Inheritance

annandale

Having lost people really tragically and suddenly I'd rather have them around than a penny of their money.

I lost one relative to a massive stroke. Fine one day and dying the next. One to suicide.

Couldn't care less about money. It's people that matter because you never know the minute

FBaby

She might say that to your face, but I bet she says the complete opposite to her friends. I'm making an assumption there but I bet it's bang on

Indeed, your wrong about your assumptions. Not everyone expects their parents to pay things for them.

As a matter of fact, it's only now that I realise that my parents could easily afford to pay off my mortgage. That would mean I could reduce my working hours and have a much nicer work life balance. I bet if I asked them, they might even agree, but I would never ever do this because I have stopped seeing my parents as responsible for my life choices and well being since I've been 18.

I expect the reason they don't give you any of their money is the exact reason why you are posting here, it's because you think you are entitled to it, which you are not.

The other issue is what you would do with the money if it was given to you? Do you need money or do you want to splash it on luxuries? Again, why aren't you in a position to spend your own money on what you want, or make plans to do so?

-taff

You've said your parents don't need the money, the inference is that they should give you some of it. WHy?

My parents were/are fairly wealthy. I don't get given things from them, or at least not for a good amount of years because I'm an adult.When my mother died she left us a bequest. I was shocked, because I wasn't expecting anything, and I didn't want it. Nor did I need it because I had my own job, had bought my own flat and was doing OK for myself.

I always told her I didn't want anything when the subject of wills came up because as far as I was concerned, it was their money, and they shoud spend it on themselves. Why have money and not make your life easier, and she could certainy have benfited from private rather than NHS care at times.

I'd rather have my mother back than her money.

Gingernutty

Your mother's not dead.

There is no inheritance until she dies.

When she dies, whatever's left will be yours, unless she's left it all to the local cats' home.

She may well do that as all you seem to be interested in is her money and when she'll drop off her perch.

FatVonD

Just out of interest, OP, what would you spend the money on?

Would the sort of amount you suggested make a huge, life changing difference by, for example, paying off your mortgage?

AylesburyDuck

HeavyMetalFan wrote: »

My relationship with my Mother.
Mother's financial situation.
Mother going into a care home.
My entire personality just because part of me would like a share of £128,000 that someone didn't need. (She told my that by accident last week btw. I did not ask).

She's not done living yet, how the hell do you know she wont need it.
You have an over inflated view of self worth if you ask me.
Not a nice attribute!

Money_maker

HeavyMetalFan wrote: »

She has spent some of the money on me - mainly on things for my house which I didn't ask for and didn't really need but it is easier just to say yes. I would say this came to £2,500 to £3,000.

Apparently the new washing machine, taps and nearly new oven were goods you were absolutely delighted about at the time according to your diary.


Actually the OP seems to come across in previous posts as a decent sort, hard working and determined to shift his debts although no update if dec 2015 he was debt free.


This sense of entitlement is not evident before now so just wonder if the OP is going through a bad patch work wise or in some other way. Maybe this thread was just a way to let off steam?

HeavyMetalFan

Money_maker wrote: »

Apparently the new washing machine, taps and nearly new oven were goods you were absolutely delighted about at the time according to your diary.


Actually the OP seems to come across in previous posts as a decent sort, hard working and determined to shift his debts although no update if dec 2015 he was debt free.


This sense of entitlement is not evident before now so just wonder if the OP is going through a bad patch work wise or in some other way. Maybe this thread was just a way to let off steam?

Yes, debt free as of January 2016.

I did go through a bad couple of months early last year but it doesn't have any impact on this situation.

I had not given that much thought to the inheritance until people of parent's age were asking if I had been given any and were surprised when I said no.

HeavyMetalFan

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

She's not done living yet, how the hell do you know she wont need it.
You have an over inflated view of self worth if you ask me.
Not a nice attribute!

More assumptions.

gettingtheresometime

HeavyMetalFan wrote: »

Yes, debt free as of January 2016.

I did go through a bad couple of months early last year but it doesn't have any impact on this situation.

I had not given that much thought to the inheritance until people of parent's age were asking if I had been given any and were surprised when I said no.

Tbh it was rude of the people to ask - it would never occur to me to ask such a question