Have You Thought About A SECRET DNA Test ??

Marvel1

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi

Thanks for sharing.

The girlfriend has to be awarded credit for coming clean after intercourse with another man behind her partners back. At that early stage of conception, if I was her other half, I could not care less if it was my child or the other blokes, I just kick her out and move on, good riddance is what I'd say.

I honestly and very passionately despise cheating, and that indeed is a fact.

To be honest the ex said she didn't have a choice and would have kept quiet, but due to skin colour.

Brightonsbest_2

cjdavies wrote: »

To be honest the ex said she didn't have a choice and would have kept quiet, but due to skin colour.

Hi


I still give this feeble minded deceiver credit for coming clean after being laid behid he OH's back as it was only a 50/50 chance that she'd be caught out, fact.

ATB and sweet dreams.

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

People with "trust issues" can't be helped by going to a "desert island."

I will agree with this. ^^^^

However, people with "trust issues" can't be helped by'sneakily' going through their partner's handbag and checking their phone behind their backs either.

I believe on another thread, several posters recommended you seek counselling for your 'trust issues'.

That may be a better way forward for you than creating polls on the subject of cheating.

FBaby

NB: " 50% that took the DNA were not the fathers."

This is something that puzzles me. If you are going to ask for DNA test, it is because you have some doubts in the first place. If you have some doubts, surely it is because when you look at the child, you see nothing at all of yourself/your family. How common it is that a child doesn’t look anything at all like their father’s side of the family? I can understand it better if the father has no contact and is only looking at picture but otherwise? My kids don’t look like me at all and never have, but still I could see within days/weeks of their birth that one had the definite shape of my eyes, and the other my hair!

On this basis, I would think that those deciding to go ahead with a DNA do so because they don’t see anything resembling them, hence the higher chance that the test come back negative. I therefore don’t find the 50% high.

seashore22

I don't think for a moment that the op has real trust issues, but he seems hell bent on making sure we do. Substandard trolling.

System

Have I thought about taking a secret DNA test? Yes often to check if my youngest daughter is really mine. I gave birth to her but she's 100% her Dad.

Pollycat

FBaby wrote: »

This is something that puzzles me. If you are going to ask for DNA test, it is because you have some doubts in the first place. If you have some doubts, surely it is because when you look at the child, you see nothing at all of yourself/your family. How common it is that a child doesn’t look anything at all like their father’s side of the family? I can understand it better if the father has no contact and is only looking at picture but otherwise? My kids don’t look like me at all and never have, but still I could see within days/weeks of their birth that one had the definite shape of my eyes, and the other my hair!

On this basis, I would think that those deciding to go ahead with a DNA do so because they don’t see anything resembling them, hence the higher chance that the test come back negative. I therefore don’t find the 50% high.

Exactly the point made by this poster:

rach_k wrote: »

From the link you supplied:

Nichola McChrystal, founder and scientific director at BioClinics Group, said: “The statistics are within the realms of what I would expect, due to the fact that I have worked in this industry for well over a decade. I would imagine that they would appear shocking to the general public.

“However, it is important to understand that the families approaching BioClinics for answers generally have good reasons for raising the question of paternity. [My emphasis]

Don't make the mistake of thinking that the 50% figure applies to the general population. The price of the test would probably put off people who are just curious - most people paying hundreds of pounds to check would be fairly sure there was another potential father out there, so it makes sense if around 50% of the tests confirm that the 'daddy' isn't the biological father.

I think the OP has read something (related to 'cheating' which he seems to have a bee in his bonnet about :whistle:) found an article about it and has misunderstood the whole thing.

tea_lover

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Several people I know have bought these DNA test kits just to be sure that they are indeed the daddy. The kits are on many chemists shelves and sell for about 30 quid and not sure re exact cost but another couple of hundred to find out if you are indeed the daddy.

Being the daddy does not depend on having contributed the initial building blocks.

Pollycat

tea_lover wrote: »

Being the daddy does not depend on having contributed the initial building blocks.

Indeed, tealover.

I had a Father (who did contribute to the initial building blocks) and a Dad who brought me up from the age of 8 and loved me and was loved in return.

Two very different things.

Marvel1

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi


I still give this feeble minded deceiver credit for coming clean after being laid behid he OH's back as it was only a 50/50 chance that she'd be caught out, fact.

ATB and sweet dreams.

I felt for the bloke as you wouldn't know until the birth, hard to determine if excited being a father or not until the birth.