Dads Funeral

peachyprice

Dird wrote: »

Why would you care? Feed my bones to my dogs for all I care

Why does being an atheist mean you wouldn't care what happens to your body?

I don't want my body to go up in smoke, that would be a complete waste, I also resent the fact that a doctor will personally profit from my death should I die in hospital. I want to be buried so that I can decompose and nourish the earth. Why should being an take that choice away?

indiepanda

peachyprice wrote: »

Why does being an atheist mean you wouldn't care what happens to your body?

I don't want my body to go up in smoke, that would be a complete waste, I also resent the fact that a doctor will personally profit from my death should I die in hospital. I want to be buried so that I can decompose and nourish the earth. Why should being an take that choice away?

What makes you think a doctor will personally profit from your death if you die in hospital?

Person_one

Keep_pedalling wrote: »

Atheism is not actually a belief system. It has no rituals and what happens to our bodies after death is not important.

The bolded bit is in contradiction to the first part of your post.

Atheism is not a club, the only 'shared' aspect is no belief in any deity. That does not preclude some individual atheists from still having strong feelings about what happens to them after death.

Keep_pedalling

Dird wrote: »

Why would you care? Feed my bones to my dogs for all I care

At least that would be a good use protein that would otherwise rot or be burnt. Zoroastrians would place their dead on towers to be consumed by vultures. Appeals to the bird watcher in me, but I don't think my local zoo would be too keen to oblige.

Lily-Rose_3

cjdavies wrote: »

No idea, but went to a colleagues months ago at a crem, the family wore normal clothes, his life was celebrated, no religion and even played rock music.

Gosh that's interesting to hear... Thank you.

Ames wrote: »

As I understand it, there's no-one at the Crem who does officating and things, it's basically just room hire for the service. Their job is the bit afterwards.

You (or the funeral director) arrange who's going to lead the service, just like you/FD organises the flowers and who will do any readings, and music.

There won't be anyone waiting at the crem to jump in and take over. By the time you reach the crem all the organising has been done, you turn up for your slot and get on with it.

Sorry if my talking about it in a matter of fact, nuts and bolts way offends anyone.

Not at all. Your post was most helpful. Thank you

Spendless wrote: »

My Grandmother has written her funeral wishes into her will. As has already been pointed out, funerals often take place before the reading of any will, so the person planning the funeral would have to a) know the deceased wishes and b) follow them through.

As it happens my Nan then developed dementia and is still alive aged 92 in a nursing home. When my Mum got POA for her she went and paid for a funeral plan for her and in that stated what she (Nan) wanted based on what Nan had stipulated in her will.

Thanks Spendless

Keep_pedalling

Spendless wrote: »

My Grandmother has written her funeral wishes into her will. As has already been pointed out, funerals often take place before the reading of any will, so the person planning the funeral would have to a) know the deceased wishes and b) follow them through.

As it happens my Nan then developed dementia and is still alive aged 92 in a nursing home. When my Mum got POA for her she went and paid for a funeral plan for her and in that stated what she (Nan) wanted based on what Nan had stipulated in her will.

Only in films are there such things as reading the will. Provided there is a will then it will be the executor(s) who arrange the funeral and they will know the contents of the will.

Mojisola

Keep_pedalling wrote: »

Only in films are there such things as reading the will. Provided there is a will then it will be the executor(s) who arrange the funeral and they will know the contents of the will.

Not necessarily.

The FD don't ask to see the will. If someone comes in with the right paperwork regarding the death and asks to arrange the funeral, they will be able to do it.

A family member could arrange the funeral but it could be a solicitor who is the executor of the will.

peachyprice

indiepanda wrote: »

What makes you think a doctor will personally profit from your death if you die in hospital?

Never heard of Ash Cash? They get paid for every body that they've certified that gets cremated.

They have been known to recommend to the grieving family that a cremation 'is best under the circumstances' as they did with my Nan, implying that the cause of death was best dealt with if burned, even though she had a burial plot.

indiepanda

peachyprice wrote: »

Never heard of Ash Cash? They get paid for every body that they've certified that gets cremated.

They have been known to recommend to the grieving family that a cremation 'is best under the circumstances' as they did with my Nan, implying that the cause of death was best dealt with if burned, even though she had a burial plot.

:eek: No, I hadn't heard of that.

PasturesNew

Yes, Ash Cash exists. The Dr, already paid a good salary, gets paid about £80-90 directly to themselves for signing the certificate. They go to work, they get that call out and go, they get their monthly salary AND they get paid their £80-90 or so. There was no need to pay them; they still get their salary. For many it's a 10 minute job to pop in up the road and just sign ....