chin up lovely, he's not worth spitting on even if he was on fire ) to Monna's mutterings about a challenging tablet, to today's offerings of a camel :eek: and lots more in between.
Thank you one and all :A

nan xx