The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Jackmydad

PasturesNew wrote: »

There's not the emotive connection to swearing about your male relatives.

Next time you're driving along (not near a queue and not near where you live) ... if you see a group of knuckle dragging teens shuffling along, just slow down, open your window and shout "Your mum" at them and pause.... see what happens. Repeat for "your dad" as an experiment..... I bet your car gets chased more often for your mum

Just make sure you have plenty of fuel, and you don't stall the car. . .

GDB2222

Jackmydad wrote: »

Just make sure you have plenty of fuel, and you don't stall the car. . .

Try shouting "Your teacups", and watch them puzzling over it?

PasturesNew

Jackmydad wrote: »

"When I am being offensive I can assure you that you will be left in no doubt about it"

I'm like that. If I were being offensive, there'd be absolutely no doubt - and I'd be really good at it!

I'm not an offensive person at all.... but seem to "offend", unbeknownst to me.... my mum wasn't speaking to me for three months once and I didn't even spot that until my sibling told me mum wasn't speaking to me..... and I never did have a clue what I was supposed to have said.

Mum/dad always used to say, when I was growing up, that I have to be taken everywhere twice "the second time to apologise". It was an omnipresent phrase.... I used to think it was a joke, who knows.

I think, increasingly, more offence is taken.... but it's a skill I've always been a master of. "Luckily for me", I am also a master of "not having a clue it even occurred" .... I simply "don't ever make friends".

Jackmydad

GDB2222 wrote: »

Try shouting "Your teacups", and watch them puzzling over it?

And if you shouted, "Your teacups and saucers" none of them would have ever even seen the two together.

PasturesNew

Jackmydad wrote: »

...and you don't stall the car. . .

Just nearly "did it again".

First response was to post: HILARIOUS!!! Yeah, that'd be really funny ...

And that's the sort of response that gets some people "offended". I know it wouldn't here.... but now I'm having to think about everything I "think I am about to say".

It's as if those people who would be offended genuinely believe that somebody would genuinely find that "hilarious".

Jackmydad

PasturesNew wrote: »

Just nearly "did it again".

First response was to post: HILARIOUS!!! Yeah, that'd be really funny ...

And that's the sort of response that gets some people "offended". I know it wouldn't here.... but now I'm having to think about everything I "think I am about to say".

It's as if those people who would be offended genuinely believe that somebody would genuinely find that "hilarious".

To my way of thinking you can find the idea hilarious, without actually wanting it to happen.
People look for offence in everything though.
A friend of mine is pretty down to earth and funny.
Talking in the pub (again!)
Someone said about some really minor mishap that had befallen them.
My mate
"Oh dear! We're all going to die"
To which someone said something like,
"No need to be sarcastic"
He came back with,
"Oh, was there a discussion going on? I was just pondering the fact that we're all going to die sometime"
You had to be there really. . .

PasturesNew

Jackmydad wrote: »

..
You had to be there really. . .

Unfortunately, I usually am there.... getting "the blame".

I "see the ridiculous" in everything - and assume everybody else does too. I "call out the ridiculous", maybe as if a comedian would be while they're on a stage performing.

Trouble is ... I'm not on a stage and nobody's paid to hear me speak.

I also see "every twist on words" and use them, to make a "hilarious comment" (well, it is to me! not my fault they're too thick to keep up!)


I need to learn to !!!!!! and just nod I think

Then go home and howl with laughter at all the "amusing things I could've said across the evening"

Jackmydad

I think it's just the ability to see the ridiculousness and the ironies of life.
It's not being unsympathetic, it's just putting a lighter slant on it.
There's a difference between that and people who actually enjoy other's mishaps and misfortunes, while making "Oh dear poor you" noises.

PasturesNew

Jackmydad wrote: »

I think it's just the ability to see the ridiculousness and the ironies of life.
It's not being unsympathetic, it's just putting a lighter slant on it.
There's a difference between that and people who actually enjoy other's mishaps and misfortunes, while making "Oh dear poor you" noises.

Yes. I don't enjoy others' mishaps....

My mind automatically races away at all the tangents of "ridiculousness".

Another trait of the syndrome is "wandering off on a topic". I ALWAYS do that! I didn't realise that was "wrong". It gets me into a lot of trouble online ....

Not sure why "wandering" isn't required.... I see it as "expanding conversation and conversationally progressing"... not "wandering off on a topic" That, to me, is "conversation" .... sparking off at tangents....

PasturesNew

Another bit is "interested enquiry"....

I often seem to ask questions that irritate people, take teachers for example. They say something and I ask a question, they seem a bit annoyed at the interruption and answer... so I think about that and then have another question. I'm then labelled as "awkward and disruptive" - when, in fact, I'm interested and enquiring further, in order to fully understand what I'm hearing.... I'm interested beyond a superficial simple statement and I want to know that I've got it right - and to query situations. I started off interested in their subject - and now I hate it, hate them, hate the class and will hate them forever.... because they were horrid when it wasn't necessary. Not listening now, stuff you and your subject

To invent a scenario, if somebody "in authority" were to say "This Friday you can all go home early" and I asked "at what time?" - that is a simple question. "Early" is not defined. So they turn and say "when I say you can" - but I want/need more information... "... so, do you mean before lunch? or after lunch? how much early? an hour? two?" - and, instead of answering the question they just get annoyed and "bark" at me to shut up.

Their answer might've simply been "I don't know what time, it'll be after the big meeting, which starts at 3pm - so it might end at 4pm or 4.30" then I've a clue!
It's not like they didn't know all along.... so why be angry at me?

But suddenly I'm "the bad person", the "argumentative, negative and awkward one" ....

And ... I don't get it.