The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

PasturesNew

phillw wrote: »

Get your haircuts at the local college and avacado and kale from aldi. Middle class lifestyle sorted.

LOL.

Actually my "local college" charges the same exhorbitant rates as a proper salon.... but I have found one 30 miles away that does it cheaper/at an acceptable price. I'll get round to phoning them one day ..... I've not had my hair cut by a "proper person" for 4-5 years.

I've never had avocado or kale. Nor do I crave them

Going into Aldi is tricky - they've been gentrifying. It used to be a shop with low prices for food .... now it's gone all smart and up market and sells expensive things, again "normalising" things people "don't need" by having them in there.

You'd have never got avocado or kale in Aldi years ago, or its ilk....

SingleSue

I ask the boys for vouchers towards my hair cut and colour...once a year. Ultimate money saving as it then doesn't cost me a penny!

Re lifestyle, it was less middle class and more social housing estate expectation/behaviour in their case (and I say this as a social housing inhabitant!). Think of the old White lightening sayings/depiction of yesteryear and substitute it with cheap voddy and being generally obnoxious.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

LOL.

Actually my "local college" charges the same exhorbitant rates as a proper salon.... but I have found one 30 miles away that does it cheaper/at an acceptable price. I'll get round to phoning them one day ..... I've not had my hair cut by a "proper person" for 4-5 years.

Do you cut your hair yourself? :eek:

PasturesNew

GDB2222 wrote: »

Do you cut your hair yourself? :eek:

Well, kind of "cut", let's use that term loosely.

It's about shoulder length or so ... and has always been layered. It's pretty thick.

I get a flexitub and the nearest scissors, then I kind of loosely section it by hand, pull lumps through my fingers, lean over a bit and snip the ends into the tub until I get bored of it, or until "that'll do".

Looks all right to me

PasturesNew

Today is service/MoT day ... hope it passes.

Beginning to wonder if I should've had the service and MoT on the same day because if it fails the MoT catastrophically, then would having it serviced have been any good

*fingers crossed* eh ... like last year, and the one before ...

I've had it nine years so far. It's not broken down or needed anything for MoT to date. I've replaced windscreen wipers, 2-3 tyres, new battery and a new windscreen (£75 excess). That's been it.

Next week: Tax disc.

Week after: Insurance. Actually, better check that online right now.. EDIT: Ah, I have to dig out paperwork and/or remember who I'm insured with and phone them. Not had a letter, so it must be all right.... it's either CoOp or Saga. Got it, end of April

It's never ending!

Jackmydad

I've got my MOT and service next week. Car's nine years old, we've had it for 8. Not a lot of miles.
Nothing for MOTs yet. . .
Fingers crossed for you and me!
You've always got your hand in your pocket if you have a car though!

Cakeguts

I will admit that what is annoying me about the sanitary products is not actually the cost. What is annoying me is the value of the daughter to the parent. If you can't pay 25p for packet of 10 sanitary towels your daughter is not worth anything to you. It is as if they don't exist. It isn't as if it would be a surprise that they need the sanitary towels.



It isn't just the sanitary towels this means no toothpaste, hair shampoo, toilet paper, (unless you can buy single rolls) soap, or shoes. The thing that worries me most is the shoes. These children must be wearing shoes passed down by another member of the family that don't fit because I can't think of anywhere that sells shoes for 25p.


These children are worth so little to their parents that the children cannot be having a good childhood. It totally implies that the parents are prioritising their needs over their childrens' so what should be happening is a visit from social services to check on the needs of these "worthless" children. Why I am so annoyed is that by not going after the parents over their treatment of their children the idiot who thought the idea up is condoning this behaviour from these terrible parents and allowing them to get away with it.



What is going to happen is the taxpayer is going to pick up the bill. They will pick up the bill for the handling charges of the products and then they will pick up the bill for the NHS treatment for young adults with depression and PTSD and CPTSD caused by these awful parents. The only person who will benefit from this really stupid idea is the parent who will save 25p. It doesn't help the child because the root of the problem hasn't been dealt with.


The other thing I realised is what happens in the school holidays? If you give a child who is worth less than 25p to a parent a supply of sanitary products to keep them going over the holidays the parent will take them off the child and sell them cheap to friends and neighbours. So giving them to the child for use outside of school time will be a waste of effort because the child won't get them.



A child who is worth less than 25p doesn't have loving parents who are looking out for them.

Jackmydad

Cakeguts, I mostly agree with you.
I have an innate suspicion that anything "free" will be undervalued and abused by all and sundry.
If the parents can't supply their offspring with any of the normal necessities of life, then perhaps we should be looking at the parents, and asking them why they can't.
It does take the responsibility of supply of feminine hygiene products out of the hands of those parents who are !!!!less though, and means that the girls are hopefully helped.
Seems like a sledgehammer to crack a nut though, as has already been said.

And don't get me started on the "Welfare State". While we nearly all benefit from it in some ways it is (again) undervalued and abused.
I also have the suspicion that it's also at least partly to blame for at least some of society's ills.

Cakeguts

Jackmydad wrote: »

Cakeguts, I mostly agree with you.
I have an innate suspicion that anything "free" will be undervalued and abused by all and sundry.
If the parents can't supply their offspring with any of the normal necessities of life, then perhaps we should be looking at the parents, and asking them why they can't.
It does take the responsibility of supply of feminine hygiene products out of the hands of those parents who are !!!!less though, and means that the girls are hopefully helped.
Seems like a sledgehammer to crack a nut though, as has already been said.

And don't get me started on the "Welfare State". While we nearly all benefit from it in some ways it is (again) undervalued and abused.
I also have the suspicion that it's also at least partly to blame for at least some of society's ills.

I agree but I am still annoyed by the fact that nothing is going to be done about these parents. They will effectively get away with this and no one knows what they will try to get away with not providing next in the hope that the school will provide it free. I don't think that the person who thought up this silly idea realised that these children are not in good homes where parents mind about their children.


It is another example of the blame being placed on the victim. It is the child who will have to go to the school to ask for state provided sanitary towels every day that they need them not the parent. The parent gets out of this with no consequences and that can't be right because it is their fault that they don't want to spend 25p on their daughter.



The parents need to be warned first that if their daughters continue to miss school for this reason that they will be prosecuted. I can't understand why these children are not on the at risk register and if they are why haven't social services prosecuted the mothers?



Not wanting to spend 25p on your child is the tip of a very large iceburg as to what is going on in their homes.



It reminds me of the grooming scandal where no one did anything about it for years.

PasturesNew

Well, that went well....

MoT passed, but there was a nail in the tyre.
I thought I'd have to buy a new one as the garage said it's outside the repair area... it turns out it's outside their approved repair area. I took the car to a tyre company up the road (expecting them to pop a new tyre on) and they repaired it!

I get "free puncture repair" at my garage, so back I trotted, waving receipts about - and the service manager said "not where that was, we've an approved area for repair only".

Only cost me £20 for the repair, so that's not too bad.... new tyre's about £55.