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Would a female feel vulnerable if alone ans stranded?

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  • Silvertabby
    Silvertabby Posts: 10,331 Forumite
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    Mr S used to fit/service emergency vehicle radios. When out and about, he came across a young lady who had broken down in a remote area which was also had poor/non-existant mobile phone coverage.

    She was initially very nervous and locked herself in her car - but Mr S managed to re-assure her and called for the AA via the police radio operator. He then stayed with her (even though she was still locked in her car) until the AA turned up.

    He later received a very nice thank you letter from her father.
  • davidwood123
    davidwood123 Posts: 471 Forumite
    It's 2017. Equality isn't always a positive thing.

    Your sex has no influence on the service you receive.

    The service might have been terrible but you were treated exactly the same as a man would have been.

    Unless you're suggesting you deserve special treatment because you're a woman?
  • PasturesNew
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    I had a boss once in a job where I had to work a full day, then drive 400 miles to be on the customer's site early in the morning. I had a little car (1400cc) and remarked that it's a bit tiring. He glibly commented that I should do what he does - and stop at a motorway service station and have a kip half way ... he had a very posh Mercedes with reclining leather seats, my seats didn't recline more than 2" ..... and he couldn't see that I had a problem with kipping in a service station in a tiny car without reclining seats.... and I wasn't even paid for my time to drive 400 miles after I'd already worked 9am to 6pm.
  • Red-Squirrel_2
    Red-Squirrel_2 Posts: 4,341 Forumite
    found the backstory


    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5667260


    Chose not to leave the car, and other complications; not as straightforward as this original post suggests

    Ah ok.

    In that situation I would be annoyed about being left by the side of the road that long, and would probably be very tired, thirsty, hungry and grumpy and fuming about possibly not having been able to get to work the next morning.

    My anger would be to do with the length of time, not my gender. I don't think motorway hard shoulders are more dangerous for women than men are they? Statistically?

    The biggest danger is another vehicle coming off the road and hitting you.
  • missprice
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    Laz123 wrote: »
    So you're a female driver and your car breaks down. You're left alone and stranded by the roadside waiting for the AA man who takes hours and hours to turn up. Do you think you should feel more vulnerable than a man?
    Not any more vulnerable than any person of any gender.
    I can look after myself quite well but it does depend where I had broken down.
    Out in the sticks where maybe I would see one person not bothered, in a inner city where possibly a group of people especially drunk/high well I wouldn't open my big gob that's for sure
    63 mortgage payments to go.

    Zero wins 2016 😥
  • Gloomendoom
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    edited 23 June 2017 at 2:26PM
    found the backstory


    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5667260


    Chose not to leave the car, and other complications; not as straightforward as this original post suggests

    [strike]That thread was supposed to be her first... and last![/strike]

    :embarasse Ooops! Wrong OP
  • System
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    found the backstory


    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5667260


    Chose not to leave the car, and other complications; not as straightforward as this original post suggests

    Not a board I tend to frequent, not being a motorist myself, but reading that thread I'm inclined to agree with post #13
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  • Rosemary7391
    Rosemary7391 Posts: 2,879 Forumite
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    I try to look at things objectively. Most folk are pretty decent - certainly to the extent of not assaulting someone! The ones who aren't are more likely to be looking for trouble in the city centre where they expect to find people, not on random roadsides. If you do have a problem you can lock yourself in the car. The fact that you're just waiting on the AA/RAC/whoever is also in your favour, folks out to cause trouble don't want witnesses of the "guy with van full of tools/potential weapons" variety appearing... I suspect most actual problems whilst waiting for breakdown assistance are accidents involving other drivers rather than actual malice.
  • Rosemary7391
    Rosemary7391 Posts: 2,879 Forumite
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    That thread was supposed to be her first... and last!


    The OP here is not the same as the OP there.
  • ripplyuk
    ripplyuk Posts: 2,950 Forumite
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    I'd be terrified. I'd be worried about being assaulted. I'm not very big and in an isolated area, I'd have no chance.

    I know it's not politically correct but I would really hope the breakdown company would take that into consideration at least.
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