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pollyanna_26

MrsCD said:

MingVase said:

I am lucky with the hands, although I've got knobbly lumpy hands with swollen joints, they don't hurt. Yet. I tend to knit faster now in case suddenly I can't knit at all anymore. Which is kind of daft.

It sounds a bit like when you're running out of yarn so you knit faster!  My hands are starting to get knobbly too. The one I'm most concerned about is my ring finger. I can't get my wedding ring off any more and it's starting to worry me.

Hello  @ZolaBuddy I'm fairly new around here too, but everyone is very nice and ready to have a chat/laugh/grumble. 

My mum had both Rheumatoid and OsteoArthrits . She had one of those WW2 Utility wedding rings from her wartime wedding. No idea what would happen nowadays but iit had to be cut off as it was tight and her finger was swelling.

Years latershe told us dad wanted to buy her ano ther ring but she didn't want another one.

When she died many years after dad there was a little blue box in her dressing table drawer. Two halves of a thin golden wedding band. A silver Half Crown and an old fashioned threepenny bit. Youngest auntie  explaned they were good luck tokens on the wedding day. Some people would spend them but mum never did..My dads last sea books from when he left the  Royal Navy were there too showing a young blonde man when my dads hair had darkened over the years,

Mum was having a formal burial according to her wishes so we gave the box and sea books to the undertaker to go with her to her rest.

Could you bear to take your ring off and wear it on a chain round your neck? Don't know if you are getting help from your Gp or a consultant but some meds can slow progress in Arthritis and or Rheumatic disease . Youngests hands and fingers  are in much better shape than mine as she's had the meds over the years Some of them are strong and I refused them because one of us had to be functional at appts and keeping track of things. The difference with and without is obvious.

polyx

MrsCD

I haven't really pushed the gp about it yet. When I've been for other things, like my mot, I mentioned the bumps to the nurse and she just brushed me off. Not a lot of pain yet, just a bit stiff at times and some days I have to pace myself so I don't get carpal tunnel problems as well. I'm trying to lose weight to see if it helps with getting the ring off! 

nannywindow

Burtha glad to hear you're having a good break. I had to g00gle "kelpies" as I'd never heard that before.
MrsCD the only ring I can't remove is my late Mum's wedding ring which I wear on my other hand middle finger. Strangely all my others are ok.
Zola we live half way up a mountain and the skies here on a clear night are beautiful. You get used to the owls screeching and the noisy foxes but I don't much care for the bats when they fly past you in the summer. 
Polly I realised that I had seen that episode of Staged with MS and DT and the wayward hair, think everyone empathised with that during lockdown. 
Monna I'm so glad to see you you are ok. I'm not so impressed that you're still clearing your friends flat because you put me to shame with all the work you do. However I really am so sorry to read that he is on end of life care.
I always wanted to be tall and willowy with long flowing locks but I'm another one who is vertically challenged and sadly I have unruly hair like a thick dried out mop. However I am now at an age when I have no shame in asking  young men taller people to get things down from the shelves in the supermarket or reach into the freezers just in case I should I fall in ! Shame we can't all have a hot waiter in the wardrobe, although I do have the Sandman in mine. He's a Thor "before he let himself go" lookalike 😜 with a pink sparkly wand and I do allow him out to visit other insomniacs in order to sprinkle his magic dust. BTW I hope you are still looking after the waiter well and let him out of the wardrobe occasionally 😁  Right I'd better go and have a cold shower 🚿
Take care all.
nan

MingVase

I'm shocked at you lot. The abuse and tutting I got about keep- erm accomodating Peter Ginn in my shed just for a few wee weeks too..

pollyanna_26

MrsCD said:

I haven't really pushed the gp about it yet. When I've been for other things, like my mot, I mentioned the bumps to the nurse and she just brushed me off. Not a lot of pain yet, just a bit stiff at times and some days I have to pace myself so I don't get carpal tunnel problems as well. I'm trying to lose weight to see if it helps with getting the ring off! 

There can be a fair bit of brushing off where atrhriits of all types anf fibro are concerned . We're lucky with a brilliant GP but have met some bad some bad consultants Long journeys in pain to be dismissed or argued with meant we voted with our feet and GP found better.

If your GP is ok you need to get an appt with them though since the pandemic many seem to have to get past nurses with strong opinions first.

I can tell you from experience the earlier you seek help the better . Because youngest had a lot of health problems and was losing her mobility I prioritised her health and refused the meds our GP offered me because i cculdn't be zonked out if she woke during the night. her pain is now well managed with the occassional flares .  Mine not so.

Every surgeries patients are funded within the NHS and healthcare should be available from a Dr at the point of need.Many practices seem to have adopted a triage system over the last couple of years where a nurse will question you to see if you need the Dr. nurse can't diagnose you so you can ask the Practice manage for an appt with your GP.

i didn't have a great deal of choice when I refused meds because of youngest but we share three diagnosed conditions each. My mum had the three but they had different names back then.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

MingVase said:

I am lucky with the hands, although I've got knobbly lumpy hands with swollen joints, they don't hurt. Yet. I tend to knit faster now in case suddenly I can't knit at all anymore. Which is kind of daft.

That's not daft at all Mar. My mums two favourite pastimes were knitting and baking and she  was usually doing one or the other. Over time she was diagnosed with what is now Osteo Arhriitis , Then Fibrositis Fibromyalgia now  She also had Psoriasis. These days that's often Psotriatic Arthritis nowadays although Psoriasis is also a seperate condition.

I had Psoriasis until my mid teens and after that the rash would only appear if I was stressed. Youngest had the rash from her early teens but better meds now minimise outbreaks.

All three of us shared the same conitions and youngest is the one who benfited from more powerful medication and disease modifying drugs. I could have had the meds but didn't MTX can be prett powerul and if I'd taken it too things just wouldn;t  have got done.

Mum only ever took Anadin for pain she'd buy it from the chemist. The joimts got worse and the pain and she worried about knitting and baking as she was struggling.

She died younger than imagined will something not connected  to her diagnosed conditions. My sons wife was in theatre with forst baby needing a Ceaser. Mum wasn't well I got a call to say she'd passed away that night then another from son with the news of a baby girl. There was one white bootie in mums room and one almost finished .   we weren't aware  auntie had taken the knitting in to her but she finished the 2nd one and threaded the ribbons,

It was a strange day I had to go  into work to arrange cover for my class and asked about the baby had to say she was in the special care baby unit just needig some time then when asked how mum was different nres.

I never saw mum knitting when I went to visit but she did.Asked Auntie if she;d done  the kniitting but said I just finished it off she'd have wanted that. We can't predict what we will and wont be able to do in the future but you're an habitual knitter as my mum was wheras I flit between, sewing ,knitting and CCS .So  you're more lkiely to keep on knitting than me.

pollyx

mehefin

As we are all as mad as a box of frogs can I ask what is the current situation with the heffalump?

mehefin

Incidentally I can't knit, sew or do much else useful 

weenancyinAmerica

Weren't the heffalumps going on an ocean cruise?

MingVase

mehefin said:

As we are all as mad as a box of frogs can I ask what is the current situation with the heffalump?

Thank you so much mehefin. Just as I was being rehabilitated in respectable Fence society you have to go dragging in elephants.

*notes mehefin's name*