The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

pollyanna_26

MrsCD said:

Oh dear, polly, you have been through the mill. Hope things turn around for you soon.
Glad you're felling better, burtha. We had covid in June and it took a while to feel back to sort of normal again. 
I'm still getting most of our shopping delivered from asda. Dd told me to get their rewards app  so I did, thinking it would be a waste of time, but I've had loads of money back, which I share with dd and dad when I work out who owes me what for the shopping. I thought if it paid for delivery, I'd be happy but I've had around £40 back since I started at the end of June! It all helps. I've also managed to save a big cushion of credit on our electricity bill so it will help to balance out the big hikes over the winter. I'm grateful to be able to pay our bills.
Take care x

I'm feeling a lot better a couple of painkillers have worked. I was convinced I'd go out like a light but though I'm yawning I'm still wide awake.

The really lovely young man in the Coop who opens a big checkout puts all my shopping through the till packing as he goes said some odd things last night myself and the man behind me with his little boy found strange. He's normally quite chatty in a general way He said they should bring BJ back as PM as he got rid of the virus, worked hard day and night and deserved the holidays and parties. He's like Trump a great leader and together they would be a great team.

I was rooted to the spot. He has worked throughout the pandemic ECV himself has had time off sick sometimes.

I asked ifhe knew both hospitals in our trust have patients with the latest Omicron variant and booked appts have had to be postboned again.

Well he was on a mission. The man behind me asked if he knew the NHS was on it's knees. Just more how BJ was the man we need . he's never spoken like that before but seemed keen that Trump was part of his plan.

I've been wondering if his meds have been changed .In the past a change in meds had a bad effect on youngest and Superdoc would sort that.

I had lots of things in my head long out of date PPE redated and supplied to the NHS which cost medical staff their lives. Going in to hospitals and workplaces with his dressing up box pretending to be one of the boys. Images of him pretending to drive a Blackpool Tram and me hoping he didn't come here.

My son saying if he wanted his orange jacket he'd have to fight him for it. It wasn't fancy dress but if he noticed an obstuction or possible fatality on the line ahead he had to slam on the dead mans handle to slow the train put his jacket on so he was visible get out of his cab and investigate radioing ahead to stop other trains if needed.

Others will have different opiinions but back in the London Mayor days the image of BJ dangliing from the zip wire waving two union jacks meant he was a performer rather than a doer.

As someone who never needed tech the laptop is my limit. My bank has always had telephone banking so don't bank online. have a basic big button mobile. Don't need a smartphone or apps. Youngest has a really good smartphone and uses apps but I don't feel the need. it costs me little and i prefer the privacy of not having different accounts to keep an eye on.

Milkman will be here in a hour and I'm still awake it's raining but still not in pain just tired,

pollyx

silvasava

Polly, yes it was me who had the BiL with the wool club back in the 60's  

Pleased you've recovered from Covid Burtha

pollyanna_26

silvasava said:

Polly, yes it was me who had the BiL with the wool club back in the 60's  

Pleased you've recovered from Covid Burtha

Sorry I misspelt your name. It's a long time since the wool club discussion but every now and then I've tried to remember who mentioned that wool club. Sometimes I thought I'd imagined it,

I  hope all is well with you and yours.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

Brought the milk in at 7am decided to make a cup of tea and drink it in bed before getting dressed.I finally fell asleep a short while later and slept for a couple of hours. Feel more like myself now.

I must say I do understand why people use apps for various reasons. The moneysaving aspect sounds good. All the years of needing to collect youngests meds from the town pharmacy are over.

First the surgery were phoning me each month to check if she needed any additional meds with the repeats. I'd collect the prescripions and take them to town.

When the sheilding funding was stopped dd was still ordered to shield. Surgery asked me to post a paper request each month through their special letter box and pick up the prescriptions when they were ready. As they're on the same site as the Coop that was easy to do;

When cases started to rise again and town was somewhere to avoid Boots set up an app and youngest could order her meds each month. As a patient registered at that pharmacy since she was a baby they deliver free. They deliver to the nursing home next door every day so it;'s working well.

Surgery, Vaccination Hub, Health and wellbeingnow contact her via apps. I have had to pick up her monthly bloods forms for her blood tests at the hub because there doesn't seem to be an app for that. Surgery have the forms ready and waiting so not a big deal.

You've got me  wondering why I never planted a plum tree burtha. I've always liked Victoria plums but never thought of growing

 them.

It's been almost impossible to find decent baking potatoes. Something I really enjoy with grated red Leicester cheese, salad or veg/ My maincrop aren't quite ready and as Coop source local produce where possible I suspect it's the same for the local farms.

