Sashybo - Back Again

beanielou

I can’t believe that your DS is going to be 8! Happy birthday to him 🥳

jwil

Happy Birthday to DS!

sashybo

Thanks all, DS had a great day and was very pleased with his rocky road cheesecake. It was surprisingly easy to make. 

sashybo

DD did have a gum infection and got antibiotics last week but she has had a high temperature since Saturday night. Have had to keep her off school the last two days and she missed sports day which she wasn't too impressed about. Her gum has still been red despite the antibiotics so I called the dentist and had to take her up there again this morning.

Our options were to try more antibiotics or remove the tooth if I thought DD could handle the numbing injections. I went for the tooth being removed as DD is really brave and is good at dealing with pain. Poor thing cried through getting the injections (I would have cried too, the needle was pretty big 😦) but sat brilliantly getting the tooth removed. She was overall really well behaved and coped amazingly. I now owe her a polly pocket and a magazine and the tooth fairy is due to visit tonight! Hopefully her temp will drop and she can go to school tomorrow. I feel traumatised on DD's behalf but she doesn't seem too bothered.

So needless to say I haven't managed my run again, should be able to go out tomorrow after school drop off even if DD is still off as DH is off work for the next two days. I'm back at work on the days DH is off.

DH is taking DS to get his hair cut after school, DD & I are going to go into town with them to go and get a magazine for her.

Yesterday I finally got round to going to get my navel piercing bar downsized only for the piercer not to have any smaller bars. So I have to go back either at the end of this week or the start of next week. Typical!

beanielou

Poor DD.  At least it's done.

jwil

That cheesecake looks lovely!  Hope DD is improving

sashybo

Thanks both, DD was a lot better after getting the tooth removed, temperature dropped and she was able to go back to school the next day. She did get a post-viral rash over her face and upper body but it disappeared within a few days. Still impressed with how brave she was.

DH & I checked DD's ISA yesterday, it's a stocks and shares one and thankfully it has increased by £400 since we added the money 6 years ago. We've got a similar base amount of money for DS in premium bonds and have won £50 once in 3 years, we're going to move his money into a similar ISA. Hopefully both will continue to grow rather than lose money. It just means both of them will hopefully get a decent amount of cash at 18 but not a huge wodge. I think any further significant savings for them will be kept in a savings account in our names so we can give them something when they're older and less likely to go on a spending spree with it. 😂 We will have about £800 left in premium bonds which is joint money between them so not a huge amount but worth seeing if we can get a decent interest rate for it.

10 days to go until our holiday and we're all really looking forward to it, I'm hoping we'll get to relax a bit but obviously going on holiday with kids isn't very relaxing overall. I need to start looking at the packing and have bought packing cubes to try but am still dreading it.

DH is working nightshifts this week so his sleep pattern is all over the place. More annoyingly it means I can't strip the bed and get the sheets out on the line whilst it's dry outside because he's sleeping during the day.

I'm worried about DD having screaming meltdowns on holiday when she doesn't get her own way. She was screaming & hitting me again in the street this morning for not getting her jacket out of her bag quickly enough (that she didn't need because it was warm) then because it was the "wrong" jacket.

No form of discipline seems to work, she just loses it. She didn't get to go into town for her magazine last week because she had a major screaming fit and was hitting again just before we needed to leave. I told DH to go and get DS on his own and he took him for his hair cut and got him a magazine. I stayed at home with DD who was trying to attack me whilst she screamed then she stormed off to her bed and went to sleep. 

DD obviously still being very challenging with her behaviour, she also had a screaming meltdown at dinner last night because DS asked me to sit next to him and she wanted me to sit next to her not her dad. DH moved her round to sit next to DS because she wouldn't stop screeching and then DS started crying because he never gets to sit next to me due to DD's moods. DH then stormed out with his dinner plate to sit in the other room since "no-one wants to sit next to me anyway".  🤦‍♀️  Leaving me with two crying children and my dinner sitting uneaten. So that was fun. Both kids have been ridiculous recently with wanting me and not their dad for everything, they won't let him do bedtime stories either unless I'm physically not in the house. It's very frustrating as it means I have to do the whole bedtime routine alone even when DH is here and able to help.

Finally managed to get my bellybutton piercing downsized and it feels much better and not catching so much. I had a nice morning in Glasgow having a browse then had a mocha and a chocolate cannoli and played on my phone in the coffee shop for a while. It was very peaceful.

DH & I are going out for lunch tomorrow and my mum is picking the kids up from school and getting them fed and into bed for us. I'm back at work on Friday on an early shift so won't be out late but it means we don't need to rush back either.

I went for another run yesterday morning, still struggling as am so out of routine with it all but got it done. Then had my hair cut and had a relaxing afternoon until school pick up. Today all I've done is hang the washing out and then did my lash lift and tint so it's done before my holiday, this is my only day where I can relax without any appointments or having to go anywhere.

beanielou

Enjoy your lunch tomorrow 🤗

jwil

Hope you had a nice lunch!

Hope the clinginess is just a phase.  I find that when I'm here, I wind up doing everything.  When the kids are alone with DH, they get themselves organised, and do things for themselves.  I'm obviously a sucker!

sashybo

Been missing again for a while. 

Our holiday was a mixed bag - beautiful place, beautiful weather, nice hotel and food but the kids & DH were hard work. DS loved the plane and was brilliant travelling, DD was good until about an hour before landing when she started complaining about being bored and when would we land. Our coach transfer then took about 2 hours when it should have been 40 minutes so it was pretty late by the time we checked in.

The kids were nightmares for the first 3 days, DS continually crying and tired, not wanting to get up in the mornings (and we weren't keeping them up late apart from the night we arrived) and DD having screaming meltdowns whenever she wasn't eating or swimming! Both DH and I wished we hadn't bothered taking them abroad, it was so stressful. After that they calmed down a bit and we got into more of a routine with them by going swimming or to the beach in the morning then resting in the afternoon after lunch and going swimming again late afternoon.

DH actually stormed off in a huff a few times due to the kids behaviour, he was nearly as bad as them! He was getting so angry at them that I had to tell him to calm it because he was turning into his own dad, who is an emotionally abusive bully btw.  He said he had to leave before he said horrible things to them, I told him to think about what his dad would do/say and do the opposite but to stop being a pr***k.

I got really angry with him at the end of the holiday though as he was being grumpy/sulky again at the airport and the kids were fighting when DD hit DS (again) and DH grabbed her arm and shouted right in her face. It was horrible and she got such a fright. I told him it was disgusting behaviour and never to do that ever again, that he was turning into his dad and needed to have a good think about his own behaviour doing that to a 5 year old.

He was behaving really oddly for a lot of the holiday and showing some behaviour towards the kids that I really disliked. I think he put so much pressure on the holiday being perfect as it was our first family holiday abroad and our first time away in 8 years and then was disappointed and was taking it out on the kids.

I also think it brought back some bad memories for him of being abroad with his own parents when he was DS's age because they would just sit by the pool and drink and let him wander off on his own the whole time. The outlaws are always going on about how much they took him abroad as a child, almost bragging about it, but actually it wasn't much fun for him as everything was always (and still is) about them.

He was good with the kids for 80% of the time but he was definitely not himself and super angry. So it was not as great a holiday as we had hoped for.

DD was a nightmare on the plane on the way home because she was tired, she had quite a few tantrums, was kicking the seat in front then throwing herself backwards so rocking the seat back. It was so embarrassing and I wanted to throw her out of the plane myself. 

So we all arrived home more stressed than when we left and to add to the joy MIL had invited herself up to visit 3 days after we got back.