Have you just never settled in a house?

Mrs_CP

Been in my current house for almost 26 years and have always hated it. Raised my daughter here, had good times and bad times but consistently have always disliked the area, probably because 26 years ago circumstances dictated where I lived, rather than it being personal choice. It has never felt like home to me whereas for my daughter it was the only childhood home she ever knew.


Fast forward to now and we are in the process of moving to a home we have chosen, in our home village where both me and my husband grew up. That WILL feel like home. We just have the upset of our buyer pulling out to overcome then we will move in and never EVER move again!!

fierystormcloud

I must say I find it very sad how some people have been in a house for 20-25 years ish, and have never really liked it, or ever really been happy there. For all that time?! I would have moved.

Yeah there have been a couple of places where I couldn't settle, but I only stayed a year or so. And I love where we are now. Great neighbours, quiet area, half hour walk into the town, bus stop 10 minutes walk away, not far to beautiful rural areas. (Maybe 10 miles.)

Yeah it's not uncommon to not be settled where you live, but it seems odd (to me anyway,) to hear someone say they have not been happy or settled in 20-25 years! That's a bit sad actually.

Although, having said that, one of my sisters lived in a house for 10 years where I thought she was always OK, and then she moved 2 years ago when her youngest left school. She sold up and went into private let as they didn't know where they wanted to live.

She is still in that private let, and says she has never been happier. Apart from the lack of security of tenure and higher rent, she absolutely loves it there. It's actually on an old council estate, and apart from the odd noisy chav and the odd burglary, it's lovely there. She gets invited to a party every other week, the pub is 10 minutes walk, the shopping precinct is 15 minutes walk, and the bus is 5 minutes walk. She likes it so much that she is waiting for a house to come up for sale (nearby,) so she can buy. (Her LL doesn't want to sell the house she is in now.)

I discovered several months back, that she was never happy in the 10 years she was in the other house (small cul de sac, suburb, all privately owned,) and she only stayed because the kids were at the school there. She said the neighbours were snobby, they thought they were something because they were all 'homeowners,' she never knew anyone's name except her immediate 2 neighbours, and there was no community at all. Most people seemed to work and the kids went to childminders or nurseries etc. The area she's in now is much more friendly.

hazyjo

Wonder how much of these 'unsettled' feelings come from feng shui, etc. I've always been a bit 'mumbo jumbo' on these things, but there is probably some truth in layout and positioning. Not sure about the whole dowsing rods/leylines, but I'd love to have sent them to my old Brentwood house to see what they made of it!


I reckon it was constructed straight over hell itself!


Jx

Davesnave

hazyjo wrote: »

Not sure about the whole dowsing rods/leylines, but I'd love to have sent them to my old Brentwood house to see what they made of it!
Jx

Dowsing works, but one doesn't have to believe in any supporting mumbo-jumbo. I can do it, and I bet most other people can.

I've no idea why it works and I don't care either. It found a water main for me and proved more accurate than the water company's map!

hazyjo

Davesnave wrote: »

Dowsing works, but one doesn't have to believe in any supporting mumbo-jumbo. I can do it, and I bet most other people can.

I've no idea why it works and I don't care either. It found a water main for me and proved more accurate than the water company's map!

Don't people use it to say there's a bad energy or flow with or under the house though? I believe the water bit, but not sure about how it affects the actual vibe in the house. Perhaps there is more to it!

Perhaps I should've looked into it more when at my last house - and indeed my next!!!!

Jx

Davesnave

hazyjo wrote: »

Don't people use it to say there's a bad energy or flow with or under the house though

Well, I know it's easy enough to detect overhead power lines with dowsing rods, but whether they might detect something much more subtle than 11kV is open to debate.

One certainly gets reactions where there seems to be nothing there to cause them, but that's maybe where the mumbo-jumbo starts!

Ed_Zep

Davesnave wrote: »

Dowsing works, but one doesn't have to believe in any supporting mumbo-jumbo. I can do it, and I bet most other people can.

I've no idea why it works and I don't care either. It found a water main for me and proved more accurate than the water company's map!

It's funny you should mention dowsing. I've always believed in "vibes" from people, places and yes, houses. Some houses just don't feel right even if they're nicely decorated. You know it when you walk in. It's interesting.

It's also interesting how someone else can have a completely different impression of somewhere. I love the vibe of London. I'd like to work there for a year but my friend cannot stand the place. Likewise I dislike the general location I live in, more about the people than anything else, yet he thinks it's great. It's a city in the midlands. I won't name it but it's the one associated with Robin Hood. Awful place!

Ed_Zep

hazyjo wrote: »

Wonder how much of these 'unsettled' feelings come from feng shui, etc. I've always been a bit 'mumbo jumbo' on these things, but there is probably some truth in layout and positioning. Not sure about the whole dowsing rods/leylines, but I'd love to have sent them to my old Brentwood house to see what they made of it!

I reckon it was constructed straight over hell itself!

Jx

I've always thought there was something to feng shui as well. The thing is, when you've learned something about it you start to see "bad feng shui" everywhere and it's like "oh they're selling the house, no chain, ah must be a divorce. Look at the where the stairs are. No wonder."

Dawning

I've never settled in my current house, been here about 9 years now.

On paper it should be great - good area, lovely road with pleasant neighbours, house appropriate size for me, manageable garden.

I've lived in a lot of different houses and two stand out as having had a warm welcoming feel to them.
I used to describe the sensation of walkng through the front door of one of those houses, it was almost as like being hugged by the house. I know how that must sound, :eek::rotfl: but my OH and my mum both felt the same thing about it. Visitors always seemed to relax as soon as they arrived, just a good feeling house.

The one I live in now, doesn't feel bad, it just feels a bit blah! I'm moving out sometime in the next few months.

Davesnave

Ed_Zep wrote: »

I've always thought there was something to feng shui as well. The thing is, when you've learned something about it you start to see "bad feng shui" everywhere and it's like "oh they're selling the house, no chain, ah must be a divorce. Look at the where the stairs are. No wonder."

Hmmm, your theory falters a bit on my house. They were divorcing, but it's a bungalow.....:huh:

Maybe it was the position of the loo relative to the 3 ley lines that converge here: https://www.tomscott.com/ley/