Asking someone 'out' when youre an adult and his job

Smith6675

As i said before ive had plenty of male doctors dentists optitians etc who have all helped me. I have fancied absolutely none of them!!! Haha.

This guy is very different. If i saw him out i would definitely be attracted to him, its not because he has healed me in some way

Smith6675

I dont think im looking for lots of 'evidence' that i like him or the other way around.

Quite simply, to me he is gorgeous and im too scared to tell him in case i get rejected

PasturesNew

Leave it. This is a man in whom you have had to put your trust - and he's "laid hands on you" in a professional capacity. It's his nature/personality to be charming - and part of his job to provide "good customer experience/service". In short - he's probably as nice/nicer to 95% of other patients he sees, whether they're 10 or 110, male or female.

Leave it entirely up to him, without throwing yourself at him ..... it would be entirely inappropriate to believe that you "have something going on" with this guy, who is just being pleasant and charming.

If he's really interested/available he'll approach you.

LKRDN_Morgan

Ah life's too short. Eat the last piece of cake. Buy the expensive pair of shoes. Ask the hot guy out!

Please let us know how it goes!

Gloomendoom

Smith6675 wrote: »

I dont think im looking for lots of 'evidence' that i like him or the other way around.

Quite simply, to me he is gorgeous and im too scared to tell him in case i get rejected

I know how you feel. I have been severely hampered (and frustrated) by a fear of rejection. I considered my wife to be out of my league and only asked her out after a third party pointed out that she had dropped some pretty obvious (to everybody else) hints that she was interested in me.

The stakes were high for me because my wife was/is a colleague. You haven't got that problem, if he says no, you can walk away and never see him again.

Gloomendoom

PasturesNew wrote: »

If he's really interested/available he'll approach you.

Only if he is that sort of person.

onomatopoeia99

PasturesNew wrote: »

If he's really interested/available he'll approach you.

Maybe he has the same uncertainty the OP does, coupled with him definitely not being able to say while she's being treated anything due to professional standards.

Why do people assume that a man has any less doubts about making the first move than a woman?

Pop_Up_Pirate

fed_up_and_stressed wrote: »

Yes they do. I had a patient confess his undying love for me. It turned out he built a mini shrine to me in his bedroom. I terminated our professional relationship and he was allocated to a colleague to work with in future.

If you read my post again, it clearly says "in the same way".

Yes, men fall for their healers...but NOT IN THE SAME WAY as women do.

Ozzuk

I think you are building this up into a huge thing when there is no need to. I used to fancy the pants of this gorgeous blonde who worked in the local shop, we got on well, chatted, laughed etc. One day I kept decided to ask her out, it took me 3 attempts (I was a young lad) and on the 3rd visit I said I'm really not here to buy anything, I just wanted to ask you out on a date. I was really nervous and built it up into this huge thing when I didn't need to.

So if you like this guy, keep it casual, drop him a text saying hi its Smith6675 I was wondering if you fancied a coffee sometime? Its light and easy and if he says no then it doesn't have to be the worst thing ever and you can just reply with no worries, just thought I'd ask as you seem nice. Nothing stopping you continuing to see him then, you can even laugh about it.

Oh and my girl...she said no

I hope you have better luck!

caprikid1

OP any update ????


Just do it and get the closure or get the kisses, life is just to short to wonder.......