Sashybo - Back Again

sashybo · 14 July at 10:56AM

MIL's visit lasted for 3 days and was really hard work, she did play with the kids a bit but then just started following DH about and always wanted something to do. The woman can't relax! Trying to make conversation was also hard work as she is very awkward with us both.

DH was complaining that she was making comments about the kids behaviour constantly to him and implying we were bad parents because they weren't behaving. The kids were very overexcited because we'd practically just got back from our holiday, they were now on school summer holidays and their gran that they hardly ever see was staying with us.

I was just checked out, I was still so stressed after our holiday that I just couldn't be bothered with her nonsense. Then when she was leaving she was pressuring DH to agree to both her & FIL visiting at the end of September. DH really wasn't keen and I'd happily never see them again tbh but DH struggles to say no. I told him to remind her that the kids were off school on a long weekend then and she backpedalled a bit after that! I think we have successfully put her off.

The only reason she wanted that date is because FIL wants to do some sort of train trip that week and they could tack us on at the end of that. They never want to visit when the kids are off school though as they get fed up of them after 5 mins and act like we are terrible parents all the time because the kids make noise and watch tv or play on a tablet or switch sometimes.

Needless to say I was happy to go back to work for a few days. DH went back to work this week and is in a depression again about his shifts. I think he needs to go back to counselling and maybe back on his anti-depressants but that just gets more angry ranting if I suggest it.

I would like to run away please. Big sigh.

Willowtree222 · 14 July at 11:34AM

That sounds so stressful and not what you need at any time let alone a nice relaxing holiday. I hope you get some down time for you.

Sun_Addict · 14 July at 5:00PM

Your holiday tales bring back not so good memories of my kids arguing and Mr SA being moody on trips abroad. You expect kids to fall out at some point but add to the mix Mr SA who would without fail have at least one day where he was in a terrible mood for no particular reason. It’s horrible I’ve been there.

I bet you wish you could have a few days away by yourself to recover.

Baldybear · 14 July at 5:20PM

Didnt want to read and run. My dd sounds similar to yours, she is coming up 4 and the meltdowns we have, makes it hard to go out as sonetimes as ruins a day out, sympathies as its hard and wlmy dh and I have massive rows ovee parenting styles. Especially hard when you just want a nice family holiday, have learnt not to try and have too much expectation as then dont get too disappointed.

Re your dh would he cut off or have a longer break from his parents as that may help.him.as he seems to be in a viscous circle and seems happier when not.so much contact, again hard but at least you have the distance x

jwil · 14 July at 5:25PM

Sorry the holiday was tough and you had the visit afterwards to contend with as well! It's hard enough managing kids without trying to manage a grumpy DH as well.