My gf is dropping brands in the grocery shop. Whether she likes it or not

[Deleted User]

There is currently another thread running that is the complete opposite of this one where a partner has moved in with a very frugal sounding family and is causing them grief by expecting them to change to expensive brands of food and heating the home more than they normally do and having two baths every day etc. The two running in concurrence is a coincidence but it's the same problem from different ends of the spectrum!

monnagran

I think that both threads demonstrate how self-centred and inconsiderate some people can be.
In both cases someone has moved in with a partner and demanded that dynamics of the present set-up changes to benefit them.

In neither case does it bode well for the relationship. The basis of a successful relationship surely must be fairness, consideration for others, willingness to adapt to other people's needs and ways and, if necessary, to give up your own wants and habits for the common good.

The two threads are a great example of people who are not prepared to do any of these things. They would be well advised to live on their own and indulge themselves as much as their desires and their finances permit. It would save a lot of unhappiness all round.

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TightRob

I'm really not sure what anyone thinks I need to apologise for, but to keep the peace "sorry" etc

[Deleted User]

Sorry, not accepted because if you can't see why what you are trying to do is so wrong you'll never understand what we are trying to say to you. It's your life pet and your relationship so good luck with it all I rather think you might need it.

Robin9

TightRob wrote: »

I'm really not sure what anyone thinks I need to apologise for, but to keep the peace "sorry" etc

You really don't see the point do you.

Your apology is like one coming from a child who has been found out - completely meaningless.

Mojisola

TightRob wrote: »

I moved into my gf's house, I offered to do the weekly grocery shopping for her. She has lived on her own for 6 years so knows how much an average shop will cost her.

I have told her that she needs to double that weekly food budget and give me the money and I will feed us.

Goodbye the birds eye fish fingers that she likes for a quick tea on Mondays. Hello smart price ones put in the Birdseye box.

Goodbye pg tips. Hello basics bags in a tea caddy and the packaging carefully disposed of.

What else will I get away with? How much am I going To make each week?? :beer:

TightRob wrote: »

I'm really not sure what anyone thinks I need to apologise for, but to keep the peace "sorry" etc

Set out your intentions in a hypothetical case to your GF and ask her what she thinks of it.

Ask her what she thinks of someone who would do this to their loved one.

Pollycat

TightRob wrote: »

I'm really not sure what anyone thinks I need to apologise for, but to keep the peace "sorry" etc

If you don't understand why people think you should apologise, to say 'sorry' is an empty gesture.

candygirl

If you are actually for real, just sit back for a minute n think how you would feel if the tables were turned.You've admitted you're addicted to gambling.Imagine she was taking shopping money off you, n spending it on a shoe habit behind your back !

katkin

This poster is just winding us up. It's a waste of time to reply, he's obviously deriving some sad pleasure from this. Ignore him. If he's interested in old style principals he would participate appropriately.

Primrose

Time to stop fuelling his ego, I'm now OUT and have unsubscribed from this thread.