The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Pyxis

LydiaJ wrote: »

That's why DD asked to go to an all girls' school. She was already on the receiving end of "all that carp" from some of the boys at her primary school.



Of course. Girls that age are interested in boys. They want the boys to like them and to pay them attention. That doesn't mean they want to give them all blow jobs, but they often do - either because they consider it a price worth paying to get the boy's attention, or because they didn't realise what the expectation would be until it feels like it's too late to back out, or because they've seen other girls get labelled frigid and don't want to suffer the same fate, or whatever.

Most of the boys aren't bad kids. It's just that the stuff they're watching online has given them the impression that giving blow jobs (and more) to anyone who wants it is what girls like doing best. It doesn't occur to them that what they're watching is *acting* by people who are paid for it. Then there's also the natural narcissism of the immature that assumes without thinking that "this is pleasurable for me so it must be pleasurable for the other person too".

You see, I was under the impression that early and mid-teens were given relationships lessons or the like, and that things like consent, expectations and respect were discussed in such lessons?

All I got was botany and the reproductive cycle of the amoeba, which wasn't a lot of help in dealing with boyfriends.**
Not that I had any boyfriends in my early teens!







** On second thoughts........:rotfl:

LydiaJ

Pyxis wrote: »

You see, I was under the impression that early and mid-teens were given relationships lessons or the like, and that things like consent, expectations and respect were discussed in such lessons?

They do. A bit. But provision is... variable. And infrequent - because schools have lots of other things to teach. It probably does have a positive effect on some, but doesn't get through to others, as you'd expect. After all, schools also have similar sessions about the dangers of smoking, and binge drinking etc etc. Doesn't mean all teenagers are therefore sensible enough not make stupid choices.

SingleSue

And also peer pressure has to be considered.....

Pyxis

LydiaJ wrote: »

They do. A bit. But provision is... variable. And infrequent - because schools have lots of other things to teach. It probably does have a positive effect on some, but doesn't get through to others, as you'd expect. After all, schools also have similar sessions about the dangers of smoking, and binge drinking etc etc. Doesn't mean all teenagers are therefore sensible enough not make stupid choices.

SingleSue wrote: »

And also peer pressure has to be considered.....

I'm really glad I'm grown up.

Pyxis

What's just occurred to me is that if that sort of behaviour was in the workplace, or in any other 'adult' place, it would be grounds for at best, a warning, or at worst, dismissal. It might even be considered a criminal offence....

..... and our poor pre-and early teens have to put up with it?

PasturesNew

Pyxis wrote: »

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"It's just kids playing"

Kids can do no wrong these days.

"You were a kid once"....

Untouchable.

They can (and do) break all laws of decent society and simply get away with it as "just kids".

silvercar

It was my kids that gave me lessons on relationships. Things have changed so much.

Apparently now asking that your relationship be exclusive comes between asking someone out and asking them to be your girlfriend.

In my day all 3 meant the same thing.


Getting yourself checked out at a sexual health clinic is a sensible responsible action, rather than a sign you had a problem that needed sorting.

I'm really glad I'm grown up.

Me too!

Feeling old!

PasturesNew

I've allowed the fuel in the car to get superlow.... on the basis of "I'll get round to it, just not yet" - but today I decided to go for it.

I loaded up the PetrolPrices website to find the cheapest - and what a load of old cobblers that turned out to be.

Firstly, it didn't show my Shell station that is the one I tend to go to... nor the one that's closest to my house .... I saw there was one about 2 miles from my house that said it was £1.299.... so I decided to pop past Shell and see how much ... else go to the other one.

Shell was at £1.399 ... so I swung past my nearest £1.399 ... so I drove the 2 miles and that one was £1.369, completely different to what PetrolPrices indicated. Last recorded yesterday they say. Not so!

PasturesNew

I don't like flats... I am sure one day I'll end up in one, but not for now .... but my eye was caught by one "fabulous" one, with great views, just in budget.

So .... how much are the service charges?

They're about £3-4k per year ... and another £2k if your flat has a private mooring (although they might tend to be those costing £450k to £1million).

£3k.... pffft. PFFFT.... PFFFFFFFT.

I'd probably find myself having to perpetually prove I lived there too ... as I shuffle in through the private gates clutching my Aldi bag

ukmaggie45

Pastures, you might want to consider keeping your car better topped up... Apparently Saudi Arabia may increase the price of oil after the business with the journalist possibly being killed in their consulate. Retaliation if anyone sanctions them over it all.