The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

burtha

hi ivy
no it was just because I can lol ..
 I'm on day 1123 today of running everyday.  so a run just to say sod it , I'm nearly 50 , 4 kids now 5 grandkids and yeah I can do this . 
 I CAN do this . 
 never say never 
x

pollyanna_26

You made me laugh too burtha. Full Roman Solidiers outfit is priceless. You should have invited us.

I'm loving your positive attitude whatever life throws at you, you deal with as it happens. I'm so glad you stood out for your freedom to be you rather than running round like a slave after the toxic one. Your family have seen first hand what is unacceptable in life and there can be a better way.

Ivyleaf it's been strange. I have stacks of the mid year diaries with full pages going back years. Since Superdoc rang and ordered dd to stay indoors at the beginning of March long before the letters went out I've been crossing out arranged appts, writing in the new dates then they get moved forward again. The 3rd planned attempt to see her Rheumotologist is now next spring.

Year after year she'd be face to face with Superdoc in the surgery every two weeks. Last time she saw him was 28th Feb and its all been phone since then. Her Rheumotologist and Rheumo nurse have phoned. Practice nurse does home visits for bloods and asthma checks.

Surgery staff have been wonderful. They were phoning monthly to take the meds orders and send them to the pharmacy. Beginning of August they were no longer able to do that. Sheilding declared ended and many people left unsupported. Dd is ok she has me and is with her boyfriend but I worry for those alone and isolated.

I hope things get easierJamanda. Stress is horrible even in normal times. Take care of yourself. As I've said to my dd many times over the years " This too shall pass"

pollyx

pollyanna_26

No sign of the wee scottish minx since early this morning , Bet she out in her wellies and oilskins with cement and a trowel making the wall higher and locking the gates.

I may need SBS and a helicopter.

pollyx

MingVase

I may need SBS and a helicopter.

pollyx

Ye'll need more than that!

monnagran

Ah Polly has reminded me.

Amanda (sorry, tablet has renamed you, don't blame me.)  Something we used to say here.

This too will pass,  It might pass like a kidney stone, but it WILL pass.


There.  Doesn't that make you feel bitter better?

pollyanna_26

I would only mention the kidney stone when dd needed a good laugh Monna. Thankfully her various aliments didn't involve kidney stones.

Keep listening for the sound of helcopters heading your way Mar. Hulking SBS guys and helicopters wont fit under the patio, Unless you're having a laugh and posting from Balmoral. No spoit cat but dogs at your feet.

We seem to be turning nocturnal. I've been racking my brains but haven't yet figured out how we can hibernate and still be ok come spring. I'm not likng this weather at all and it's only October. We need to solve hibernation or waterproofing arks. Some heavy duty knitting will keep you know who out of mischief.. The idea of waking some time next year to someone wandering the streets like the old knockers up shouting You can all come out now is quite appealing.

Before I forget for anyone who buys disposable face masks the vat will rise at the end of the month. So grab em while you can.

pollyx

burtha

Polly, ref people struggling with meds , pharmacy stuff or day to day problems .  the nhs volunteer thing is still going till March,  pharmacys can refer but you can also self refer , phone number is available on the nhs website.  
I.dont know how good it is , I've tried not to see / watch to much news over the last few months.  just worked through it ... strange times 

jamanda

monnagran said:

Ah Polly has reminded me.

Amanda (sorry, tablet has renamed you, don't blame me.)  Something we used to say here.
This too will pass,  It might pass like a kidney stone, but it WILL pass.
There.  Doesn't that make you feel bitter better?

Amanda is my daughter actually.  Things should start to improve soon.  I've had my mum living with me for about 8 years (with dementia).  We pottered on OK until she broke her hip a few weeks ago.  She was in hospital for 3.5 weeks and then I had to put her in a care home - 2.5 weeks until she died 3 weeks ago.

I couldn't bring her back home because she needed two trained people to move her and I wouldn't have been able to do it without her arm falling off or something.  I was lucky in that the care home I chose (without visit due to covid) were so kind to her.  The thing that gets me most, I think, is that she never saw anyone without a mask from when she got into hospital.  Visits were 1 hour per day in hospital, and due to "end of life" diagnosis I was able to visit the lockdowned care home for around 15 minutes a day.  She had no pain and couldn't remember she was broken, so kept trying to get up for a wander round.  6 weeks from start to finish with the funeral tomorrow.  This sounds strange but I think she was quite lucky really.  The dementia was galloping along and other problems were emerging, which upset her.  I think that to go with no pain was remarkable.  She was 89.  RIP Mum.

Nargleblast

So sorry to read that, jamanda. In time you will discover that her death happened at the right time for her, dementia is a savagely cruel condition. In the meantime, look after yourself and let things evolve as they will.

pollyanna_26

Be gentle on yourself Jamanda. I've found it heatbreaking to read of the emotional fallout for family and loved ones during the pandemic. Nargle is right, dementia is a very cruel condition. To go to her final rest free from pain is a blessing may she rest in peace.

Be kind to yourself ,

Early this year I read something by a young hospital doctor. "So they've dressed me up and I'm standing at the foot of my next patients bed watching them slowly wake. Suddenly I think God would I want to woke up and see Darth Vader watching me from the foot of my bed. This patient is elderly , sometimes knows who I am in normal times and will often smile when I say it's Dr J how are you feeling now? We have to do better than this."

He was in full scrubs rather than his normal ward visit clothes, long gloves , mask and a clear full face visor.

Ward staff had a discussion and printed pictures of themselves they wore on the scrubs on the pictures they had hello I'm DrJ, Nurse P ,Annie whose come to make you comfy and help with your breakfast etc. Stopping to think what can we do made such a difference in a scary time when everyone was run off their feet , learning as they went along , exhausted and sad.

A few days ago there was an item on Granada NW news about a deaf woman with a deaf child. The mum lip reads and her child is learning to in school. Of course the problem now is how can you lip read when you can't see someones mouth behind a mask?

Teachers are wearing masks , shop workers ,pretty well everyone in fact.

The mum came up with masks with a large clear panel with a full view from near the bottom of the nose to the chin. Not only those with deafness but those with autism who need to work out peoples mood etc, those with dementia and other conditions are finding them helpful.

She has her husband manning a sewing machine too and it made me think how those with disabilities are the perfect people to solve these problems because they live with them daily. When we were sewing scrubs in the early days of no proper ppe I'd seen a regular poster on another part of the forum who was doing so . I came across a young woman with disabilities who normally earned her living making theatrical costumes  etc. That work had dried up no theatres , live shows etc. She started sewing scrubs and many joined in. That's just two examples of problem solving but there are many more not just here in the NW.

I seem to have written a mini book!

pollyx