Would a female feel vulnerable if alone ans stranded?

Gloomendoom

Laz123 wrote: »

Thanks for an interesting mix of views. Perhaps I come from another era and feel overprotective of the fairer sex. Both my daughters can look after themselves and the younger one possibly would feel more vulnerable than the older one.

My wife can look after herself but if she was stuck anywhere, I'd make every effort to arrange to get her unstuck quickly or go and unstick her myself.

I certainly wouldn't leave her. I'd do the same for any friend or family member who asked for help... male or female.

Reading the thread on the motoring board, I did wonder why the OP didn't ask for help from others.

littlegreenparrot

I'm a women and have broken down several times over the years on busy roads and have never felt especially vulnerable.

On every occasion several guys have stopped to ask if I was ok, and if someone was coming to help me. Someone has helped move the car away from the middle of a roundabout so it less of a danger.
They have always been perfectly lovely, have asked politely, and when told I'm being rescued have just said that was great and left me to it.
I have a very clear memory of thanking one chap who specifically said 'that's ok love, I'd want someone to check on my daughter if she was in your position'

I'm not naive, I know some people are awful. But driving in itself is quite a dangerous pastime, most people just want to check your ok. I'm no more or less vulnerable than when I do anything else.

pollypenny

heartbreak_star wrote: »

They should take into account alone and isolated. They should not take into consideration gender.

HBS x

I'm not sure about that.

My son is a 6'1" rugby player, my daughter is 5', I'm 5'3".

Any dodgy character would take a look at DS and realise they had no chance. For DD - oops!

UKTigerlily

I don't think people see a 6ft 1 guy & think they have no chance, many guys get brutally attacked, quite a few have been killed by one punch (falling back & hitting head) & males get raped too. This is down to whether an individual feels more vulnerable, not a gender. Seems a bit creepy to even ask

thepurplepixie

pollypenny wrote: »

I'm not sure about that.

My son is a 6'1" rugby player, my daughter is 5', I'm 5'3".

Any dodgy character would take a look at DS and realise they had no chance. For DD - oops!

I don't think it always works like that. My son is taller than yours, he reckons it makes him a target. He is a peace loving sort and has a job that he would lose if he was arrested for any sort of violence but there are times he has had to fight his way out of an attack where some "hard man" wants to prove he can take on the biggest guy in the room. On the other hand my 5'3" daughter has never had a problem and on the memorable occasion that she got totally out of it on freshers week a young man held her hair while she was sick and walked her home. You can't really call it can you.

Gloomendoom

UKTigerlily wrote: »

I don't think people see a 6ft 1 guy & think they have no chance, many guys get brutally attacked, quite a few have been killed by one punch (falling back & hitting head) & males get raped too. This is down to whether an individual feels more vulnerable, not a gender. Seems a bit creepy to even ask

I'm six four and it definitely helps. However, I never get complacent and avoid conflict if I can (which is most of the time).

pollypenny

thepurplepixie wrote: »

I don't think it always works like that. My son is taller than yours, he reckons it makes him a target. He is a peace loving sort and has a job that he would lose if he was arrested for any sort of violence but there are times he has had to fight his way out of an attack where some "hard man" wants to prove he can take on the biggest guy in the room. On the other hand my 5'3" daughter has never had a problem and on the memorable occasion that she got totally out of it on freshers week a young man held her hair while she was sick and walked her home. You can't really call it can you.

I'm talking about isolated places, with a random man driving by.

I know very well that big guys can be a target.

thepurplepixie

pollypenny wrote: »

I'm talking about isolated places, with a random man driving by.

I know very well that big guys can be a target.

No it doesn't worry me and I don't worry any more about my daughter than my son.

I have enough worry to go round, trust me.

Red-Squirrel_2

pollypenny wrote: »

I'm not sure about that.

My son is a 6'1" rugby player, my daughter is 5', I'm 5'3".

Any dodgy character would take a look at DS and realise they had no chance. For DD - oops!

I'm female and 5'6", my brother is only 5'9" and he's a musician not a bodybuilder so not particularly strong and certainly not used to using violence.

He was assaulted at a bus stop when he was at uni, along with the male friend he was with (tall but very slight), thankfully a woman nearby intervened and made so much noise and fuss the attackers gave up and ran off.

UKTigerlily

One thing to think of too, is there are many males who would never hit a female or hurt one, but think nothing of attacking other males, I know, where I live i'm surrounded by them.

Gloomendoom, i'm sure most people would go at me over you, and of course if a guy attacked you'd fight him off easier than I would, but people who try it aren't usually known for their brains lol