Asking someone 'out' when youre an adult and his job

izoomzoom

Perhaps you could text him asking him out for a coffee / finding / recommendation of an alternative 'practioner'.

Two birds ....

Fireflyaway

Go for another appointment and see what happens. Its probably awkward because of the patient / practitioner relationship. If this were me I'd casually drop hints about a film I really want to see or how there is a concert on in the summer and see if he takes the hint! If he asked your status he is probably interested. Alternatively find another practitioner then send a card to the guy asking him out. It won't be so embarrassing face to face and if he says no you don't have to face him again anyway. Good luck!

thorsoak

Why not just ask him if you could go out for a coffee without disrupting the patient/practitioner code of contact?

onomatopoeia99

Two possibilities:

You ask him out and he says yes. You need to find a new practitioner because code of conduct etc.

You ask him out and he says no. You need to find a new practitioner because it's now just too awkward.

So, find a new practitioner, and then ask him out. Sounds more simple than actually doing it though!


As for finding the words - yes, it is incredibly difficult to be the one asking, particularly if, like me, you are only interested in asking if you already know you like the person, which seems to be where you are right now. There is still an expectation by society generally, and a lot of women in particular, that men do the asking. The mindset I often heard was "well if he can't tell I'm interested and pick up the signals, then he's not what I'm looking for and I'm certainly not going to ask!"

PeacefulWaters

izoomzoom wrote: »

Perhaps you could text him asking him out for a coffee / finding / recommendation of an alternative 'practioner'.

Two birds ....

You know what, do this. It's simple.

Robisere

From many years ago, but the principle is the same.

I had to enter hospital for an op, which although minor, involved a recovery of a few days. During that week, a stunning regular nurse was on my ward and I fell head over heels. I kept telling myself that it was a typical nurse-patient attraction that would disappear, but I knew that I really liked her and suspected she felt the same. On the morning of my last day, when she drew the curtains to change my dressing, I plucked up my courage and asked her out. "I thought you weren't ever going to ask!" she said.

We went out for some months, unfortunately it did not go further. She was a divorced parent of a small son who obviously resented me, so I decided that I could not cause problems for her with the boy and we parted amicably. But the point is, that I managed to ask her out and I did get the positive response. My advice is to ring this guy after his work, tell him you are aware of the professional complications involved, but would really like to see him socially. If that means finding another practitioner, you are prepared to do that.

What can you lose? You are already considering another practitioner. If you find one, you can make that call, and you will not have any embarassment to face if he doesn't want to see you.

Go for it, lady!

justme111

Finish your treatment then text him or contact him through social media and write that you really liked him and wondered whether he would be interested to meet you for coffee. Easy.

Pop_Up_Pirate

Women often fall for their 'doctors, dentist, therapist' and convince themselves they are the best thing ever.
They 'get you'. They make you feel good. They make you look forward to the next session. They are kind, considerate and attentive and so on.

Personally, I would walk away and find someone that isn't ticking my boxes because they are doing their job.

Poor_Single_lady

I so want this to work out. But it will take some bravery.

He can't ask you ever, so it does need to be you. But if he asked you if you were single and you didn't say yes then you look like you're not interested so he can't do anything more. Must take steps to rectify!

But get a new therapist first and then be brave. Wishing you all the best. Isn't there a part of you that thinks he might have let you have his personal number for a reason?

Plus I'm single so I know it's not as simple as it sounds but if you don't act on it he could meet someone else and you will always be wondering what if...

And pop up pirate, I know what you mean but don't you think this sounds like so much more than the situation you are describing.

Smith Please go for it and then come back and tell us.

Gloomendoom

What if she gets a new therapist and fancies him more? The cycle could repeat itself ad infinitum.