Friends blowing trumpet

flea72

Its not rubbing your nose in it, its making conversation and them telling you about whats going on in their life. i take it you never talk about what happens at work, or what you do in your day to day life.

[Deleted User]

Instead of the quarterly trips around the UK, you seem to go on about which could be at least something...how about 6 months of saving to get on a plane.

Or tell folk you're high powered job doesn't permit you to leave the country! Or you are saving for the care home of choice when elderly

You aren't desperate until you've been bankrupt, had to resort to shop lifting, living in a cardboard box, driving around in a dodgy banger or been told your time is up before you even get to retire.

thorsoak

How do you know that they are not fulfilling a bucket list? That their times for travelling is limited? This is the second time that you've posted about this. It is eating you up and will destroy you - if you let it!

Why not come right out and tell them "just shut the f--- up about your holidays - we're sick and tired of hearing about them" - then walk away.

Will do you far more good than complaining about it.

FBaby

Why are you friends with them. I wouldn't to be friends with people who envy ate them inside so badly, they resented me for being able to enjoy the rewards or what I work very hard to earn.

Or ask yourself, if they never mentioned the holidays, would you be fine with it, even though you knew they were going to these fantastic places? If so, and you are good friends, just tell them, although the problem might become that they don't have as much to say and might get bored of just listening to what you are up to.

indiepanda

Jealousy is a very unpleasant thing and usually says far more about the person who is feeling jealous than the people they claim are "making" them feel jealous.

I wouldn't think my friends were being insensitive for talking about their boyfriend/husband when I am single and would rather not be or their new job or promotion when I've stayed the same grade since I joined my current company nearly 10 years ago. I do travel a lot and find my friends are really interested to hear about my trips - i.e. they ask me about them rather than me pushing the subject in that direction. If you are really friends with someone, you are interested in all their life, including the bits where they are doing better than you.

FBaby

I do travel a lot and find my friends are really interested to hear about my trips - i.e. they ask me about them rather than me pushing the subject in that direction.

I agree. OH and I are prioritising travelling with our disposable income, which is higher than most of my friends. They however always show an interest in our travels, even asking questions. After all, who say that they won't be able to take that same trip one day.

Similarly, some do activities that I would love to do and I do enjoy in listening to them talking about it. As see anything people do that I can't do as aspiration.

I always thought that was the basis of friendship, no envy, just pleasure with their happiness, and if some of it becomes the foundation for some dreams, then the better.

Lily-Rose_3

Hermia wrote: »

Or maybe they just love seeing the world. Not everyone who travels or goes out a lot is doing it to fill a hole in their life. Some people just enjoy living their life that way.

I don't think there is anything wrong with telling friends about holidays. I would think it odd if a friend went on a fabulous holiday and never mentioned it!

flea72 wrote: »

Its not rubbing your nose in it, its making conversation and them telling you about whats going on in their life. i take it you never talk about what happens at work, or what you do in your day to day life.

indiepanda wrote: »

Jealousy is a very unpleasant thing and usually says far more about the person who is feeling jealous than the people they claim are "making" them feel jealous.

I wouldn't think my friends were being insensitive for talking about their boyfriend/husband when I am single and would rather not be or their new job or promotion when I've stayed the same grade since I joined my current company nearly 10 years ago. I do travel a lot and find my friends are really interested to hear about my trips - i.e. they ask me about them rather than me pushing the subject in that direction. If you are really friends with someone, you are interested in all their life, including the bits where they are doing better than you.

All this ^^^ :T

I have a friend who lives in a million pound 600 year old house, and who popped to Lapland last week, and who had a wee trip to Frisco the other week to see her brother. She drives a £30K car too that's new, and she is a stay at home mum who has a rich hubby.

I'm not jealous. (Honestly haha ) I loved hearing about the lapland trip, and kept pestering her to show me her pics. And I cooed and gasped as I looked around her ancient house; it was fascinating. It has a cellar underneath the cellar, and you can't get into it; it's sealed up! :eek:

Then there's her ponies; she lets me ride them now and again, and they're gorgeous.

I have several friends similar to this, but don't envy any of them. Basically because I am happy with what I have. It's not a lot, but I am happy with it. I have a lovely hubby, a cute little 2-bed bungalow, warmth and food, an amazing daughter, (with whom I have a fantastic relationship,) a son-in-law to be and his lovely family, 2 gorgeous kitties, a warm safe home, an amazing family, woodlands and the river not far from me, some wonderful friends, and most importantly;my health.

I have also been to over 20 different countries in my lifetime over the years. Can't really afford it as much now, but it's OK, because I have other good things in my life.

Maybe you should be looking at what you have muscle750, not what you DON'T have. I wish you well.

LilElvis

I can't see when the jetsetting friends find the time to wind the OP up about their travels. In mid August they had just come back from a month in the Seychelles and then in the next 3 months they managed to fit in a 2 month cruise and a 3 week safari. Now they're back for a couple of weeks before heading off to Cuba. With all that travel the odd week or two back at home must be spent unpacking, doing laundry and packing again!

annandale

Stop being focused on what other people are doing. You've posted on other threads about things that upset you and it's all about what other people get. Bus passes, winter fuel allowances

Your posts are miserable. Let people get on with their lives, as someone else said it's way too short.

Life isn't fair for a lot of people. Lots of people don't have much cash,myself included

I don't spend my time seething with resentment over what other people have compared to me.

Rain_Shadow

greyfox wrote: »

Do you mean this one by any chance? https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5512813

No prizes offered for guessing who started that one, too!

I see that they were about to go on a two month cruise to the far east in mid august and have now recently returned from a three week safari in Kenya and are now off to cuba for four weeks.


I do wonder when the OP gets a chance to see them.


Maybe they are trying to get away from the OP?