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The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.
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What makes me happy? Being made to feel special, something out of the norm, luxury (on a budget, I also hate style over substance and get excited about a good deal).
Who I would like to spend it with? Loved ones, so family. I don't have a significant other and my IRL friend circle isn't particularly large after the years of caring...ASD children and social settings didn't always go together.
My dreams? Shopping trip to New York, a trip on the Orient Express, afternoon tea/dinner/a stay at the Ritz/Savoy.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
Afternoon tea is expensive, but is relatively easily saved for in advance. It's certainly memorable. It's cheaper if there aren't too many people to pay for, but perhaps with enough notice everyone can find the money for a special treat.
My favourite is Fortnum & Mason, followed by Claridges. No rush there. Fortnums absolutely stuff you full of cake and there's so much you have to take it home, especially if there's a birthday. You don't want to spend a fortune somewhere where you have to pay for more sandwiches or you're time limited.Everything that is supposed to be in heaven is already here on earth.
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This becomes the "issue". Your treat is not their treat. They might not wish to do that activity at £XXX.Doozergirl wrote: ».... with enough notice everyone can find the money for a special treat.
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If you're expecting people to pay for themselves to come it gets harder as those you "invite" might think "GREAT!" until you hit them with "it'll only cost you ....."
If it's close family only though, you do have a rough idea of what's possible for them.0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »This becomes the "issue". Your treat is not their treat. They might not wish to do that activity at £XXX.
If you're expecting people to pay for themselves to come it gets harder as those you "invite" might think "GREAT!" until you hit them with "it'll only cost you ....."
If it's close family only though, you do have a rough idea of what's possible for them.
I agree. Why I would only do that sort of thing as a small group where I was comfortable the people could afford it and it was agreed to be a good day out for all of us, or I was paying. That sort of thing is better as an intimate thing where you can enjoy a bit of quality time with one's very nearest and dearest, sit back and listen to the musicians in the quiet moments anyway, in my view.
Sue deserves something on that list for her 50th, even if it's just one son that goes with her, for example.
The wider 'party' can be something simpler where you bring some sausage rolls and a bottle.Everything that is supposed to be in heaven is already here on earth.
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Doozergirl wrote: »Afternoon tea is expensive, but is relatively easily saved for in advance. It's certainly memorable. It's cheaper if there aren't too many people to pay for, but perhaps with enough notice everyone can find the money for a special treat.
My favourite is Fortnum & Mason, followed by Claridges. No rush there. Fortnums absolutely stuff you full of cake and there's so much you have to take it home, especially if there's a birthday. You don't want to spend a fortune somewhere where you have to pay for more sandwiches or you're time limited.
Rushes off to check out the Fortnum and Mason afternoon tea.. .
Edit - Yum and the price is not too OTT either.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
You could also consider lunch at the Ritz, I think the 3-course set menu is £59. The drinks are eye wateringly expensive though!!0
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1 is a good option.
Do you not have a mobile anymore? It's not so much a single person problem as a lack of current technology problem.Everything that is supposed to be in heaven is already here on earth.
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PasturesNew wrote: »I have a mobile, but, as I say to people "If I'm out of the house, I'm driving.... so can't take calls". Then you've missed any call, then you try to call back and find they're on another call.... so then you're sitting there, stuck. Not knowing how long to wait for them to call you back. If you try to drive off, the phone will ring; if you don't, it won't. And you can't just pull over - as, these days, there's never anywhere to pull over anywhere at all.... and there's endless traffic and big roundabouts you're negotiating.
If they want to get hold of you to exchange contracts, to suit their convenience, they will keep on trying. They are not going to pull out of their purchase because you are out in your car.
Put yourself first. You do not need to be ready just in case someone wants to call you. Honestly! Go and do your viewings, call them back when it suits you, and let the other buggahs do the sweating for a change.
No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
happyandcontented wrote: »You could also consider lunch at the Ritz, I think the 3-course set menu is £59. The drinks are eye wateringly expensive though!!
That is one that had already made the list, albeit for my parent's 60th wedding anniversary next June.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
That is one that had already made the list, albeit for my parent's 60th wedding anniversary next June.
I am going in December, I will let you know how it is!!
Have you considered the UK version of the Orient Express? There are some great days out, not cheap though (although much, much cheaper than the real OE!)but very memorable. I have done a couple and it was a very special experience.
https://northernbelle.co.uk/trip/rhs-cardiff-flower-show/434?passengers=2%20Passengers0
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