How long before you move in together

Red-Squirrel_2

Oakdene wrote: »

She booked it & showed me the confirmation email from the venue.

But you posted about being unsure about moving in and didn't mention that she'd unilaterally booked a wedding!

Oakdene

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

But you posted about being unsure about moving in and didn't mention that she'd unilaterally booked a wedding!

I told her & have always maintained that I would never get engaged until we lived together as there is no possible way to know whether it works. TBH in all of the headspin today my brain is fried & I apologise I didnt mention that earlier.

Anyhow her actions on social media & this afternoon have really assured me, along with you guys, that I have made the right choice.

*max*

Oakdene wrote: »

Forgot to add that she had set a date & put a deposit down on our wedding (despite the fact we are not engaged).

She's not just manipulative and immature, she also has a screw loose! Who does that?? :eek:

Definitely a lucky escape. Jesus...

Aced2016

She is more crazy than I though. You need to ask yourself why did she want you to buy the house and get married. Was it to show on social media or to get one up on the ex.

I know many people now specifically staging things to show off on social media ! Beyond sad but very true. I honestly think you'd be crazy to go back !

Spend good time with your kids, eat good even go away for a weekend !

And think of the role model you need to be to your kids. You and their mum split, then your ex threw your daughter out. Then you moved in with your partner which sadly didn't work and then met this current woman. I would get some roots and make real good quality time with your kids. Then like I say when your in a good place, meet someone decent ! Someone with similar interests, someone who is classy and has manners. Don't settle for someone for the sake of it. Only settle for the best !!

FBaby

So really what she wanted was the security of marriage, maybe financial protection in addition to emotional? Could it be that this was more a driving force for your relationship than her feelings for you?

74jax

I had a child from another relationship and so didn't want to rush things. Certainly not before I knew we would get married - I never wanted to get married, so we never lived together.

After about 8 years something changed, dad became ill. We decided to engaged and live together for a year before the wedding. Do about 8 years for us, married at 9 years.

74jax

Wooooooi just read the thread. Ignore my post, not relevant.

Lucky escape.

justme111

So she has booked a wedding without you knowing about it and you still stayed with her until now ?
Not only she has a screw lose , you need your head examining so you may be a match.

Oakdene

Thanks all, have decided that my children need to come first & that whilst I am really hurting now I can't go back for the sake of comfort.

Aced2016

Good for you !

May not seem like it now, but your doing yourself a massive favour.

Good luck to you and your kids