The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

michaels

I feel very guilty about how disturbing our kids (and my DW) are to our neighbours. And doubly so because we have a baseball hoop on our drive out front which results in lots of doofing, screaming/shouting and occasionally the ball going into our neighbours front gardens on both sides....

SingleSue

LydiaJ wrote: »

In restaurants, my initial irritation is usually swiftly replaced by a sense of relief that mine are now too old to need to be made to behave in public places.

A feeling I am most familiar with now :rotfl:

PasturesNew

michaels wrote: »

....baseball hoop on our drive out front which results in lots of doofing, screaming/shouting and occasionally the ball going into our neighbours front gardens on both sides....

So why did you choose to put it there when you could've put it above your patio doors or something? Why choose to annoy others when you could've just chosen to inconvenience and annoy your own family?

I hope you don't say "Go outside and play .... your mum and I want a bit of peace and quiet"...!!

One of the new neighbours has a HUGE trampoline taking up half the garden. Rather than putting it on the side of the garden adjoining the car park, she's chosen to put it alongside her neighbour's conservatory - and you think .... "what WERE you thinking...?".

Choices: Block your own patio door view -or- put it right next to the neighbour's conservatory..... and, it seems, many would choose the "most annoying" route.

Pyxis

michaels wrote: »

I feel very guilty about how disturbing our kids (and my DW) are to our neighbours. And doubly so because we have a baseball hoop on our drive out front which results in lots of doofing, screaming/shouting and occasionally the ball going into our neighbours front gardens on both sides....

Ooooh! Michaels! :eek:

I think it all depends how you deal with it. If it's every day for hours on end, it can become a pain. The balls in gardens can become a pain, too, especially if they squash flowers or hit cars.

Have you asked your neighbours to let you know if it's annoying? I think approaching people and telling them that you realise there might be a potential nuisance, goes a long way to preventing resentment building up.

A nuisance caused by someone you have got to know a bit is nothing like as bad as a nuisance caused by people you don't know at all, even if it's the same nuisance..

Laughing, talking and general jollity is fine. Screaming and shouting can become a pain if it goes on for a long time. Doofing of balls........there is something very annoying about the sound a ball makes. I don't know why.
My neighbour's children use to play football in the street, and as well as worrying about the ball hitting my (then new) car, the sound of the doofs was so irritating! It's weird!
(Anyway, they knew I didn't like it, but they were careful not to hit my car. The doofs did do my head in, though. Sometimes I'd play my piano to drown out the doofs!). The kids grew up and moved away, so don't get it any more!



Hang on......your DW disturbs them too? What does she do? :eek:


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chris_m

PasturesNew wrote: »

There used to be a couple of chaps who pondered this problem, Mr Smith and Mr Wesson I believe.

You forgot about Dr Gatling - solve a greater number of "problems" faster :rotfl:

LydiaJ

Largest bookcase is not easy to dismantle. Aged P remembers it being a devil of a job to get it nto the house 58 years ago, and regrets not making a note of how it was done so as to be able to do it in reverse now.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

.... regrets not making a note of how it was done so as to be able to do it in reverse now.

When I built my bed I made a note of how/where to start and blu tacked that inside the bed frame.... along with the assembly instructions.

Doozergirl

michaels wrote: »

I feel very guilty about how disturbing our kids (and my DW) are to our neighbours. And doubly so because we have a baseball hoop on our drive out front which results in lots of doofing, screaming/shouting and occasionally the ball going into our neighbours front gardens on both sides....

Ah well, you'd be equally castigated if they were quietly indoors smoking weed instead.

chris_m

PasturesNew wrote: »

When I built my bed I made a note of how/where to start and blu tacked that inside the bed frame.... along with the assembly instructions.

I have heard of people writing the dimensions of a room and the number of rolls of wallpaper required on the wall - NO, NOT under the wallpaper, but under a light switch or plug socket.

Pyxis

chris_m wrote: »

I have heard of people writing the dimensions of a room and the number of rolls of wallpaper required on the wall - NO, NOT under the wallpaper, but under a light switch or plug socket.

Or you could have a ring binder titled "The House" and keep all that sort of info in that.


When I moved from my previous house, I left a notebook with all The Quirky Little Things One Should Know About The House explained. The incomers were very grateful!