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burtha

Why is it that food shopping makes you want to scream , god knows what my kids have lived on the last 3 weeks ... need to sort myself out , fridge now empty all thrown out ... restock but don't know what to get anymore ??? .....
Not buying rubbish , but just can't think straight ...
Wish me luck

Hard_Up_Hester

Hugs Burtha,

pollyanna_26

Burtha Beans on toast , egg and chips , baked potatoes , home made soups ( if you have the strength and energy ) quick stuff will do for now .
Too much for you to think about and sort already . Just get through a few days at a time for now .
Hope you get some support for both youngest and yourself at the Drs.
She will benefit from proper meds and therapy . So hopefully Monday will start the process .
I can't see what 5 minutes of his time is meant to achieve . Just long enough to prod the wounds for you all .?
polly

Floss

Burtha my DS2 was seen by the local CAMHS team aged 12/13, me & his dad split up just as he went to high school aged 11. Go to your GP with your youngest asap and also update them on your own health & new circumstances.

Also, can the older kids help with cooking? Or buy ready-made lasagnes etc to see you over this rough patch?

Finally, if he has left anything, (I did this and found it very therapeutic ) bag it up into those lovely cheap black bags from £land, (take everything downstairs before stuffing them as full as possible so they don't split - yet), and tell him it is waiting for him to collect. Then stand behind the bedroom curtains watching & giggling as the bags split before he gets them into his car Petty, but so very satisfying!

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BURTHA if he's left, he needs to know he can't come and go as he pleases, that the world has changed and he needs to ask if it's convenient and perhaps it shouldn't always be convenient at a time of his choosing. He has walked away and needs to learn to live with that as a decision. You and the children have new lives to forge, new conditions to adapt to and his wants and needs now must come last in the order of things. You aren't there at his convenience any longer, let him reap what he's sown and make him grow up and act like an adult, heaven knows, he needs to!

MMF007

Frustrating weekend! Trying to plan a trip next year but no agreement with DH yet. This year I wanted to splash some redundancy money and have a week in Switzerland but DH not kean so we are having a week in Scotland (I love Scotland but go there often). Next year I want to go to Iceland. Timing is difficult because we have 3 big family events over summer. I narrowed plans down to a choice of 2 itineries but guess what? DH prefers one and I prefer the other. Doh.

Anyway, it's a luxury 'problem' and I am lucky to be able to consider the holiday at all (part of our 5 year plan, before we entered self-employment, was to make sure we could have a holiday every year for the next 5 years!).

I expect we will agree on something, eventually.

ETA - i do know how lucky we are . When I was growing up I never, ever, thought I would holiday abroad because only my rich friends could do that!

mardatha

You go for it MMF, life is too short and we have to grab it while we can. I'm stuck with the RV who screams and faints if you suggest staying away in a strange bed (uttered in tones of shocked horror) for even one night!!

Hard_Up_Hester

Oh Mar, poor you, I love my CHS but sometimes husbands drive you to distraction don't they.

We had a row in the supermarket yesterday, last week CHS bought 3 packs of meat for £10, I told him it would be wasted as he wouldn't be able to eat it before it went off, but did he listen? No of course not, it was pork so I couldn't eat it.

So this week he wanted to buy 5 chicken breasts and a pack of chicken wings, for 2 of us! I don't have a freezer and the fridge is small and unreliable, hence the row!

ivyleaf

Went to the Eye Clinic on Saturday. It was manic, but they are trying out a new system whereby patients are there for longer but as much as possible is done during the one visit. People who thought they were there to see a doctor with a view to arranging laser treatment, for example, were delighted to hear that, if they able to wait, it could be done that day! (This would be laser treatment to correct a problem, not for correcting short- or long- sightedness.)

Anyway, I can have my first eye done in about 4 weeks, and had all the preparatory work done on Saturday, so we were there about 3 hours but it was worth it. I'm really nervous about it though (I couldn't convince the doctor, who said cheerfully that he was sure I'd be fine as I wasn't coming across as an anxious person! He'd known me, what, a couple of minutes? Silly man :mad:)
So I think I will see the GP and get some diazepam or something. I'm taking St John's Wort and it's just started working but I'll probably need to stop taking that before the surgery

The doctor said I will still need to wear glasses full-time afterwards because I have astigmatism, so I'm ridiculously disappointed about that as I know most people only need them for reading, but at least they will be much thinner, and much cheaper. Having worn them for over 50 years it would have been so nice to be rid of them.

ivyleaf

Now feeling guilty about complaining, as at least I don't need injections in my eyes like poor Hester!