Asking someone 'out' when youre an adult and his job

iammumtoone

How long before your treatment finishes?

I think it is unfair to doing anything beforehand for both of you, if he is not interested then he loses business and you lose a good therapist who was helping you.

I would wait until you are finished with him professionally and at the end of the last session ask if he would like to meet up with coffee as you have enjoyed his company whilst being treated, leave him your number and ask him to contact you if he wants to (or if you are not that brave write it down and give him the note before you walk out)

Spendless

iammumtoone wrote: »

How long before your treatment finishes?

I think it is unfair to doing anything beforehand for both of you, if he is not interested then he loses business and you lose a good therapist who was helping you.

I would wait until you are finished with him professionally and at the end of the last session ask if he would like to meet up with coffee as you have enjoyed his company whilst being treated, leave him your number and ask him to contact you if he wants to (or if you are not that brave write it down and give him the note before you walk out)

That's what I'd do. If you text asking him to recommend someone else, he might think you're unhappy with his work.

Anything else might put him in an awkward position.

System

He can't ask you ever, so it does need to be you. But if he asked you if you were single and you didn't say yes then you look like you're not interested so he can't do anything more. Must take steps to rectify!

As pointed out, he wouldnt have asked your relationship status if he wasnt interested.

Think i'd be tempted to book one more appointment and on my way out say "oh by the way, you asked me if i was single, well yes i am. You have my phone number"

Its down to you now. He showed interest by asking your relationship status, you didnt give it him at the time but you ought to now.

Smith6675

Thankyou for your reply. X

Smith6675

Haha ive had plenty of drs/ therapists/ medical practictioners in the past and ive fancied the pants off absolutely none of them!!!!

Smith6675

Think i'd be tempted to book one more appointment and on my way out say "oh by the way, you asked me if i was single, well yes i am. You have my phone number"

Its down to you now. He showed interest by asking your relationship status, you didnt give it him at the time but you ought to now.


THIS!!!!
Im very tempted!!!!!! Not sure im brave enough. Even thinking about it makes me feel sick!!!

Marvel1

Gloomendoom wrote: »

What if she gets a new therapist and fancies him more? The cycle could repeat itself ad infinitum.

Or him with another patient.

prosaver

he's probably had loads of women with a crush on him..
well u never know?

nice tune

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_Pnxl_hb20

tensandunits_2

Robisere wrote: »

From many years ago, but the principle is the same.

I had to enter hospital for an op, which although minor, involved a recovery of a few days. During that week, a stunning regular nurse was on my ward and I fell head over heels. I kept telling myself that it was a typical nurse-patient attraction that would disappear, but I knew that I really liked her and suspected she felt the same. On the morning of my last day, when she drew the curtains to change my dressing, I plucked up my courage and asked her out. "I thought you weren't ever going to ask!" she said.

You say this was many years ago. I would think this could get her the sack nowadays.

Primrose

Or wait until the end of your last appointment and say "Well now I'm officially no longer your patient, would I be breaking your Code of Practice to ask you out for a coffee?...... in which case I won't embarrass you by asking.
That shows you respect his professional position and gives him the chance to either decline gracefully, or accept your offer.