Neighbours over the road - Antisocial/illegal behavior - or just me being intolerant?

teddysmum

A comment about ball games in public places, from a police Q&A site https://www.askthe.police.uk/content/Q519.htm

Arleen

teddysmum wrote: »

A comment about ball games in public places, from a police Q&A site https://www.askthe.police.uk/content/Q519.htm

Yep, go to the police because kids play ball on the cul-de-sac of a street. Provide them with a park nearby, with goal posts, guaranteed that they will migrate most of their play there.

It's funny how on one side we want kids to not sit in front of PCs, and on the other, we get annoyed by kids playing outside. Look back into your youth times and how loud and obnoxious some of those games were. Nothing has changed that way.

Cakeguts

Arleen wrote: »

Yep, go to the police because kids play ball on the cul-de-sac of a street. Provide them with a park nearby, with goal posts, guaranteed that they will migrate most of their play there.

It's funny how on one side we want kids to not sit in front of PCs, and on the other, we get annoyed by kids playing outside. Look back into your youth times and how loud and obnoxious some of those games were. Nothing has changed that way.

I don't recall ever living anywhere where a neighbours' children jump up and down on the bonnet of their parents' car or climb over the car. This is the bit that I find odd. Ball games in the street and playing in the street I would have said was normal. It is the lack of interest of the parents in the children potentially damaging the car that I find odd especially if the damage would cost money to fix. So the car aspect of this I would not think of as normal behaviour.

Marvel1

Cakeguts wrote: »

I don't recall ever living anywhere where a neighbours' children jump up and down on the bonnet of their parents' car or climb over the car. This is the bit that I find odd. Ball games in the street and playing in the street I would have said was normal. It is the lack of interest of the parents in the children potentially damaging the car that I find odd especially if the damage would cost money to fix. So the car aspect of this I would not think of as normal behaviour.

As long as it not other people's who cares.

Arleen

Cakeguts wrote: »

I don't recall ever living anywhere where a neighbours' children jump up and down on the bonnet of their parents' car or climb over the car. This is the bit that I find odd. Ball games in the street and playing in the street I would have said was normal. It is the lack of interest of the parents in the children potentially damaging the car that I find odd especially if the damage would cost money to fix. So the car aspect of this I would not think of as normal behaviour.

You are drawing some very far-fetched conclusions from it. Namely that their parents show no interest. Not sure what you have to back it up, besides that their play disagrees with what you consider "good." Worse jumping on a car will do dent the body a bit, not any actual damage, and if you don't plan to sell your car, then small dents in the body do not matter.
Those are comments on par with saying that the adults there do not work because, well, because I think so! I imagine that going by my neighbors I don't work either because I work from home. Luckily they are nice people, not judgemental types.

amateur_house

I suppose it depends how heavily they are jumping

http://www.echo-news.co.uk/news/14255234.Driver_left_with___1_000_repair_bill_after_yobs_jump_on_car_and_damage_bonnet/?ref=mr&lp=6

I don't think I would like people across the street jumping on cars all day long

Cakeguts

Perhaps we should have a poll on who has neighbours who let their children jump on the bonnet of their cars. Then at least those of us who think that it is bad training for the children can find out where not to move to.

Marvel1

Cakeguts wrote: »

Perhaps we should have a poll on who has neighbours who let their children jump on the bonnet of their cars. Then at least those of us who think that it is bad training for the children can find out where not to move to.

New neighbours who may let them.

ThursdaysChild

Arleen wrote: »

You are drawing some very far-fetched conclusions from it. Namely that their parents show no interest. Not sure what you have to back it up, besides that their play disagrees with what you consider "good." Worse jumping on a car will do dent the body a bit, not any actual damage, and if you don't plan to sell your car, then small dents in the body do not matter.

I don't care if they damage their own car/bins/fences etc, but the issue I have with it is more the almost constant level of noise caused by doing that. They do seem to understand that they can't climb over my car for example (well... I've never seen them do that anyway! :cool:)

Actually I'm pretty sure the parents are aware (just due to the fact that I know for sure they are at home as I've seen them, must be able to hear it even from indoors) so I can only assume that they aren't concerned by it as they haven't really tried to stop the kids - maybe a half hearted "for ****s sake! shut up with that!" here and there, etc.

ThursdaysChild

It's all a bit confusing as the kids have almost always been polite when they've engaged with me directly e.g. apologising for kicking their ball into my car (and it seemed genuinely meant), asking me about the cats, and saying "excuse me" to get my attention and so on.

So it seems like they do have some manners and appreciation of how to talk to people! I haven't had any of the ***ing this, ***ing that that you seem to get from the "typical" people that I think some posters are referring to! They do say "***ing this and that" etc but not actually 'at' people, just talking amongst themselves...

BUT... it's as if their property is their own 'bubble' and they have no awareness of how making noise on their own land is audible to everyone else, and it seems like now their 'bubble' has extended to the public area (the road and pavements of the cul-de-sac) and our driveways etc.

Is it bad that I feel guilty when I genuinely need to get my car out and go somewhere and there are bicycles etc in the road, and they have to move them!