The flat leaved parsley is the gift that keeps on giving so think I'll get my little Kenwood chopper out and chop it to freeze in bags.

Handy for parsey dumplings I need to check the suet supplies in the cupboard didn't even look in store yesterday.

Think I'll phone my friends with the Organic smallholding to ask about their bakers.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

I managed to avoid the news by leaving the TV off and not looking online. It was quite theraputic after the years of everything focused on Downing St. I now know who will be PM it was pretty much obvious.

Just feel very disconnected from it all, relieved we'll be spared the hustings and speeches. Not my circus or my monkeys but my pain levels have dropped and I reckon I will sleep tonight.

My friends maincrop are a bit late so down to the ups and downs in the weather.

Even in tough times we never went hungry. Iwould like to see some positive action on the higher utility costs but am not over confident we will.

i think it's a case of take it one day at a time and bear in mind we've  known tough times before and survived.

I managed for two years without a washing machine after youngest was born. Washer broke down the toxic one couldn't care less so I was doing all the washing in the bath and rinsing and trying to wring things out. I used to stagger downstairs with laundry baskets full out to the washing lines and watch it dripping away.

The big freezer and homemade meals meant after two years I had saved enough for a new machine. Athough the two forms of Arthritis youngest and I have were inherited from my mum along with the fibro I don't think mine would have been so bad if I hadn't been bending over the bath or carrying heavy washing  baskets. The rotator cuff tears go back years and were a result of his bad temper. However I'm still here.

I'm managing to carry on knitting my big blanket squares so think the steroids are working. I have warm clothes and bedding so wont freeze.Always looked after my clothes and footwear and have lots of thick jumpers.

My focus was we would never again be controlled by anyone and I would make sure we weren't.

I'll leave the powers that be to argue amongst themselves and concentrate on what is important.

pollyx

MrsCD

I watched the news just to see the announcement and the new PMs speech, nothing else. This morning, in the pharmacy, I saw a lady with a child of African heritage. He's obviously special needs, and I said hello to him. She said he was diagnosed as non verbal and would never walk, but with a lot of support and work by him, he can do both. I was so impressed by them. We could all learn a lot from them....

pollyanna_26

Over many years we met some wonderful parents, carers. older and young patients. Many brave, determined and proactive.

The NHS was already badly underfundedd and many weren't getting the care they needed.

I had to go from quiet to forceful We had a brilliant GP but there were some consultants who shouldn't have been anywhere near ill people.

One was supposed to be giving dd a steroid injection as the rheumatoid athrits had flared. Superdoc had given her oral steroids but she needed something more effective. The consultant was hours late he'd been shopping in Tesco. There was a huge queue and dd was first in the queue.

We went ito his room with some nurses. He was in a foul mood snapping and snarling at everyone. DD was gazing at the door and I was thinking any minute now she'll be out of here.

He grabbed hold of her still shouting and produced a very big needle. The sister in the room said wrong meedle Dr. His reply be quiet and call me Mister.

We later discovered he was one of the ordinary Drs not a Consultant or Mr. He tightened his grip and plunged the needle into dds ankle damaging  the tendons. She was screaming and a few nurses ran out of the room.

The recently appointed hospital Matron came in with the nurses. Put her arm round dd and told him to get out of the room.

Our GP received the usual letter full of lies. He also received one from the matron. He is on the board of our Hospital Trust and the Dr was gone.

DD was referred to a Rheumatologist in the further away hospital who denied dd had fibro forcing her arm up her back to prove it. I asked if she had read the notes. A few years after I was diagnosied with Fibro by the worlds leading expert in the condition dd was too.

Dd just headed for the door and took off. I was being told do bring her back she'll be waiting for you in the coffee shop. I said she'll be heading for the exit. She has never been in this area before doesn't know where she is and there's a big road outside.Myself and some nurses ran through the hospital, we were on the 2nd floor and had to get to the exit before she did.

We didn't find here inside but tucked in a little area outside crying.

The horrible one hadsaid she only had a year to go and she could retire on her full pension and escape all the moaning and complaints. Superdoc copied us in to letters from hospitals so we always got the same reports as he did. I read the letter she had an appt that day and he had the same letter.

She'd dictated a complete work of fiction and worse of all got the lovely junior rhuematologist to sign it. She never got to claim her full pension she was gone.

You discover a lot with a very ill dd. Dd 2 who is a child safeguarding officer with decades of experience in our lovely Montessori nursery where she did work experience while at college.

Since the pandemic she was asked to be assistant manager along with travelling to case conferences to fight for children she knows are neglected and often abused and others on the autisic spectum or with learning difficulties who aren't getting the help they need.

