To Divorce or not Divorce...that is the question

heartbreak_star

Hippy or not, I'd be getting back on that pension scheme

HBS x

justme111

Why? Pension credit /state pension that the guy will get in old age without any pension schemes may be more than what he gets now.

Mojisola

I wouldn't rely on Pension Credit - it's being phased out.

justme111

This chap lives his life seemingly not relying on anything. There would be whatever assistance for destitute in old age and with his lifestyle now it looks like he is not going to experience huge if any drop of income then. When on pension board people state categorically how everyone needs pension it grates on me how they forget huge percentage of population on low wages/without employment that taking into account their expenses now will probably be better off on state pension than during their working life, taking into account no more child expenses or mortgage.

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

I wouldn't rely on Pension Credit - it's being phased out.

I wouldn't rely on anything for a retirement that's more than 20 years away, to be honest!

Dird

I would just do it now. While you don't feel that way now you could meet someone new in 5-10 years time and want to get married. At that point you may have no idea where your current-wife is living to finalise a divorce

System

Many years ago Mum applied for a credit card. She got turned down because the man she was living with had unbeknown debts.

When he was married before, he trusted his wife with the money he gave her to pay the rent but she stopped paying.

They separated.

Fast forwards and now my StepFather had married my Mum and she wanted a credit card but she couldnt because my StepFather had debts he didnt know about.

Primrose

Imagine a scenario five years down the road where you suddenlly and unexpectedly meet a new love of your life. Stranger things have happened! Untie the knot now and get your life tidied up.

solen

More importantly than the financial aspects, she is next of kin whilst you are still married and this could be an issue in medical situations.

Many years ago a friend had a very serious accident and they called his ex wife, they had been living separately for years, but never divorced. His current partner was not allowed in and it got to a point where the ex was asked to make a decision about switching off the machines. The current partner had to fight to be recognised and involved in the decision.

Fortunately he survived, got divorced and now happily married.

margaretclare

I haven't read through all the thread, just got back online after 3 days off.

Your marriage is valid in the UK i.e. it is valid in the country in which you were married. You can't just ignore it and say it didn't happen.

You can get divorced and that might be your best option.