Sashybo - Back Again

DancingInTheRain

(Passes the earplugs and gin) Good luck! 

satchmo1

Do you praise DD when she has a good day at nursery? Maybe have a reward chart for both children? They can put a star sticker on the chart when they have been good. Maybe a moon for a full night in their own beds? This can reinforce good behaviour.

sashybo

Thanks all, glad I’m at work again today. 😂 

Satchmo1, yes we always say well done for having kind hands but a reward chart with stickers might be a good idea as well, they both enjoy stickers.

I’m having a nightmare trying to update my photo on my driving licence because my passport has expired. It costs £3 more to use a paper form than doing it online. I needed to get a physical photo so that cost £10 from a photo booth and I have to send the form, new photo & current licence by post. It can then take 3 weeks for them to send the new one. 

DH has been building a new play tower with a slide for the kids in the garden. We ordered it ages ago using some of their savings.

Think the outlaws have been annoying him by interfering while he’s putting it together. Also he has no doubt let his mum do the washing I asked him to sort out today. 🙄

sashybo

Well the outlaws visit didn't go very well, they were all over the kids for the first day to day and a half then were quite obviously bored of them and getting annoyed. Probably not helped by the kids having meltdowns because they were overexcited.

They had one peaceful dinner out of 3 and that was only because I took the kids up to bed. They demanded DH gave them their dinner straight away so they were all finished eating by the time I came back down! Then sat and watched me eat, so weird.

We ran out of wine on the last day as well - we don't really drink it and only bought 2 bottles for them. FIL was raging because he is basically an alcoholic, so DH gave him a beer. They had given us £50 towards food as they were eating at our house for 3 days but also expected us to buy wine and a bottle of whiskey for FIL for that. 👀 

They were supremely uninterested in our life, no real interest in the work we'd done in the house or garden and no offers of help in the garden either which is unusual, they at least usually help us out there. At one point on the last afternoon they were both sitting out in the garden on their own and all the rest of us were in the house. 🤷‍♀️ 

They again tried to bully DH into coming down in the summer with DS, no invite for me or DD! Again mentioned when I wasn't there, DH did shut them down straight away and said no.

FIL also upset DS by refusing to give him a cuddle which resulted in him coming upstairs crying. 😡 I was putting DD to bed and DS wouldn't tell me why he was upset. 😞 I didn't find out until the next day why he was upset. 😤 

Poor DH was a nervous wreck by the time they left, I told him next time they ask about visiting to put them off. I'd be quite happy to never see them again tbh and I suspect DH feels pretty much the same.

sashybo

In money news my smallest CC is now under £1k 🎉 and the garage conversion loan only has 4 more payments to go. 🥳 

DS's birthday party is in a couple of weeks so will have a think about what the £50 we've been paying out of each wage to that can go towards instead. 🤔 Possibly the new carpet fund. 🤔 The party is a week after his actual birthday so DS will practically have 2 birthdays. 😂 DH will make a cake for his actual birthday and we will buy one for his party, need to remember to look out the birthday candles and check my wrapping paper stash.

I have only heard back from 8 parents in DS's class confirming their kids are coming to the party with under 2 weeks to go. I don't know if this is normal or not! That means 14 people haven't replied. 😟 The class teacher has already sent a picture of the invitation out to the other parents as some children were saying they didn't have their invitations, DS adamant he handed them out to everyone. 🤦‍♀️ 

DS has a busy time coming up as he has his birthday one day then the next is the school family fun night, then the following day he has another class birthday party. Then the next week is his birthday party, I'm going to be in a heap with all the running about. 😢 

DH & I are going to York for a couple of nights for our 10th wedding anniversary mid June, we have paid for the hotel and train already and have saved up enough money for meals out when we're there. Looking forward to a short break without the kids, my mum will need a week to recover from having them for 2 nights. 😂 

The kids aren't back to school until next Wednesday so will need to try and think of how to keep them occupied. DH is working the whole time so just me on my own most days as well.

Have got 2 washings hung out so far today and a 3rd in the wm so will get it out shortly. I have to do the second coat of gloss on the cupboard door in the upstairs hallway but that might be tomorrow. I just have 2 doors and a stretch of skirting board to do now. Will then look at doing the gloss in mine and DD's bedrooms, I think we will need a new pot of gloss for that though.

Sun_Addict

What a nightmare visit from the outlaws ☹️ No wonder you’re glad to see the back of them!

beanielou

They just get worse 

Willowtree222

I don't think there are words to describe them. X

sashybo

Thanks all, the outlaws are strange people and seem to be getting stranger as they get older. I think they're in their own little bubble too much and are really not used to children at all, they just get annoyed when everything isn't the way they would do it.

The looks we were getting as the kids had meltdowns 😂 DH just said to me later if he'd done that at dinner he would have got a slap from his dad. 😳 It explains a lot really, the kids can't help it they just get overwhelmed sometimes. I mean listening to the kids screaming isn't my idea of a fun time either but shouting at or terrorising them into being quiet isn't helpful.

The outlaws thankfully didn't say much apart from saying to DD why can't you be more like your brother?! Umm because she's 3 & a half and he's nearly 6, she literally can't help it? 😖 Then DS had a meltdown later the same day. 😂 They didn't have much to say about that!

sashybo

So I had 2 appointments this week relating to my suspected prolapse. My first appointment was with a private physio and it was an hour long, she took all my history with childbirth, activity levels etc and then examined me.

She said it seems quite a mild prolapse and should improve with exercises and losing a bit of weight as it all puts pressure on the pelvic floor. I know I need to lose 2 stone and have done for a couple of years so will need to get my backside into gear and actually start eating properly instead of surviving on junk food and sugar.

She gave me exercises to help rebuild my core and strengthen my pelvic floor along with doing normal pelvic floor exercises. Also recommended doing actual exercise 😭 I've been so lazy for the last year and totally out of the habit.

I felt quite reassured after seeing her so feel it was £85 😱 well spent. I have downloaded the nutracheck app so that I can log what I'm eating and try to get into calorie deficit. Need to get back to a bit of Get Fit with Rick every day as well and a few yoga sessions a week.

The following day I had my video call with a gynaecologist but it was actually just a phone call. 🤷‍♀️ Anyway she was asking me pretty much the same questions the physio had and came to the same conclusion. Big 9/10lb babies and a forceps birth with the first didn't help my poor pelvic floor either. 

She has now added me to the waiting list for the women's health physios but warned me the list is long. Considering I waited nearly 18 months to have a 10 minute phone call with the Dr I won't hold my breath for a physio appointment!