The nursery has a cook and kitchen staff who every day cook all meals taking in to account intolerences, allergies or other dietry needs.

Fees include all meals. Music sessions. French Sessions and Daily Active Play Sessions. Also each age group has time with their head of room and dd has kept spending time with her 4 year olds.

They accept childcare vouchers and tax free grants. Free funding for 15 hours of childcare/

It's been touch and go in the last few years whether they can afford to stay open as that funding promised by Govt seldom arrived. Our local GPs send their children there and pay in full. Famous footballers and Managers sent their children there.

Our hospital staff rely on it bur many fighting the pandemic could no longer do so with the Govt help not showing up.

Near the end of the 1st year dd took an evening job in a nursing home to supplement her pay all staff had agreed a voluntary pay cut to keep the nursery open.

She is asthmatic and was exhausted but is very independant and wouldn't accept help.

It wasn't just Marcus Rashford fighting a government it was many for different reasons. The system is broken and this is why I get angry a properly funded nhs. education system and others could have weathered the storm but they were already in trouble.

pollyx

MrsCD

Your DD has done amazing things, polly, and could only have done so with your support and her experts who actually listened to you both. 
Our DD was a 'refuser' and we had some very good supporters who made it possible for her to go to school, but there were some who just thought she should get a grip and behave.  They didn't want to understand.  She's now head of an early years unit and is trying to educate others on how introverted children think and behave.

pollyanna_26

dd loved primary school though sometimes she found socialising difficult. The best thing that happened to her was me marching.into senior school shortly after she began her 2nd year tp inform the head and her year head I was removing her from formal education and would home school her. Letters already on the way to school and home ed at our local education dept.

Something hadn't been right simce she started there. she wasn't talking about it to me or Superdoc.

She was often home late sometimes neighbours would find her lying on the pavement ad phone me. She'd say she'd fallen over.

I was just going to put my coat on to see her  when the phone rang.

A teacher driving her home from hospital they've patched her up and I've told her she's been a very silly girl. A short while later she let dd out of the car and went to drive away. Both dds arms were bandaged so I said you need to come inside not drive away.

DD was crying but teacher said she's been silly cutting herself in the toilets.

That's when I discovered she'd been bullied from day 1. Not clumsy falls but physical attacks. Her head of year had also been a bully calling her an attention seeker and laughing at her in class.

I'd had numerous meetings with that head of year but she said dd was lazy.

I told her I would be in to talk to the head and her the next day. Made a bed on the sofa for dd and phoned my head to ask if someone could take my class the next morning she said she would be with them all the next day and not to worry.

I wrote the letters asked another friend If she would sit with dd for a few hours while I was at the school.

Posted the letters on my way there, Had ameeting with the new male head no bullying in his school a waste of time, Same with the head of year was advised to send her back to school ad said you will never see her or me again.

The leader of home ed was lovely and her husband was a distance learning teacher funded by the EU. he started With tech but she was ahead of him already. He asked what she liked so she said photography, the planets, books , animals allsorts.

Rather than distance learning he called twice a week depending on the weather they'd walk to the botanical gardens and she'd take loads of pictures or watch the animals in the little zoo.

bad weather he'd bring us a hot pastie or sometimes a 99 and we'd chat. I was furious at the school but glad I took her away.

She had a better education than she would have got there.

She is in her late 30s now and was nearly13 when Itook her out of school.

When just over 2 years ago our local news told of a lovely young girl  who took her own life after being attacked in the most evil way possible by a male classmate at that school I thought how is this still happening.

Her mum watching Drs fighting to save her after a hefty overdose had no idea why it had happened until she whispered about how dirty and ashamed she felt. They couldn't save her.

They had to have a strong police prescence at the funeral as pupils from that school turned up to do damage. There has since been damage to her grave.

It makes me shudder that could have been my daughter. The school is still open no idea what the staff are like.

You must have given your dd a lot of support so well done to you both.

Things seem to have got worse for many youngsters there are a lot of of uncaring neglectful parents now. DD2 had to physically pull a swearing shouting so called mother off her little boy obviously autistic and report her to social services. He is safe now in foster care.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

Mrs CD I think it's wonderful of your dd to attempt to educate others on how introverted children feel. most of the time it's been one way fits all. Youngest was a refuser although I was in her view in her primary. I used to be trying to drag her out of bed if I didn't work bills wouldn't be paid.

That carried over until she learned Superdoc was on her side and would be more willing to go to her 2 weekly appts with him.

I have just discovered who the new health secretary is and for once I have no words!

Superdoc will have the yoga mat out trying to calm down.

I've been hoping to spot Larry the cat but haven;t seen him.

pollyx