The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Jazee

Singlesue, you're in your 50th year now, so start giving yourself little treats now!

GDB2222

silvercar wrote: »

Welcome!

Interesting first post on this thread, more usual questions are whether you like mushrooms and how did you find us?

I’m sure there are free dating sites out there somewhere, why not join a local Facebook group and find some local activities that may give you the opportunity to meet people?

I've never used a dating service but it strikes me as a bit intense. It seems so much more natural to find an activity you enjoy, have fun doing that, and perhaps meet someone you have a shared interest with.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

Started looking at rooms/options.

It's more complex than you'd think if the overall objective is to do it the cheapest way, while gaining the best living standard.

There are hotels at £500/month inc bills + £200 storage.
There are 1-bed ASTs at £700/month + £160 or so bills.

But each one is different, in different places, might have unsatisfactory criteria.... and not found a "match" yet.

Currently trawling gumtree, airbnb, spareroom and RM. Mostly just getting a feel for what's out there so I can set my expectations and jiggle the numbers about a bit to see which could be achieved IF the right mix of options presents itself.

It's easy to talk in broad terms, but when you see what's available most of it doesn't "suit me" for a variety of reasons.

"Something will turn up"

I do know that, as a last resort, I can book into one of several hotels at about £450-500/month that are advertising on the sites.... so, stuff into storage and me in a hotel is the worst case scenario.

I just now decided to immediately go to the self storage round the corner. I have absolutely no intentions of putting my stuff there, I just want to visually see for myself how big certain measurements actually are in reality.... so I can hold that idea in mind when planning the split between "goes into storage" and "nope". I've been guessing my prices on a 75 sq ft to this point, but now I need to hone that as I'm about to get to the point where I am packing/stacking and can actually see how big it all is when it's stacked up in one pile.

You can find an hotel at £15/night? Even out of season, that strikes me as decidedly cheap. Do they kick you out over Christmas/New Year, as they may get visitors in then?

PasturesNew

GDB2222 wrote: »

You can find an hotel at £15/night? Even out of season, that strikes me as decidedly cheap. Do they kick you out over Christmas/New Year, as they may get visitors in then?

It's pretty standard round here.

When I arrived I got a single/en-suite room with cooked breakfast (and entire range/choice of all the cereals, toast, coffee etc etc), which had a small pool too, in peak season, end of August.... 3 weeks for about £155/week. I found that one from 200 miles away. Once here, driving around, many of the hotels had big boards out advertising £15-20/night in August.

Where I stayed before I was on a 3 week booking. The room was then booked out so I had to leave. She said "you can come back next week" but I'd made arrangements for a 1 month flat share somewhere else. She told me they do winter lets. Residents have full run of the kitchen/fridge to make their own meals, but I never did that. They were a "nice/posh middle class couple", the building was smart and clean (with a cleaner) and the husband cooked the breakfasts. It wasn't a homeless hostel. I stayed in a homeless hostel once - an employer had booked me into a cheap hotel in Luton for 3-4 nights... the reception was in the middle of being redecorated and all these "homeless and odd types" were loitering around So I do know the difference

Sunshinemummy

Sue, I think over the last 10 years, the majority of my friends who had entered relationships, have met their partner on dating sites.......so don't discount it..... my eldest met his wife on Tinder!!......

Remember just because you are dating/in a relationship, it does not mean you have to live with the person.. and if you did live with the person you definitely NEVER EVER hand the remote control over to them!!!

Poor_Leno

silvercar wrote: »

Welcome!

Interesting first post on this thread, more usual questions are whether you like mushrooms and how did you find us?

I’m sure there are free dating sites out there somewhere, why not join a local Facebook group and find some local activities that may give you the opportunity to meet people?

Thanks

I was commenting on some brexit topics and this topic bounced to the top and I decided to read it Been a member on here for a couple years actually, only started posting around more recently under another pseudo. I had to change that tho cos I realised there's some personal data that I might have been leaving exposed when I revealed my name somewhere...paranoia more than anything probably.

Well, I've been single for almost a decade now so its nothing new to me. I do a lot of walking and running so probably should join some groups/clubs or something. TBH, I'm not unhappy being single/alone. Perhaps i've got used to it (too much even). A good friend of mine started seeing someone and I can't deny it has got me thinking - mainly at how suddenly you get a spring in your step when some happiness like that comes along. I don't feel unhappy at my own situation on that level, i'm more unhappy with other things. Like needing to save as hard and as quickly as possible so that I can try to get on the housing ladder. And then sorting out my pension situation cos tbh I let that slide for a couple years now. Things just didn't fall into place how I would have liked them to 10-12 years ago. Can't change the past, but sometimes I wish it were possible! I'd do a lot of things differently.

GDB2222

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

... my eldest met his wife on Tinder

Like I said, take up an activity you enjoy, and you'll meet a likeminded person who shares your interests.

PasturesNew

I think I'd just like a cat that talks, never needs feeding and doesn't ever need to go to the vets.

Sunshinemummy

Poor_Leno wrote: »

Thanks

I was commenting on some brexit topics and this topic bounced to the top and I decided to read it Been a member on here for a couple years actually, only started posting around more recently under another pseudo. I had to change that tho cos I realised there's some personal data that I might have been leaving exposed when I revealed my name somewhere...paranoia more than anything probably.

Well, I've been single for almost a decade now so its nothing new to me. I do a lot of walking and running so probably should join some groups/clubs or something. TBH, I'm not unhappy being single/alone. Perhaps i've got used to it (too much even). A good friend of mine started seeing someone and I can't deny it has got me thinking - mainly at how suddenly you get a spring in your step when some happiness like that comes along. I don't feel unhappy at my own situation on that level, i'm more unhappy with other things. Like needing to save as hard and as quickly as possible so that I can try to get on the housing ladder. And then sorting out my pension situation cos tbh I let that slide for a couple years now. Things just didn't fall into place how I would have liked them to 10-12 years ago. Can't change the past, but sometimes I wish it were possible! I'd do a lot of things differently.

Definitely no one can change the past... so about the house and pension.. what about one of the government ISA schemes... that the gov. contributes to, that can be used for a house and pension (I want to say they are called LICE - but I have just finished a bottle of wine.... so piddled!!)

GDB2222 wrote: »

Like I said, take up an activity you enjoy, and you'll meet a likeminded person who shares your interests.

Now that is an option.. but as I say more than 50% of my friends met on line.

I still think that there is stigma attached to this for my age group (50!)...... but this is now normal!

Sunshinemummy

PasturesNew wrote: »

I think I'd just like a cat that talks, never needs feeding and doesn't ever need to go to the vets.

My OH is a little like this........... well he feeds me, he can go to the doctors on his own, he can clean, he can talk (and............ well )

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