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Your views please! Re who really ruins a relationship?

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  • tensandunits_2
    tensandunits_2 Posts: 919 Forumite
    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    Marriage is a contract.

    It is up to the parties that made that contract to keep to the terms.

    No one else can break that contract other than themselves.

    By definition an affair is involving a third person to break the contract.
    It is not because things are difficult that we dare not venture
    It is because we dare not venture that they are difficult

    SENECA
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    tensandunits wrote: »
    By definition an affair is involving a third person to break the contract.

    That third person does not break the contract as they have made no contract.




    It is the behaviour of the persons party to the contract that breaks it.
  • tensandunits_2
    tensandunits_2 Posts: 919 Forumite
    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    That third person does not break the contract as they have made no contract.




    It is the behaviour of the persons party to the contract that breaks it.

    That still doesn't absolve them of responsibility for their own actions.
    It is not because things are difficult that we dare not venture
    It is because we dare not venture that they are difficult

    SENECA
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    tensandunits wrote: »
    That still doesn't absolve them of responsibility for their own actions.

    That was not your argument.

    Every one is responsible for their own actions but only the parties involved can be responsible for said breaking of marriage contract.
  • mark5
    mark5 Posts: 1,365 Forumite
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    I would say the cheating partner is in the wrong, the person they cheated with might be in the wrong depending on circumstances.

    Usually the affair will come after a chain of events further back in the relationship so the spouse might be to blame here as well.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    mark5 wrote: »
    I would say the cheating partner is in the wrong, the person they cheated with might be in the wrong depending on circumstances.

    Usually the affair will come after a chain of events further back in the relationship so the spouse might be to blame here as well.

    They may not even know!.

    I used to work in the insurance industry and one broker I used to deal with had a client who had two families, neither of which knew of the existence of the other.

    He had made provision for both of them in the event of his death.
  • tensandunits_2
    tensandunits_2 Posts: 919 Forumite
    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    That was not your argument.

    Every one is responsible for their own actions but only the parties involved can be responsible for said breaking of marriage contract.

    Legally or morally?
    It is not because things are difficult that we dare not venture
    It is because we dare not venture that they are difficult

    SENECA
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    tensandunits wrote: »
    Legally or morally?



    These posts are getting rather stale.


    Clearly you have a moral view point on this, others don't agree with you. How about don't push your morals on other people?
  • tensandunits_2
    tensandunits_2 Posts: 919 Forumite
    Guest101 wrote: »
    These posts are getting rather stale.


    Clearly you have a moral view point on this, others don't agree with you. How about don't push your morals on other people?

    I'm sorry if you feel that discussing a topic is pushing my views on people. In a discussion, everyone will put their own viewpoint across. Not everyone will say the same thing, - it'd be a boring old debate if we did.

    I note the question wasn't answered.
    It is not because things are difficult that we dare not venture
    It is because we dare not venture that they are difficult

    SENECA
  • mark5
    mark5 Posts: 1,365 Forumite
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    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    They may not even know!.

    I used to work in the insurance industry and one broker I used to deal with had a client who had two families, neither of which knew of the existence of the other.

    He had made provision for both of them in the event of his death.


    As I said might be in the wrong depending on circumstances.
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