The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

SingleSue

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

Sue, I think over the last 10 years, the majority of my friends who had entered relationships, have met their partner on dating sites.......so don't discount it..... my eldest met his wife on Tinder!!......

Remember just because you are dating/in a relationship, it does not mean you have to live with the person.. and if you did live with the person you definitely NEVER EVER hand the remote control over to them!!!

Things are a little more complex with me, after my marriage break up and my break down, I mentally put up walls to protect myself. Unfortunately those walls mean that I am cut off, unable to make connections in that way. If someone does start getting close, I go the other way twice as fast as I just cannot bear the thought of losing control of my life again or being controlled.

But I also actively enjoy being the master of my own life, I'm just not bothered enough to want a relationship to even think about dating sites plus, rejection would be a b word.

Sunshinemummy

SingleSue wrote: »

Things are a little more complex with me, after my marriage break up and my break down, I mentally put up walls to protect myself. Unfortunately those walls mean that I am cut off, unable to make connections in that way. If someone does start getting close, I go the other way twice as fast as I just cannot bear the thought of losing control of my life again or being controlled.

But I also actively enjoy being the master of my own life, I'm just not bothered enough to want a relationship to even think about dating sites plus, rejection would be a b word.

I rather like walls... they can be helpful but only at times of crisis.

I think it is important for everyone to have control over own their lives....... but not the thoughts/feelings/actions of others.... it is sometimes hard to differentiate between this and the fear that others may reject...I have to admit if I got rid of OH... I would not want to replace him!

PasturesNew

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

... if I got rid of OH... I would not want to replace him!

So you've spent time thinking about it and weighing it up

Sunshinemummy

PasturesNew wrote: »

So you've spent time thinking about it and weighing it up

Last night I bl**dy planned it!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

PasturesNew

... well ... here's hoping.

Is it today?

*everything crossed*

*exhales deeply"... "think calm".



EDIT: 10.24. Nothing yet.

EDIT: 12.00.... am I happy to go ahead. YES. Now awaiting confirmation phone call to say it's happened.

EDIT: 12.05.... and we're done. That's it!

Blimey.... got to do all the sorting, packing, box sourcing, stacking now and the other 1001 things that, until now, were a vague notion.

Doozergirl

Congratulations!

I didn't come back earlier as you edited, so presumed no update.

We have a viewing at 5pm. I'm going to sit in the pub down the road for 30 minutes so the agent can do the viewings. I did one yesterday as the office was closed, but I prefer just not to think about it if I can help it - just clear up and clear out!

Just under two weeks on the market, 6 viewings booked up to yesterday, 4 of those actually turned up, one refused to reply for any feedback at all. People are rude.

PasturesNew

Doozergirl wrote: »

Congratulations!

I didn't come back earlier as you edited, so presumed no update.

It's nerve-wracking

I'm now incapable of sorting anything out much as I'm just "coming down" from the nail-biting anticipation that's grown over the last year. There's a state of numbness, of it not sinking in, that I'm going through

I've, instead, realised I am not in a fit state/state of mind to achieve much, so went out and bought choccies and lots of choccy biscuits. For now, until I "calm down", I'm just going to scoff myself silly

I have tried to contact a charity for 2-3 bits to take away, but they've gone upmarket, so it won't do. So I've booked another and am awaiting a callback. You can't give stuff away these days. The main reason for me giving these items away -v- trying to flog them is they're upstairs and too heavy for me to lug about and I don't want "any old sort from Facebook" turning up and being in my house to view/remove them.

silvercar

Congratulations PN!

My not-working-properly fridge freezer was collected by a random guy off Facebook, only too happy to have it! Saved me the £20 removal costs.

Agree with the can’t give stuff away comment. Try to give things away and people are suspicious that you are using them as an alternative to paying a disposal firm.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

Agree with the can’t give stuff away comment. Try to give things away and people are suspicious that you are using them as an alternative to paying a disposal firm.

With furniture etc, the charities are "picky" and want pretty much top end stuff these days. Or they can't collect, or can't for 3-4 weeks.....

With sofas etc people need a van to collect even a free one, so that's no good either.

I'll advertise my sofa, free, see what happens.... else I'll be in the garden, sawing, the day before completion The saw will become one more thing I have to "tuck away/to keep with me until the last minute", just in case.

I'll advertise the sofa this Thursday, that gives me a good week and more to find somebody who wants it and give them time to get a van. Having said that, it might go in the first 3 hours! I'd rather go without one for 10 days than be stuck with it and sawing at the last minute!

The main problem is the cost of a man/van, if you've not got free access to those.

My F/F is "as new", fully functioning, mark free.... so hoping that'll go easily.

I haven't got a lot, but I do look after things/am super careful at all times with them.

Of course, too, all the Xmas stuff goes into storage.... and I probably will go away for Xmas this year. It's half arranged/spoken of, I'd probably do a long 7-10 days holibobs in the far, far, far, south west. By the seaside.

Sunshinemummy

PN, you will get rid of loads of stuff just by popping it on FB under Free!!

Congratulations, what day are you moving? x