Heartbroken

GeeBee38

tesuhoha wrote: »

If anyone read my previous post I just deleted it because I thought it was too distressing to be on this thread. I got myself very upset.

What I would say though is don't close your heart to the prospect of another cat. At this time you cannot replace the lost loved one but you could give another poor animal a much needed home and they would be a comfort and distraction for you.

Hi, i did read your previous post and i fully understand why you wrote it, it was very upsetting to read and i really felt your pain, please don't apologise, sending hugs to you and hope one day you heal

Lazarus_Blackstar wrote: »

Geez I so know how this feels. It hurts to the point where you can feel physical pain in your stomach and chest.
We lost our 1st ever furbaby girl 8 years ago and words could not describe how I felt. They truly do become part of the family and it's such a heartbreaking time when they move over to Rainbow Bridge. The pain & sorrow is unbearable.

I actually felt such deep sadness more than when my Granny passed away. I felt so guilty for feeling like that as I loved my Granny so much. But the feelings just overwhelmed me.
I literally spent 5 days on the sofa like a zombie wishing my baby was still here.
An over reaction to some maybe, but we all deal with grief in many different ways.

I, like yourself don't have children (can't naturally. )
But my cats really are my babies and they mean so much to me.
We now have 2 more furbabies which I truly dote on. I'm scared of that day which will eventually come in the future when they also cross over to the Bridge. They are both 8 but still doesn't stop me thinking about it.

Sending lots of cuddly hugs to you, I know you will be in great need of them right now. It's a distressing time and it will seem like you have a big hole in your life at this present time. It will get easier, I can't promise when, but one day that cloud will have lifted and your days will be a little brighter.

Much love. x

This is exactly how i feel, thank you and thank you all for sharing your heartbreaking loss with me, it does help

helcat26 wrote: »

I am really sorry to hear about your cat.
I hope you are OK and will get to a place where you can look at photos and remember good things.


I am a bit worried about Breadcat at the mo, so vets for us tomorrow. They don't just stick their claws in your lap these beasties, they take a chunk of your heart.

Hi, thank you for your kind words, i do hope Breadcat is ok, please let me know, sending positive thoughts xxx

GeeBee38

thriftyemma wrote: »

Sorry for your loss I know when our eldest cat went missing, it was the most heartbreaking few hours. And she was only missing for 5 hours! She's a daft cat who doesn't go outside. But one day she decided to bolt out the door in the middle of a thunderstorm. We searched everywhere, in a crazy panic. Finally found her shivering under a car, two doors down. Like I said, she's a daft cat, but we love her.
I know your darling cat felt loved and treasured through her whole life. The fact that you're so upset shows that you loved her, and that love will have been felt in everything you did for, and with, her.
Love and hugs. xx

Thank you, so glad she was found safe and well x

GeeBee38

toniq wrote: »

Geebee, so sorry to read this, always here for you

xx

Thank you toniq, that's really nice of you xx

GeeBee38

Well it be be a week today at 5pm that i had to say good bye to my beautiful girl, it's been a terrible week and it still hurts so much, i really miss her, thank you so very much everyone, it has been really comforting knowing that i have people to talk to

Yesterday i got a lovely sympathy card in the post from the vets, i burst into tears when i opened it, it was really nice of them, i didn't even know vets sent cards.

Thank you again xxx

Pollycat

GeeBee38 wrote: »

Yesterday i got a lovely sympathy card in the post from the vets, i burst into tears when i opened it, it was really nice of them, i didn't even know vets sent cards.

Thank you again xxx

I got a card from the guy at the cattery that my old boy went to, he used to go 4 times a year and he was the only person other than me & OH that Murphy would have anything to do with.
He was due to go in just a couple of weeks after he died and when I phoned up to cancel the booking, I was distraught.

GeeBee38

Pollycat wrote: »

I got a card from the guy at the cattery that my old boy went to, he used to go 4 times a year and he was the only person other than me & OH that Murphy would have anything to do with.
He was due to go in just a couple of weeks after he died and when I phoned up to cancel the booking, I was distraught.

Oh, that's really sad, so sorry to hear that, RIP Murphy xx

Smodlet

She knew, GeeBee. I am welling up reading this thread, such lovely people on here. "If you fall in love, sooner or later you are going to get your heart broken." Does this mean we should not fall in love? Of course not.

The third anniversary of our lovely, little Lisa's death has just passed. I carefully did not mention it to OH, nor he to me. I hope it had not occurred to him as she was her daddy's girl. The only times I have ever seen him really cry were when she became ill and after she died; I'm talking full on weeping.

She had a hyperactive thyroid gland which we decided to treat; only pills, thought we, not that bad for her to put up with and she was only 14. It turns out thyroid problems can mask the symptoms of liver disease and so it was with Lisa. From wanting to eat non-stop but otherwise seeming OK, she became listless, not interested in food at all and went downhill very quickly. She had several lots of steroids as they stimulate appetite and she seemed to perk up a great deal for a few days but then relapsed, just lying under a radiator, showing no interest in life. We knew when it was time to set her free.

We think about her every day, talk to her every day (I don't care how nuts that sounds) and her picture is the wallpaper on this here computer. We say she is kitten in charge of sunshine. On dull days, Lisa is having a day off. It helps us.

I know your little furry knew she was loved. Do you think she would have stayed to listen to you for hours on all those occasions if she did not love you, GeeBee? She did, and knew you loved her too.

HTH.